There are 2 types of chemistry. Sexual and compatibility. Sexual is physical and mental. Compatibility is as you say exchanging words.
I think they sometimes overlap. The best chemistry overlaps. But since the relationship is with professional from the SP perspective, I think you will get the most chemistry from girls who like what they are doing. I have met several in Montreal. They are sensual and imaginative. And they like turning guys on in general. They are special breed. But there is sometimes where there is a chemistry which involves 2 people who just happen to be SP and client. I have experienced it a few times. It can be quite nice.
Yes. And the older I get, the less I really understand it. It might be pheromones. It might be the subconscious. Associated memories...
It could be a mood. Whatever it is, when it is working for both parties, WOW! And when it is working in my 'head' (well, that's why we say the head is the biggest sex organ...but I usually notice it in the other head too....), and she at least does not disturb it, still, I think with some situations....pretty WOW!
Seen some beautiful girls, some well reviewed here, ... did not do much for me. Not the fault of the girls, but of the chemistry. IMO.
And, as suggested, 'chemistry' has other factors too: stress, lack of sleep, too much to eat, too tired, too much booze, nervousness (same as stress??), etc, etc.
If you mess with these basics, you make it harder for the chemistry to happen.
Two things to bear in mind:
For most SPs, the first meeting is stressful. Most have had a least one bad experience. And each new experience could be that bad one happening again.
(I hear that most experiences are pretty good, at least. I think I believe that.)
Anyway, she is stressed: 'what am I getting into?'
So, the 2nd session is usually better for her. A good reason for us to repeat.
Similarly, she also is looking for chemistry, and it 'happens' for her too. (Sometimes she thinks she knows 'why' or 'the type', but I think for her too, she is often surprised.
It is always appealing when someone honestly desires you. Few things are sexier.
I think if I really understood this mystery, I could make billions of $. As it is, it totally fascinates me. Well, and women do too. Women are great, in so many ways.
Men are not so bad either, but women to me are more beautiful in so many ways.
Regards, H
I remember the first time I met her, shy and standoffish but beautiful which is probably what made me come back the second time. Our relationship is purely business there is not nor will there ever be anything beyond and I am glad of this. We exchange gifts on our birthdays and a small gift each at Christmas. I always stay with her for a minimum of 1 hour during which we talk, joke and poke fun at each other. We have come to know each others likes and dislikes sexually and as a result have a great time together. I am a 1 SOG guy so the time spent is more about enjoying the time with someone I truly enjoy being with, not just the sex.
