Ya ! i'm addicted too
Hahaha i play pokemon go too even if pokemons arent from my generation. Its alot of fun and we meet people who are addicted as well! Funny game and not expensive
...Fears of becoming addicted!
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Hahaha i play pokemon go too even if pokemons arent from my generation. Its alot of fun and we meet people who are addicted as well! Funny game and not expensive
Mr solidsnake, you are a deep one!
You are probably a romantic/idealist (if I am not mistaken!), which I think I was when I was younger... but life kicked me enough in the crotch and destroyed most of my idealism! (not just for relationships, but for...everything!)
It transformed me more into a cynical/sarcastic type of person, but weirdly, at the same time, I am also more grateful for what I can get out of life.
I sincerely hope you don't end up bitter: this shit can really eat you up!
You say seeing Sps made you lazy towards your own health, but for me, the effect was exactly the contrary: since starting the "hobby", I started exercising more ( walking, working out, cycling!) and I've lost a bunch of weight!
...I gotta look my best for the ladies! (even if in the end they don't really care, I do it so that I feel comfortable in my own skin, which directly benefits my self confidence!)
You are probably a romantic/idealist (if I am not mistaken!), which I think I was when I was younger... but life kicked me enough in the crotch and destroyed most of my idealism! (not just for relationships, but for...everything!)
It transformed me more into a cynical/sarcastic type of person, but weirdly, at the same time, I am also more grateful for what I can get out of life.
I sincerely hope you don't end up bitter: this shit can really eat you up!
You say seeing Sps made you lazy towards your own health, but for me, the effect was exactly the contrary: since starting the "hobby", I started exercising more ( walking, working out, cycling!) and I've lost a bunch of weight!
...I gotta look my best for the ladies! (even if in the end they don't really care, I do it so that I feel comfortable in my own skin, which directly benefits my self confidence!)
I agree. This is such an important comment. Before I go on a hobby campaign I start hitting the weights and upping my work outs in general. Last trip I bight a personal groomer and made sure there were no disgusting nose hairs and I shaved all the pits and trimmed down there. I even bleached my teeth twice. I mean it's a process.
I think my money will carry the day but I find I enjoy my sessions more if I am on my game.
You may overdo it once or twice, but that is when you will pull back to a more comfortable level. That way you set and know your limitations.
Women are addicting, obviously.... the sexual instinct is a powerful one just like water and food... Just focus on your willpower and wallet. Food is much, much more important than sex. So is shelter.
Work the hobby as any other hobby. I enjoy a steam video game sale, but I would not risk my livelihood by purchasing the entire steam library.
Work the hobby as any other hobby. I enjoy a steam video game sale, but I would not risk my livelihood by purchasing the entire steam library.
SAm21
Very touching your story and I totally understand your feeling...because I have the same situation like you... I was with my lady for over 15years before the damn sickness take her body away from me..!
I start to see Sp to release my pain and my desires... and I little concern about the addiction.... ! I still don't know if it's good way to release our pain....
It's impossible to feal what you guys went trought. I think it's important to mention that no one on this board will think it is selfish of you to now simply focus on seeing SP. The girl, as far as I know, can help heal you mind much more than any psy would do
Cheers,
The girl, as far as I know, can help heal you mind much more than any psy would do
Agreed! And not just for people who sadly have lost loved ones.
As a long time sufferer of general anxiety and depression, I think starting to see SPs has done a lot for my self-confidence and general level of happiness, and has surely been time better spent than going to the psychiatrist, whom has been just peddling me some new medication combinations ("Try this and this! Aren't you happy now? No? Then try this and this!").
But that great feeling after seeing an SP has also... become the source of my fear of being addicted to this activity!
I'm really happy to have found hobbying and the moment it does not bring me joy anymore and/or it becomes a financial burden , then I'll have to just... quit!
You can take a sexual addiction screening test, called an SAST, online at this website at no cost:
https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/sex-addiction/SAST/index.php
https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/sex-addiction/SAST/index.php
Sex addiction is actually very good as long as you can afford it
I don't believe there are any addictions that are good. They take control of a person. When someone loses control and the problem becomes chronic, it's not good and their compulsive behaviour makes them act erratically and often affects negatively people close to them.
This I take to be the golden rule. It is often mentioned by mature, level headed and experienced hobbyists and SPs. It is without doubt good advice.
Be that as it may, I am attempting to manage a refinement partly because I don't have a choice, having already run afoul of the advice.
I'm not a <35 year old. In fact I'm in my mid sixties and recently retired. For most of my adult life I was completely absorbed in my career. So much so that I did nothing to develop personal relationships and really had no interest. I am passionate and committed by nature but all of that was channelled to my job. I never married, have no kids.
After my retirement 2 years ago I really was somewhat at a loss for things to do. A friend of mine who knows me to be underdeveloped socially suggested that I start working on my interpersonal skills and find a girlfriend. I always had an aversion to the "ownership" and "control" aspects of most conventional relationships. One day the light went on and I started very actively visiting MPs and hiring SPs. For about a year and a half all was well. I had good relations with all of my regulars. I certainly liked them (obviously) and I'm pretty sure they liked me personally as well. Although the time together was great, it was always clear to me that I was a client buying a service and that the girls were doing a job, one that they were good at. I was absolutely fine with that as much as I enjoyed their company.
That changed about 6 months ago. I began to develop strong feelings for an Asian MP worker maybe 35 years my junior. I know there are some on this board who will know exactly my meaning when I refer to a sweet, almost naive seeming Asian heart beautiful in its simplicity and lack of pretention.
I didn't ask to have this happen, it just did. I began seeing her two to three times a week at the MP and eventually started dating her. When I first asked her out she didnt set any conditions or ask for money. I immediately suggested what seemed a reasonable fee and she right away said ok. Every time weve been out I have ponied up.
Over time we have, I think, grown closer together and share a mutual depth of feeling for one another. I'm still (probably her best) client and I continue to frequent and enjoy other SPs. Its just that this relationship stands above all others.
Maybe I am just emotionally immature (possible) or deluded. Maybe she is just lightyears ahead of the others in terms of her skill set (I doubt this). Or maybe I've scored a very unique situation.
Just as a good finish tops up an excellent rub, FS beats a HJ, and dating a classy SP beats visiting a MP, the more genuine emotion you can get out of an SP relationship the better the experience will be. So I feel I had to qualify your warning to the OP with my story.
Well, well! The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has come out with a "statement that there isn’t sufficient scientific evidence to support the concepts of porn and sex addiction".
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/12/sex-and-porn-addiction-probably-arent-real-mental-disorders.html
Hurray! Turns out I was afraid of becoming addicted for nothing!
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/12/sex-and-porn-addiction-probably-arent-real-mental-disorders.html
Hurray! Turns out I was afraid of becoming addicted for nothing!
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