Email / text message communication

[LC18]

Communication is key we all know that. How many emails or how many text messages are too many?

Sometimes I fear I send too many emails but it’s because I want to be sure everything is clear and that there won’t be any misunderstanding in person. Sometimes the person is new to it and does need extra time to make sure he knows how things work.

So how many is too many? When do you just give up?

 

[LeDodo]

As long as he has questions it's not too much.
To be sure that everything is clear you can have your template with common questions and answers. And maybe to make the information less overwhelming to put links

 

[LC18]

To be sure that everything is clear you can have your template with common questions and answers.

No. I don’t care to write a FAQ

 

[urquell]

I'm not sure there's a set number. Some people have differing degrees of experience. An experienced monger will need both less info and less prompting. Newbies will need more info and will also be more nervous/hesitant about going ahead with the booking due to fear/shyness/discomfort whatever. If you have a sense of the person and you feel that you've reached a point of understanding about your services and requirements then I'd say probably not more than a single prompting email/text more., as it gets pushy beyond that. What is hard to say is how many texts or emails are necessary to get to that point of understanding with the clients. Some people are dumbasses and some people are timewasters and some people really, sincerely need to handheld through the process. Sometimes I imagine that it's hard to tell the difference between the dummies and the timewasters. You can only go with your gut and use your best read on the person

 

[kabukicho]

as many as needed.

 

[Mandouke]

In a modern context, texting and messaging are essential, particularly for the line of business that we are discussing. Having said that, they have their drawbacks and limitations in terms of clarity. They are often further muddled by people who have limited communication skills, in general.

If I want to be precise in my line of work about exactly what is needed and required from a client, I always speak directly with the client and bypass any other means of communication, such as texting and emailing. This is essential for me. I made the mistake once and arrived at the venue only to realize I had the wrong sheet music that was needed. I paid the price dearly, and I never made the mistake again.

I recall being engaged in a text conversation with a SP who was just starting in the business several years ago, and the confusion was endless. The texting went on for about an hour, just trying to be understood. I then quickly realized that since she was a Chinese SP and that she had no understanding of what I was saying. This became evident to me when she refused all phone calls(because she only spoke Mandarin) and when we ultimately met in person.

I learned from this experience, and now, as soon as I see that there is beginning to be endless texting, or perhaps a major language obstacle, I give it a few minutes and then, if not successful, I move on quickly to the next possible option.

 

[LC18]

I'm not sure there's a set number.

Fair.

I sometimes read in reviews that the booking process was too long and that there were too many emails. I’ve personally received a very angry review saying the emails weren’t clear enough and I have since then tried my best to make it clearer to avoid receiving such violent reviews again. Now I worry it’s too long or too much

 

[patrickcun]

First, it all starts with the information provided on the girl's page. The more there is, the fewer messages will be necessary.
Let's take Euphoria as an example, which now lists the extras the girls do. It really helps you make a choice and not waste time.
Example of a message with Euphoria:
Me: Hi, Josette available for 1 hour incall?
Euphoria: 5:30 or 7:00
Me: Okay, 5:30
Euphoria: Perfect, text me 10 minutes before, 4321 rue Ducanal.
4 messages. With the indi, you need an introduction, proof of identity, give the email, what day (?), what are you looking for, blah blah blah, way too long, and then ask for a photo, etc., etc. Too much information requested.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I try to be as concise as possible in my emails and to answer questions before they are even asked. I can't have back and forths in emails like we're texting, it's a no-no. I despise endless texting and I try to avoid that as much as possible, that's why I prefer emails. So I ask everything I need to know in every email I send (I don't ask only one question and wait for his answer to ask another one), and let them know what they should expect in the following days, what I expect, when I'll reach out again and what information will be included. My communications seem quite efficient and misunderstandings are quite rare. 6 messages is the average length of the exchange.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I like both styles of communication but text is more dynamic. I try to keep the booking process short. When someone has found me on Merb, all the information is available in my ad, all the acronyms, everything is spelled out in detail.. However when someone found me on Tryst or elsewhere, I understand they may have questions. They may fear that I'm not offering ''genuine GFE'' or want to know if I offer certain services that are not part of it.

I'm working on my communication style at the moment because I don't want to assume that people are time wasters but the truth is that I get a very large number of emails and DM's by people who are telling me they are interested in booking me but don't have a date and time in mind, make it known to me that they aren't sure they want to see me (which is, honestly, super rude), or they send very very long emails with a lot of flirting and demands, and 80% of the time these people don't actually book or they cancel. Sometimes people like to "warm up" to a booking, which is totally understandable, but it can be hard to distinguish someone who is doing that vs a classic time waster.

It can be difficult finding the right balance between being very very sweet and overly accommodating, which doesn't always bring good results, and the opposite.. being cold and curt, which isn't well perceived by clients. Yesterday I made the mistake of answering an email too fast and I really regretted it because I came across the wrong way and I think the client felt like I wasn't paying attention to him which really wasn't my intention. I try to avoid really long conversations by email or texting like Giselle..

Sometimes the initial email I receive has very vague questions, like ''can you describe your service to me'', or ''what can I expect with you''.. I usually ask clients what their expectations are during the booking process as well, but when I read questions like these I am not sure if they are referring to acronyms or something else. I think I do a good job at representing myself online, here, on my ads and on social media.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Communication is key we all know that. How many emails or how many text messages are too many?

Sometimes I fear I send too many emails but it’s because I want to be sure everything is clear and that there won’t be any misunderstanding in person. Sometimes the person is new to it and does need extra time to make sure he knows how things work.

So how many is too many? When do you just give up?

I am the same way if booking with an Indy. I will send many emails to ensure the details are clear. You can never send too many emails, better to be clear and avoid misunderstandings. For me both text or email is good. But it depends on what information is in the ad. I seen some with very clear information and what services are provided.

 

[CLOUD 500]

First, it all starts with the information provided on the girl's page. The more there is, the fewer messages will be necessary.
Let's take Euphoria as an example, which now lists the extras the girls do. It really helps you make a choice and not waste time.
Example of a message with Euphoria:
Me: Hi, Josette available for 1 hour incall?
Euphoria: 5:30 or 7:00
Me: Okay, 5:30
Euphoria: Perfect, text me 10 minutes before, 4321 rue Ducanal.
4 messages. With the indi, you need an introduction, proof of identity, give the email, what day (?), what are you looking for, blah blah blah, way too long, and then ask for a photo, etc., etc. Too much information requested.

Yes and Euphoria also list racial restrictions. Girls these days got some wild restrictions, better the more upfront the agencies and Indys are better for all parties involved.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I am the same way if booking with an Indy. I will send many emails to ensure the details are clear. You can never send too many emails, better to be clear and avoid misunderstandings. For me both text or email is good. But it depends on what information is in the ad. I seen some with very clear information and what services are provided.

It's good to make sure everyone in the same page by sharing expectations and answering questions. My problem is when things are not straight forward.. I like a nice intro with information about the client's personality and hobbies because it gives me an idea of who he is as a person. But I like clear questions, and clear expectations.

What I don't like is something along the lines of ''i need to feel desired and i am looking for a highly sensual experience, my girlfriend knows i'm doing this and i'd love to introduce her to you, i saw that you offer duos and this is something we could do one day, what type of experience can you offer to me? are you the right woman for me? i am looking for someone to see on a regular basis, if you satisfy all my needs, which should be clear to you by now even if i'm being vague as hell, you will have a regular...'' or people writing elaborate fantasies. a lot of the time it's very vague.

I absolutely despise ''carrot dangling''.. and to me carrot dangling includes promising duos, being a regular, longer bookings in the future etc. If you are not sure of booking a SP, unless you have questions that are not answered in any of her ads and on her website, you should not be writing to her. I know clients like this don't necessarily mean any harm and are not bad people, but for me it happens very frequently and I make a point of answering every inquiry even if I'm not 100% sure the person is not serious, because I take my job seriously... but it's a huge waste of time.