...Fears of becoming addicted!

[Splotch]

Well, well! The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has come out with a "statement that there isn’t sufficient scientific evidence to support the concepts of porn and sex addiction".
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/12/sex-and-porn-addiction-probably-arent-real-mental-disorders.html

Hurray! Turns out I was afraid of becoming addicted for nothing!

 

[ssj3]

I think after my next trip which was already booked and paid for months ago, I'm going to take a long break from all of this.

 

[Doc Holliday]

I think after my next trip which was already booked and paid for months ago, I'm going to take a long break from all of this.

Good luck. I said the same thing the first year that i began seeing sps. I also said the same thing a few times later. But i found it too tempting to stay away. Problem was, my buddies kept coaxing me to join them in Mtl and once i was there, the temptation was too strong. Plus they'd coax me into doing like they did and see sps. That's why i also enjoy going to Toronto. I don't really feel like seeing sps when i'm in Toronto (as compared to Mtl) since there are so many things to do. Of course, i did see a few sps in Toronto over the years, but it wasn't really pre-planned, plus i'd only see 1 or 2 instead of 8-10.

A few minutes ago, i took a look at Mirage's website. Now i don't know how i'll be able to resist calling them the next time i'm in town. Their roster is amazing!!!

 

[ssj3]

Well I don't exactly live anywhere near Mtl so the costs of traveling there and accommodations alone just add to the costs of seeing SPs. It's been just a little over a year since I've been doing this (first Mtl SP I saw was Chloe). I think it's probably time to take a step back and consider just dating again. At least for the time being.

 

[Splotch]

Well I don't exactly live anywhere near Mtl so the costs of traveling there and accommodations alone just add to the costs of seeing SPs. It's been just a little over a year since I've been doing this (first Mtl SP I saw was Chloe). I think it's probably time to take a step back and consider just dating again. At least for the time being.

Well for me it's been 6 months since I've first started in this field of activity, and I have had an interesting "progression" if I may say: I've started by seeing half a dozen SPs, then went to an orgy, then this week I have been in a gang bang!
Where do I go next???
Does it go full circle and I go back at the beginning and try to get a girlfriend hehe?

 

[someMTLguy]

Interesting topic and the addiction i guess can be sex, emotional, kissing, or even a person.

Thing is i think making a connection can make the addiction take place but then again without it you cant have great sex.

fear is always there part of the thrill factor....

ps having money for it probably wouldnt help lol

 

[tiga]

i beleive I am a sex addict.
I would rather not, but I do not fear it, even if it has had all kinds of consequences; some positive and some well...
When I was in my mid-forties I had a fling with a stripper; I left my wife because I could not live through the lie and wanted to persue this new and exciting relationship.
Mind you I do not have children and my then wife is now remaried and probably happier so I do not feel bad for anyone involved.
So after two years of living a fantasy and spending tens of thousands of$, I left the dancer because I did not think it was going anywhere and the feelings were not completly mutual.
Since then I have had other relationships, but none totaly satisfying.
Today, in my late fifties, completly single, I am less impulsive but sometimes go on sexual benders. Hobbying is fine by me because I don't think I will ever be able to open-up and fall in love again and sex and beautiful women seem to be my only true passion.
I took the SAST test and scored a 14
I do accept and take full responsibility for my addiction.

 

[blkone]

When I was in my mid-forties

Well... If that's an old story, why stop now? You're in your 50's.

 

[tiga]

Right why change now... I just felt the need to share and be honest on this board.

 

[EagerBeaver]

As I think I already said, there is no such thing as sexual addiction, by definition, because sex is a natural behavior. The real condition at work here is called "the money is running out." Guys like Michael Douglas and Charlie Sheen treated for something called "sexual addiction" because the money had not run out for them, and enterprising shrinks who invent diseases to treat wanted (and got) their money to treat this fictional disorder so that their attorneys had something to argue in their divorce cases on why they cheated on their wives. You can get a well educated and well paid psychiatrist to say anything in court. It's finger pointing at something that does not exist when the real problem is that the money is running out for the person claiming addiction, and he is getting worried about the lack of funds for the activity. I guarantee this thread would not exist if all the guys who have posted in it had unlimited financial resources.

So the solution is this: make some more money. Take on another job. It's like Peyton Manning's advice once given in this commercial to those worrying about their guts:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YGmX6m78zDM

Apply same pep talk to your bank accounts.

 

[tiga]

IMHO addict/not addict, real or phony balony is a mute point, I said I was an addict I could have simply said this is part of my life story and I accept it with some regrets and some pride also my story does not involve shrinks or lawyers I'm happy to say.
As for money it is a very important part of life that is very true but other things can also motivate your life, we are not just homo_economicus.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

The real condition at work here is called "the money is running out."

With me the novelity wore off, at first it was great having sex with a girl 1/3 your age who is hot and I did go a lot when I first started, at least twice a week for a long time. Working away from Montreal slowed that down but I have met a couple of Quebec girls who visit here 2 weeks a month on BP. Now it will be limited to a night out once in awhile. I will be back from Mexico before New Year and staying for a couple of weeks, will look at Indy companions as they have some older ladies working, think I am done with the 20 - 30 yr olds...... Execpt for Kendall, very nice lady.

 

[Splotch]

Maybe try tantric relations where you and a partner are mediating, breathing, feeling each other's chi's, and exploring every orifice of each other's bodies without reservation. Without orgasming, you could try to feel multiple convulsion so that before you pass out from the euphoria, you reach an epinaphany that fundamentally changes the Constitution of your core existence with this plane of reality.

Hahaha! Well, that's certainly an elaborate avenue to explore! I may have to try that one day!

 

[Passionné]

i beleive I am a sex addict.

Normally I would say it's not an addiction because it's a natural impulse. It becomes an addiction when like anything else it overwhelms your priorities and your ability to keep a proper balance of priorities. When it interferes with your other relationships or become destructive to well being and maintenance of a stable lifestyle then it's an addiction.

 

[tiga]

I agree completly with you PASSIONNÉ.

It has overwhelmed me at times.

 

[curly]

I took the SAST test and scored a 14
I do accept and take full responsibility for my addiction.

That SAST test is a real joke. Biased and tendentious... So not scientific! Worry not about it bro!

 

[tiga]

Thanks, it did seem a bunch of crap, like a magazine quiz.

 

[hungry101]

Thanks, it did seem a bunch of crap, like a magazine quiz.

Worry about heroin or crack addiction. Try to enjoy these young ladies while you can. I just wish I would of started earlier in life. I missed out on a lot of great escorts.

Just make sure that you are 1. doing well at work, 2. paying your bills, 3. saving 10%. The rest can go to escorts just as you waste money on vacations, downhill skiing, fishing and hunting trips, golf, shooting sports, new cars, going out to expensive restaurants etc....when you add it all up what's the difference? Escorts can be a nice outlet.