Can't Finish In Condoms Lately - Any Advice?

[ExoticSpirit]

I seem to have a recurrent issue lately where I can't finish in condoms. It was only the last few girls this happened but I did take a few months break just before that. I can get into a few different positions with a girl but then when I can't finish, I'll start to lose hardness. I always tell the girl that it's okay even if I cannot seem to finish though.

I'm hoping that some of you have who experienced this and maybe conquered this same issue or any of the SPs here who might offer some expert opinions might help with some advice.

 

[ssj3]

Luckily I don’t have this problem but I have spoken to quite a few guys who do. They have not solved this problem but do partake in what Patron has said about CIM for their finish. The only problem is that not all SPs do CIM. Sometimes I come across some excellent SPs that I highly recommend but if she doesn’t do CIM they won’t see her.

 

[jalimon]

I am one of the dude SSJ is talking about As many others that I know I only see girl that do CIM now but do not always finish that way, it's a just in case

And my friend OP you are not the only one believe me! Right now I am on the verge of going for 90/2h meets only because 1h is often to short to finish. That sucks because of budget you know.. So I am worst then you!

Lily you are correct but I have yet to find an SP that succeeded at boob finish, it's not my thing in the first place.

What help me the most, and now I am not shy to ask anymore, is words. If it's your thing as well, tell the girl upfront what turns you on, what to say to you. How loud and often you want to hear it.
I still have images in my mind of girl making me cum in 5 minutes just dealing with my brain

Cheers,

 

[ExoticSpirit]

Thanks for all your suggestions. For condoms, I usually just go with whatever the lady has but perhaps I should experiment on my own with different kinds. I am also guessing that since this is so much psychological, instead of bouncing from new girl to new girl, I should stick with maybe 1-2 ladies who provide awesome service since repeated sessions will likely increase familiarity and comfort which in turn may allow me to let go easier.

 

[Halloween Mike]

I never finished in a condom... ever.

I go for CIM or COF when possible but when its not i have never seen an SP not allowing a good old COB. I just jerk myself on them...

To be honest most of the time when i cim , i do it myself, i mean i jerk myself in her mouth, because its easier and i like the visual as well. But some girls are very talented and i just let it go as she blow lol.

Honestly i don't know if its a case of just not finding it pleasurable enough to come in the vaginal penetration or mental barrier that i feel its a waste of my load lol.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

I think you will be surprised at the differences in condoms. I have never seen a provider who brings good ones. Also, no one asked the obvious question of whether you are using viagra? It keeps a guy hard.

I have been using 1/3 Viagra tablet and after awhile, I still lose hardness - maybe because of the frustration of no coming. I do not have this issue when myself so I know it's mostly psychological combined with perhaps the style of masterbation I've been use to.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

I would so far not feel confident enough especially with a new SP to do it myself on her. So maybe this is an option after repeated sessions with a particular SP.

 

[jalimon]

Patron from what I know Viagra is even worst in regards to finish. That is what I heard, not sure about it. But at least your hard

I also have started to bring my own condom quite more often. True that I buy better ones. It makes a difference and I am sure that way they are long enough! Hey not chilling for myself here it's just that a condom just half an inch too short is really bothering as you constantly check to make sure it has not move down... which is enough to prevent proper finish.

Cheers,

 

[jalimon]

I have been using 1/3 Viagra tablet and after awhile, I still lose hardness - maybe because of the frustration of no coming. I do not have this issue when myself so I know it's mostly psychological combined with perhaps the style of masterbation I've been use to.

Exotic believe me I overcome the frustration of not cumming, I do not care very much anymore. Tell the girl up front what interest you is the ride Me like I wrote I settled most of my problem with words and/or better by going to unicorn haha!

Cheers,

 

[ravenazrael]

Being there... I think that after the first time it happens you start worrying more which is what actually contributes to the issue and becomes recurrent.

Have you tried just give a fuck and not to worry? Or book for 2 hours... that at you won't feel the pressure to finish in 50 minutes

 

[luvdozer]

Yeah this is me. I use cialis to maintain hardness and to be able to get hard twice in a day. However, with most girls I can't finish with condom on. It happens sometimes, but it's rare. Like jailmon and others, I stick to girls who offer CIM. If a girl does not offer CIM, that's totally fine, but she won't be a good match for me because it is just about my favorite thing.

That being said, I do need to try shopping for super sensitive condoms.

 

[starry]

Everybody is probably different. I am occasionally prone to ED as well as to retarded ejaculation. But I noticed that it happened only with some SPs and not with others. This is why I pretty much limit myself to between 4-5 regulars who know how I'm wired instead of playing the field and trying newbies all the time. There was a time when a little foreplay and any kind of encounter worked just fine, but with age comes changes. I need my partner to be affectionate, so its gotta be GFE or its a no go. And she has got to be tight and her bj cant be soft etc...My SPs all fill the bill and thats why I see them all the time instead of having to work to get on the same page with girls I dont know who may or may not work out. I really dislike being disappointed and wasting what should be quality time.

 

[clark_larson]

I had the same problem, stopped watching porn, problem gone.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

Being there... I think that after the first time it happens you start worrying more which is what actually contributes to the issue and becomes recurrent.

Have you tried just give a fuck and not to worry? Or book for 2 hours... that at you won't feel the pressure to finish in 50 minutes

Yes I should also look for longer sessions. When I travel to other countries to monger or in Ontario, it's usually 30 min sessions I take and maybe they are way too short causing me to think about time too.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

Everybody is probably different. I am occasionally prone to ED as well as to retarded ejaculation. But I noticed that it happened only with some SPs and not with others. This is why I pretty much limit myself to between 4-5 regulars who know how I'm wired instead of playing the field and trying newbies all the time. There was a time when a little foreplay and any kind of encounter worked just fine, but with age comes changes. I need my partner to be affectionate, so its gotta be GFE or its a no go. And she has got to be tight and her bj cant be soft etc...My SPs all fill the bill and thats why I see them all the time instead of having to work to get on the same page with girls I dont know who may or may not work out. I really dislike being disappointed and wasting what should be quality time.

Yes this is well put. Time to find myself some regulars and just stick with them until I'm confident enough to explore the field again. Thanks

 

[cpp433]

I was having the same issue, an sp, i think it was lacey, rub a little lube on my whole cock, then a drop or 2 into the resevior in the tip of the condom b4 i put it on and it worked, used this tactic ever since with great results

 

[hungry101]

I hate condoms too so I have a poster of Terrell Owens hanging on my wall. This serves as a reminder that the two of us have something in common: We both prefer to fuck without wearing a condom. The difference is that in spite of my aversion, I have religiously used condoms for intercourse nearly my entire hobby career. As a result, unlike T.O., I do not have a handful of bastards running around and I don't have to pay anything close to the 1/2 millon$ per year child support.

Try this: When a trip to Montreal or any hobby destination is imminent, the night before, put on not one but two condoms just before going to bed. Upon arriving in Montreal and after that first girl crosses your threshold, Pull one off. So, unlike everyone else, when a SP arrives, instead of putting a condum on, you're pulling one off. The sensation is so good that you'll fuck like a madman.

BTW - I also have a poster of Magic Johnson next to my poster Terrell Owens. Both men serve as a reminder to wear the damn condum for all my dates but for different reasons. Both are good. Either one is enough.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

Many good things have been said already.

I would suggest also to evaluate how often and most how hard you are handling your "junior" while masturbation because yes, you can desensitize yourself at the point that the condom "is a too big barrer" or "the vagina is not enough tight" and well, it shouldn't in fact. It's just those who masturbate too ruff and very tight with their strong man grip have create habits. That's the same with ladies that used very strong vibrating toys, when they arrived to play with a penis, no competition possible and the natural stimulation isn't any more enough.

People, don't be desperate, because Good news, it's reversible! You can get back your prime sensibility by at first, stop masturbate few days..... and after, caress yourself more gently with less pressure.

I told that to many gentlemen and well, I made very happy men

Many thanks for this wisdom! I never thought that a similar issue can happen with women too.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

For the benefit of others who might be suffering from the same issues I did (not being able to finish in condoms and/or loss of erections), I thought that I would report on my progress. Since the last messages, I decided to make some drastic changes which implemented many of the suggestions some of you kindly offered.

These were the things I did and my comments;

1) Stopped masturbating entirely - this was pretty easy since I saw a bigger goal but I have to admit it is something I do miss when in between SP sessions

2) Bought Lifestyle Skyn Elite condoms which are the thinnest ones in that line - I would bring these to sessions and made sure SPs okayed this in advance or I will not book them

3) Took 1/3 of 100 mg tablet of generic Viagra I bought during holiday in St Maarten before the big hurricanes destroyed that island

4) Decided on seeing just 1-2 milf SPs instead of bouncing from new girl to new girl

So with the steps above implemented, I visited one nice milf SP and to my pleasant surprise, everything worked fine. I saw her again 2 weeks later and again I managed to finish with the Skyn condoms. However, I kept both sessions rather simple with just two different positions (missionary and doggie).

For my third visit with this same SP 2 weeks later, I tried to ween myself off the generic Viagra and suffered a setback. I did get hard with her bbbj but when she was fiddling around with getting the Skyn condom out of the wrapper (since its wrapper is a bit touch to open), I lost my erection and never recovered during the session.

So lesson learned from that setback was that I should tell the SP to get the Skyn condom wrapper opened before our fun even starts so we don't waste time fiddling with it. I also learned that it might have been premature for me to take myself off the Viagra entirely.

Before repeating with this same SP, I decided to try another milf SP less than a week later just because I was eager to try again and this SP was working closer to my location.

At this fourth session but with a different milf SP, I went back on 1/3 tablet generic Viagra and fortunately this girl was okay with me bringing my own condom and agreed to get it opened in advance of the fun. After her bbbj getting me hard, she slipped on the Skyn pretty quickly. I decided on just missionary and the session was a success in terms of finishing in the condom.

So looks like I'm back on track with my progress and plan to return to the first SP one more time this month before the holidays. But I've come to realize that I might have to be dependent on the Viagra for a bit.

I'll plan to continue with my strategy with all the steps above with the first SP since I do like her a bit more than the second one. Maybe after 1-2 more successes with this one, I'll do some limited venturing to try 1-2 other SPs but using the same steps after the New Year.

One thing I do have to figure out is where to get more generic Viagra when I run out - if anyone has ideas, please advise.

I hope others who have the same issues will benefit from my experiences so far. Again thanks to everyone who contributed to this thread so far.

 

[kabukicho]

try not masturbating for 30, 60 days. theres the whole 'nofap' forums where you resensitize yourself.
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