Etiquette for asking SPs if you can review them

[punky9999]

Hi all,

Apologies if this has been addressed elsewhere but I was wondering: what is the proper etiquette regarding asking SPs if you can review them? Namely, SHOULD you ask before you review SPs on Merb? I realized that I have been reviewing SPs on here and maybe I should have first asked the SPs if they would actually like to be reviewed.

For other hobbyists: do you typically ask SPs if you can review them? Do you just review them without asking?

For the SPs: do you prefer if clients ask you if it's ok before reviewing you? Does it not matter to you? Do you just assume that everyone will review you whether you ask or not?

All insights are appreciated. Just wasn't sure what the proper etiquette was here :smile:

 

[hungry101]

If they do a good job I ask mind if I write a review? If they do a bad job I don't say anything and I write the review after I return from my trip. Good reviews are sometimes written within an hour or two of the meeting. Thank God negative reviews are very rare.

 

[charmer_]

If they do a good job I ask mind if I write a review? If they do a bad job I don't say anything and I write the review after I return from my trip.

This is a pretty good approach. But in general if you want to review, you should. The reviews are for your peers primarily (ie. other clients). If a SP get something out of a great review, then more power to them and that's an additional bonus. But that shouldn't be the intent.

 

[rosedelacourt]

Hey there! Personally I don't mind reviews. I'm quite confident in the experience I provide and I like making my lovers happy. The only thing I prefer is no explicit details as (to me) it cheapens the intimate experience I've just shared with the person. I know a lot of men here would disagree, but I feel like those questions can be asked by members via PM, not laid out for the world to see.

 

[IamNY]

When it comes to agency girls I would just write the review. For an indy, if I'm going to be the first one to write a review I would ask before. If there are already reviews listed I would then just write the review.

 

[charmer_]

The only thing I prefer is no explicit details as (to me) it cheapens the intimate experience I've just shared with the person. I know a lot of men here would disagree, but I feel like those questions can be asked by members via PM, not laid out for the world to see.

Yeah was going to mention that. It's probably better that the review focus more on the info, than the raunchiness.

Me personally, I love reading those penthouse letter type reviews. But most SPs don't appreciate it.

 

[Halloween Mike]

I never asked for doing a review. I have ommit "details" in my reviews before (services that could be highly ymmv) but thats it. If i was asked to not make a review entirely and i had a great experience then ok... i guess i would agree to her demand. But if that was a "meh" meeting or a bad one its my duty to share it with peers. To "warn" them.

But i won't go out of my way to ask if i can review or not...

 

[Jonathankeeves2]

I don’t usually ask an SP if I can review them but if an SP specifically asks not to review them or not to mention any acronyms then I respect their preference.

I recently met a very popular SP who during the session asked me to review her in a specific way and it sounded to me a bit of exaggeration and was a huge turn off so I rather avoid reviewing such an SP.

 

[Vicky Lopez]

I think that most SPs won’t appreciate raunchy reviews, as charmer_ said, but I’d like to add that there’s another reason for not writing too many details about the activities shared during the intimacy itself. It’s because what two people do together is different from what another couple will choose to do. Like if one writes that she is a great conversationalist, it’s because he is already engaging her in long and interesting conversations. And if he says she does such and such really well, it’s because it’s the thing he likes to do the most and she has experience and so of course she’s good at it. We have to take into account that she is really following his lead and answering to his needs first and then, if he’s willing and wants her to get her needs met too, she will most likely tell him what she likes at that point and enjoy it as much as he. And if he’s good at what she asks for, she will let him do it for longer, you see. So, in my opinion, a review is also a reflection of him as much as it is of her commitment to make it as enjoyable an experience as she can.
But, I still think reviews are important in general because they exist in all milieus as they should for everyone, it benefits the servers and the receivers. It’s like quality control in a company. The more reviews there are, the better as long as it’s done honestly and with more or less decent and respectful language. Not prudish like the Queen necessarily but you know what I mean, add in something about her smile not just about her great tits lol. So that’s my very long piece today. I always like these kinds of questions on this forum. Thanks.

 

[jalimon]

I only ask if somehow I have some doubt the girl likes detail or not.

I have written quite a few with many details but always in a way that it's obvious ymmv is a factor.

This biz is all about ymmv (except Sonia) so review should reflect that.

Cheers,

 

[David Letterman]

I think you are obligating yourself to offer a good review id you ask their permission to give a review. A review is an honest opinion, you bias yourself if the SP knows you are writing a review.

 

[hungry101]

I think reviews are more useful if you add acronyms. People want to know what kind of service is possible. Yes, your mileage may always vary. Some of these reviews I've read in the past had no depth. There are times when I wondered if the guy really saw the girl. There were times when it was exposed the guy was a shill and other timethe guy was even exposed as the girls pimp.

David - at the end of session, as a courtesy to a provider that performed very well I may ask, if I feel so inclined, do you mind if I write a review? And to a certain extent, she may act as editor at this point. If I get a rush job or I have something to negative to convey, at end of session I offer nothing and then I review on every relevant site.

 

[rollingstone]

If the SP already has a review thread I feel like you should not need to ask if you can write a review. I have not written since 2014 because when C36 came into effect I limited myself to a small circle of UTR women that do not want any kind of review presence. Before that, I would review if she had a thread, or if she asked me to do so. I know this does not make me a great member of the community and that I need to do better.

However, I do not a agree that a woman should look at the review before you post it. But I do agree that the guys should exercise a bit of discretion. Lots of details can be very YMMV. I know I spend 1 hour getting ready before an appointment making sure my hygiene and prep is beyond reproach. I book 3 hours minimum and always have a nice suite booked and a bottle of wine and other beverage choices on hand (i.e. I create an environment where she is eager to be her best). So when I get particularly amazing service I have to exercise my own judgement and understand what is ymmv and what is most people can expect.

 

[hungry101]

^^^No woman has ever looked at a review before I have posted it. I hope I didn't mislead anyone with the term editor. That is, I've said in passing, mind if I write a review? I may get a request like please don't mention.... You don't have to ask if you don't want to. You can always write whatever you want. This is a review board.

Guys need to prepare like the RollingStone. I do this as well. My goal is to have the best chance of getting the best service possible. Making a connection is key so I try to dress like I would if I were going on a date and serve wine, avoid garlic and onions prior, and do all the things to make myself as palatable as possible.

 

[punky9999]

I appreciate all the responses, everyone! It's interesting to see the varied perspectives on this.

Rose and Vicky, when you say you prefer no explicit details or not too many details about the intimate activities themselves, does that include things like acronyms? Where do you draw the line at the level of explicitness in the review? I realize that may be a difficult question to answer and can vary from SP to SP, but I thought I would ask

 

[rosedelacourt]

I appreciate all the responses, everyone! It's interesting to see the varied perspectives on this.

Rose and Vicky, when you say you prefer no explicit details or not too many details about the intimate activities themselves, does that include things like acronyms? Where do you draw the line at the level of explicitness in the review? I realize that may be a difficult question to answer and can vary from SP to SP, but I thought I would ask

I personally prefer no acronyms, everything I do is YMMV. I'd rather the client write ''I had a good time etc'' and then members ask him in PM. It takes two to create something magical and what I do / don't do will always be different based on my partner's attitude and respect. Someone who treats me right will get way more out of a session than someone who shows up with a grocery list of acronyms. Reviews are made so people know if the girl is legit, looks like her pics and provides a good experience. It's not supposed to be a play by play of an intimate session... IMO again xx

 

[punky9999]

Rose, that makes sense; thank you for the response!

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

I'm in the same boat than Rose!

 

[DrJ_TheGhost]

If I am going to ask, it is at the end of the session and I had a good time. I already made up my mind about leaving a good review. It is simply out of respect. When leaving a good review, I do not mention stuff that are probably YMMV. I had one lady who said she prefers not to be reviewed and I respected that. She was about to stop working though.
If I did not have a good time and plan on leaving a bad review, I do not ask. No one wants to be given a negative review. I do owe it to the board to mention my bad experience.

 

[Rinzler]

I think reviews are more useful if you add acronyms.

i agree

if acronyms are missing from a review, i cant be bothered to read it

the review doesnt need to be a retelling of everything that went on but if the review cant confirm that the basic GFE elements were present, i dont see the point

emotional connection, feelings of intimacy, etc., are all highly subjective descriptors of a session. i aint interested in reading about how a member keeps falling in love with a sp or sees her as the 8th wonder of the world

if reviews start obfuscating whether services like BBBJ were offered, in no time we'll be back to CBJ being the norm like it was before review boards were around. not interested