Dating And Age Difference?

[Jaz]

Hi,

I've turned 50 recently but I look young and women half my age find me cool. Is it unethical to date younger women?

Appreciate your feedback!

 

[Flyingby]

Considering you are paying these women. Of course they find you cool
Also cool is definitely not a thing anymore. So you have some work to do

 

[DetectiveDavidMills]

There is a similar thread

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/normal-dating-true-love-after-years-of-hobbying.234074/

 

[LC18]

Is it unethical to date younger women?

I am not your mother so I can’t tell you what to do. I personally don’t think it’s weird but it depends on how young we are talking. My hard limit is 18-19 because why would you have something in common with someone that just graduated from high school? Ask yourself some serious questions if you do.

To me it has always sounded like straight manipulation, preying on someone who has no life experience is ultra bizarre.

You’re 50, dating someone half your age isn’t that strange. Looking younger doesn’t change much because you’ll want to connect on more than just attractiveness. I always assume that these kind of relationships have an expiry date though, one of you will grow out of it if you will…

Date and fuck all the 20 something year olds you want (and that want you back)

 

[Fradi]

I with to the Philippines in April to spend a month there all the women I was with were 21-29 I’m going on 49 next month. Most of them were free but I help them or showed them a great time. Age is a number I try to enjoy life to the fullest. For 20 years I was married one woman in all those years. Now I’m single I’m looking for someone special to share my life with. But I not going stop living because of someone age. When I was 23 I was in relationship with a woman 47 years old but I wanted children I will always remember that year.

Did any of them ask you to bring them to Canada by any chance or hint at marriage lol
I think you need to grow up these women may be younger in age but they are far more mature.

 

[Flyingby]

I with to the Philippines in April to spend a month there all the women I was with were 21-29 I’m going on 49 next month. Most of them were free but I help them or showed them a great time. Age is a number I try to enjoy life to the fullest. For 20 years I was married one woman in all those years. Now I’m single I’m looking for someone special to share my life with. But I not going stop living because of someone age. When I was 23 I was in relationship with a woman 47 years old but I wanted children I will always remember that year.

They see a 49 year old there for a month. They know you have some money
Basically you took advantage of their situation

Have yourself checked for something. 12 girls no condom.
Please review the girls you see here ao I can stay away from them.
Your flex is worth shit

 

[Flyingby]

Not flexing just sharing I was on the hunt for a wife

Naw. You made them think you were there for a mail order bride.
But you were there to take advantage of them

 

[Rebaynia]

Hi,

I've turned 50 recently but I look young and women half my age find me cool. Is it unethical to date younger women?

Appreciate your feedback!

Half your age, I can't really say much, half is 25. At least the brain has fully developed. School should be done, and startting into a career. The creepiness kind of sets in if you knew them as children, and/or if you prevent them from their natural life progression to be fast forwarded to the stage you are at life.
Ex: her plan, focus on work, just finished school, married by 30, kids after marriage,
Your plan, you've waited 30 years already, and are already 50, don't want to wait till you're 55 before having your first rugrat. Marry her ASAP, to fast track her waiting plan. Get her out of the partying life, and home with kids, never mind it interferes with her career plan as well, preventing her from developing a professional reputation before needing to give it all up to be a stay at home mom.
(It is an average example of mindset, not saying that it is yours, and not criticizing them or you either, we all live life our way and shouldn't have to feel judged for it when it is amongst consenting adults.)

There is also the girls who truely do like an older man, call it daddy issues if you want to give it a title, but it doesn't have to be viewed as a bad thing, could just be they like older men with no reason, and well, of course they are looking for the cool dad type, they want a man who they hope will take care of them and protect them. Not their dad, but someone who makes them feel safe like a parent does, or should. I admit I fall under this myself, just not as wide an age gap, he's 7 yrs older.

LoL. I get what you mean by they find you cool. Do keep in mind that is our word and says how we see they see us. (Yes I have reasons I say us, I have life expierience stories, being the cool-mom, keeping in mind next line is not something i would say in front of them.)

And now a comment that would make my kids cringe in embarrassment. : You have RIZ with the young ladies, (If you cringed, keep in mind that just shows you, we are in different places in our lives to them.) you are accomplished, and are interesting to them. Are you able to keep up with the social requirements a lady in her 20's often requires of her partner? Or will you require her to miss out on living her youth, and grow up to your stage in life?

 

[Jaz]

Or will you require her to miss out on living her youth, and grow up to your stage in life?

Hi!

Thanks for your reply. Kids would be nice but I don't want to rush anyone through their youth. I'm at an age when sitting with my dog is the best thing in the world. I don't want to go to every concert/event. I don't want to rain on anyone's parade.

I would have had kids a long time ago, but I got caught up in a career and just thought about advancing and salaries. I wouldn't change it, but I do like the family life. I guess age isn't as important as meeting like minded people. There are women of all ages who would like a family. I find it hard to meet someone older than 30. It feels like many are in serious relationships.

I don't think I give off cool dad vibes but i can't tell. I have never dated any women who looked at me as a mentor or a protector. When that happens, I think there is a power dynamic which shouldn't be taken advantage of.

Date and fuck all the 20 something year olds you want (and that want you back)

Sound advice!

 

[maymay]

Hi,

I've turned 50 recently but I look young and women half my age find me cool. Is it unethical to date younger women?

Appreciate your feedback!

Haaa the age old question older men younger women, which applies to older women going for younger men.

What age gap are we talking about and of course my recent experience with this, i am 48 now and a young 30y old women was transfered to my departement, she gave me all the signs, long glance, eye contact, feet and body being turned toward me when we talk, pupils dialated and more she even looked at my private parts a few times.

It all depends on your maturity, some older man are immature some older men are more mature, for me everything went to hell when I started talking to her and saw how weird she was, recently separated, getting tattoos finding her identity and learning that after her break up she was in an open relationship with a guy that had 7 women. She was also immature for her age and i saw absolutely no benefit for me in dating her plus we work togheter.

There are 3 kind of younger women in this situation.

First is the young women who would never date a man 2-3 years older than her, and as absolutely no attraction toward older men.

Second is the young women who tires of young men and wants to experiment and have sex with an older guy, to see how much amazing he would make love to her and make her feel

The third kind is the young women who is ready to commit and is tired of the young men who party all the time, who are not serious and would go for older.

Now at 50 i surely hope you have enough maturity to filter through all of this and see if the younger women wants a sugar daddy, just some fun, or something serious, what if she wants kids and get married are you ready to commit to this.

As for me i am out of the grid and decided to save money and i don't go on dates anymore etc. but that is a personal choice. I had enough of dating all togheter and decied to move on something else.

 

[Rebaynia]

Hi!

Thanks for your reply. Kids would be nice but I don't want to rush anyone through their youth. I'm at an age when sitting with my dog is the best thing in the world. I don't want to go to every concert/event. I don't want to rain on anyone's parade.

I was only pointing out 2 opposite extremes, there is always every shade of Grey between the 2. I don't believe in judging others for what they desire as long as it is consenting adults. If I were to shame you for 25 yrs, then I would be a hypocrite as I have clients even younger who contact me looking for a MILF. But don't kid yourself. You are the DILF without kids in this senario. She/they are very likely attracted to you. And likely could/do want to try and relationship. But there will always be a power imbalance when there is an age gap, it's just choosing not to acknowledge or abuse it in the end for health age gap relationships.

I would have had kids a long time ago, but I got caught up in a career and just thought about advancing and salaries. I wouldn't change it, but I do like the family life. I guess age isn't as important as meeting like minded people.

It doesn't matter the age, so long as you are both compatible and mutually are ready for that stage in life together.

There are women of all ages who would like a family. I find it hard to meet someone older than 30. It feels like many are in serious relationships.

Very valid point. But dating at any age is difficult. And searching for any specific age can be difficult as well.

I don't think I give off cool dad vibes but i can't tell. I have never dated any women who looked at me as a mentor or a protector. When that happens, I think there is a power dynamic which shouldn't be taken advantage of.

Speaking for yourself. For some of us that power dynamic is the turn-on, and is required for the relationship to be what makes it work.


I find being in a relationship with someone my own age, often feels like just parenting another child, while raising 3 kids of my own already.

 

[nico61]

I personally believe there is a 10 year window gap in my book. A buddy of mine hooked up with a woman he met online. 19 year age gap.
He is 60. It ended after 10 months. I think it was more of a FWB relationship as I saw it.
He came to his senses as he realized that it was too much. Not saying it does not work for some couples. I’m sure there are plenty with a huge age gap. He did like the sex though.
She was energetic and open. If you remember the movie ‘ Moonstruck with Cher. It asked this question” why do men chase younger women? Because they are afraid of death! Lol.

 

[maymay]

I personally believe there is a 10 year window gap in my book. A buddy of mine hooked up with a woman he met online. 19 year age gap.
He is 60. It ended after 10 months. I think it was more of a FWB relationship as I saw it.
He came to his senses as he realized that it was too much. Not saying it does not work for some couples. I’m sure there are plenty with a huge age gap. He did like the sex though.
She was energetic and open. If you remember the movie ‘ Moonstruck with Cher. It asked this question” why do men chase younger women? Because they are afraid of death! Lol.

This is my personal experience i went online (not saying all women are like this please bare with me) but all i met were women with huge baggage, i was online for about a year at 46 when i separated from my ex.

The have kids, do you want to get into a relationship with a women who has kids? some have adult kids do they still live at home? I am very active for my age not extreme but i really like to go hiking, etc, all women i chatted had pains here and there and did not want to do anything a part watch tv. A lot of them were also on anti depressant drugs which means no sex drive.

I am not suprise your friend who is 60 had a short run. All the people at work who are online meet weirdos, and its not only men, the women at work also quit online because it too weird.

The meet and bang and they move on there is nothing real in there. A younger men at work met a super hot Latina, he had fun with her and was starting to fall in love, she ghosted him, i told him what do you expect she is online and she gets like a zillion likes per day she can get any man she wants.

 

[Anong]

I've turned 50 recently but I look young and women half my age find me cool

This is your side of story, we like to hear the other party! lol

 

[maymay]

This is your side of story, we like to hear the other party! lol

Honestly if that is what he wants i am wishing the best luck ever, just be careful with the red flags, and not ignore them.

 

[arius2021]

Not weird at all.

Hi,

I've turned 50 recently but I look young and women half my age find me cool. Is it unethical to date younger women?

Appreciate your feedback!

It's fine! I would say 25y and up is perfect. As long as you guys have a connection and having fun together.

I have same age and my last two relationship were with younger woman of 12y, 23y and now I'm currently in a relationship with a difference 17 years.

In my opinion this is something cultural, in North America we are 'living in a rules and noms society', I think the age gap relation is one of them. My relations were with a born Canadian Lebanese, a Nigerian and now with a Filipina.

It all started by me being a gentleman to them and they did the rest as demonstrating interest for me. It's not something, or it's not an approach you can take with North American woman. They would have turn me down and find me a creep. Just for me to try to introduce myself. My approach worked like a charm with the woman I met, I always have a fun and good relations, unfortunately the same with North American woman the relation don't always last forever.

Do you and do what make you happy!

 

[maymay]

Not weird at all.


It's fine! I would say 25y and up is perfect. As long as you guys have a connection and having fun together.

I have same age and my last two relationship were with younger woman of 12y, 23y and now I'm currently in a relationship with a difference 17 years.

In my opinion this is something cultural, in North America we are 'living in a rules and noms society', I think the age gap relation is one of them. My relations were with a born Canadian Lebanese, a Nigerian and now with a Filipina.

It all started by me being a gentleman to them and they did the rest as demonstrating interest for me. It's not something, or it's not an approach you can take with North American woman. They would have turn me down and find me a creep. Just for me to try to introduce myself. My approach worked like a charm with the woman I met, I always have a fun and good relations, unfortunately the same with North American woman the relation don't always last forever.

Do you and do what make you happy!

I did notice this too, my friend is married to a Filipina, 2 other friends women from Chile, and another one a women from Thailand. They do have there character, not sure i would stay in relation with one of them but to each is own.

And yes Libanese women they are also very beautiful,

 

[Joe Thighsman]

The adage of "half your age plus seven" is a guideline used to determine a socially acceptable age range for dating or romantic relationships. Not sure how valid this is, but just my 2-cents worth.

 

[WC3000]

A timely article

‘Maturity is a major thing,’ How much older or younger would you date? Torontonians weigh in - NOW Toronto

When it comes to dating age ranges, there’s a surprising pattern emerging among older Gen Z and young Millennial locals.

nowtoronto.com

For the latest edition of This is Dating Now, we spoke with five Torontonians, aged 27 to 35, about the age ranges they’re comfortable dating within. A common theme quickly became clear; many are open to dating people roughly 10 years younger or 10 years older, with one important boundary: no one younger than 25.