Could you LTR date a SP?
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I can neither confirm nor deny what I do for a living at this time. Let's just say my job does not pay me enough to enjoy the Montreal Hobby scene as much as would like to. But I do love swimming pools.......... especially the ones with European bathing!
while growing up i never considered it. however, as my life took shape over the years it seems the only girls i date are strippers/sp's.happygolucky said:
why?
as it turns out it has a lot to do with scheduling. i'm a night person by nature, and i got tired of wanting to take trips somewhere in the world on relatively short notice and the "normal" girl not being able to go... school, job won't give her too much time off, bad timing during retail holiday season, busy in court/trial, dr's pulling long shifts and covering for others, teacher's schedule, etc.
when the typical holidays roll around their days off are already allocated to family events... xmas, t-giving, easter, etc.
- dated a teacher for a few years, which meant i'd have to wait until summer time for her to have any 'real' time off. i'm not the type who likes to wait a full year every year to go somewhere.
- dr's/lawyers only get a couple few weeks off each year (unless i'm going to date an older woman who has accumulated 2 months off after 20 years of working, which would make her close to 50... ack!)
- girls in retail? forget it. worst job for wanting frequent time off.
- office type jobs? not much time off given to most workers. usually only 2 weeks for the first 5 years.
- self-employed professionals? shit, everyone is too scared to leave their biz for awhile fearing it would collapse if they aren't around.
so what's left for this spontaneous itinerant?
After a month, I am very happy with this poll. It seems that Merbites are more open-minded than I thought they were, and way more open-minded than normal civies. I am also glad it turns out that only 14 out of 36 people could NOT LTR date a SP!
Thanks to all of your insights, I am slowly changing my views on dating in general......... and if I lived in Montreal and met a SP that I truly clicked with, maybe I could LTR date a SP? The important part is LTR, being single, I have no problems dating anyone for a few dates to find out if we really click, but after the excitement of the newness wears off, could I get by my own mental hang-up, to understand & believe her when she says it's only a job...... and that it's just for the money? It has not yet come up and I do not live in Montreal. So this poll was just for fun.......... but I am coming back to Montreal next month for a week and I am planning to looking into what it would take to move here. I also have a planned 4 weeks off in May/June to stay in Montreal to enjoy SP's & the F1............ maybe the poll was not just for fun?
Thanks to all of your insights, I am slowly changing my views on dating in general......... and if I lived in Montreal and met a SP that I truly clicked with, maybe I could LTR date a SP? The important part is LTR, being single, I have no problems dating anyone for a few dates to find out if we really click, but after the excitement of the newness wears off, could I get by my own mental hang-up, to understand & believe her when she says it's only a job...... and that it's just for the money? It has not yet come up and I do not live in Montreal. So this poll was just for fun.......... but I am coming back to Montreal next month for a week and I am planning to looking into what it would take to move here. I also have a planned 4 weeks off in May/June to stay in Montreal to enjoy SP's & the F1............ maybe the poll was not just for fun?
I will go with this one:
(x)I honestly don't know either way...
Deeply inside of me, I honestly believe that this my fantasyland and
would do nothing to fuel any relationship with gems of my fantasyland.
But I can't say Never..because we never know ->
in the past, I was certain I would have never shared long term intimacy with
an sp...and yet, it happened: little by little, eventhough I didn't want the relationship to be serious, we started travelling together/ then discovered lots of common fun and interest...and slowly but surely, it got into more serious affairs. So, you just never know.
(x)I honestly don't know either way...
Deeply inside of me, I honestly believe that this my fantasyland and
would do nothing to fuel any relationship with gems of my fantasyland.
But I can't say Never..because we never know ->
in the past, I was certain I would have never shared long term intimacy with
an sp...and yet, it happened: little by little, eventhough I didn't want the relationship to be serious, we started travelling together/ then discovered lots of common fun and interest...and slowly but surely, it got into more serious affairs. So, you just never know.
Honesty
Thanks M_M01, I think for the most part this how I feel too........ without the experience of a LTR with a SP. I am not planning to seek out anything other than a great session with a SP.......... but I have been told that dating a SP is very rewarding in ways that I never considered, if I can just get past my own limitations and mental hang-ups. And yes, none of us really knows what the future holds for us.
montreal_monk01 said:
Thanks M_M01, I think for the most part this how I feel too........ without the experience of a LTR with a SP. I am not planning to seek out anything other than a great session with a SP.......... but I have been told that dating a SP is very rewarding in ways that I never considered, if I can just get past my own limitations and mental hang-ups. And yes, none of us really knows what the future holds for us.
on the Verge of Retirement
I can not speak for everyone but I can speak up for at least three guys that I have encountered this year.
I have been working as an SP for a couple of years now and have met some great people.
Some who were fascinated by the profession some who relied on it when needed and believe it or not some one have turned to it as a means of finding that special person to hopefully engage in something more meaningful.
Face it this is still the easiest way and in some cases the fastest way to meet a woman.
I have, in the past year been dating a dentist that I had met in one of my trips to Chicago.
He was understanding and of my work even after a year of dating showed no signs that it bothered him.
There has even been talks of marriage, but i did not find it was the right time for it.
On a more recent trip, I encountered a bodybuilder that I had a little fling with in Miami this summer.
I had a wonderful time and after coming clean as an SP on the first date he got down on his knees and proposed by the second.
Just this past month, I encountered a older gentle man on the verge of retirement who was just taken away and decided to to stay working in order to support me and our new found relationship.
This American millionaire has already introduced me to his kids, his colleagues and has asked my hand in marriage.
Obviously there are men out there that see past the whole sleeping with guys thing and do not have harsh judgement on the profession.
I think it takes a certain open minded and confident individual to truly understand it.
and announcing my retirement as an SP.
So, do these things happened only in the movies, I am living proof that it does not.
Thank God!!
If it was not for those guys, i would not be moving to my new home in L.A.
Where do you think movies get there ideas any way
I can not speak for everyone but I can speak up for at least three guys that I have encountered this year.
I have been working as an SP for a couple of years now and have met some great people.
Some who were fascinated by the profession some who relied on it when needed and believe it or not some one have turned to it as a means of finding that special person to hopefully engage in something more meaningful.
Face it this is still the easiest way and in some cases the fastest way to meet a woman.
I have, in the past year been dating a dentist that I had met in one of my trips to Chicago.
He was understanding and of my work even after a year of dating showed no signs that it bothered him.
There has even been talks of marriage, but i did not find it was the right time for it.
On a more recent trip, I encountered a bodybuilder that I had a little fling with in Miami this summer.
I had a wonderful time and after coming clean as an SP on the first date he got down on his knees and proposed by the second.
Just this past month, I encountered a older gentle man on the verge of retirement who was just taken away and decided to to stay working in order to support me and our new found relationship.
This American millionaire has already introduced me to his kids, his colleagues and has asked my hand in marriage.
Obviously there are men out there that see past the whole sleeping with guys thing and do not have harsh judgement on the profession.
I think it takes a certain open minded and confident individual to truly understand it.
and announcing my retirement as an SP.
So, do these things happened only in the movies, I am living proof that it does not.
Thank God!!
If it was not for those guys, i would not be moving to my new home in L.A.
Where do you think movies get there ideas any way
Brazillan Berry, we all deserve to be happy and I am glad that you have found so many understanding open-minded men. To me it does not matter which man you retire for or even if you retire at all. It is just nice to know that you were honest with all of the men in your life. Thank you for posting your side of the story. Good luck in your retirement.
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