Getting friend with a sp

[Franco2332]

Have you ever be friend with an sp? Like seeing her outside of work and not paying for her time with her?

It happen to me twice but they where stripper, we were going to bar or just chill and smoke, eventually we fucked lol but it was not my primary goal. We were just chilling like friends.

 

[masmasak]

Have you ever be friend with an sp? Like seeing her outside of work and not paying for her time with her?

It happen to me twice but they where stripper, we were going to bar or just chill and smoke, eventually we fucked lol but it was not my primary goal. We were just chilling like friends.

friend&chilling out without hanky panky not an oddity,after all they have a compartementalized life! ,even the husbands don`t get free ride,.Once a ``Sp`` toujours a ``Sp``!!

 

[Numerati]

Did it once. Never again.

We hung out not planning to screw and just talk/chill have dinner but end up screwing anyway. Total dynamics changed. Sex had no firework sparks like when I paid her and it was meh vanilla. Also we both realize it was the end anyways. We never spoke again afterwards. No need to as we knew what it is and what it will be and let it be that.

When you see the SP as her actual civilian self your perceptions of her are going to change dramatically. The fault is pretty much me really as seeing her SP persona you fall for that and you put her on that fantasy mental/emotional pedestal. Once that breaks off which can happen very quickly and for me it ruined it.

So the science and artform here is if you are able to see and sense that ultimate or its coming know when to fold and cash out your emotional chips.

OR...

If you plan to go the friends route just don't go and screw each other like you are still the client and she is still an SP. Communicate this out upfront and immediately and maybe it might work? Don't know. For anyone who pulled this off please let us know how that go.

 

[CaptRenault]

Not only can escorts and men not be friends, but men and women in general cannot be friends.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

That is a sensitive subject. Yes, I had friends and dated some of them. It's something I'll never do again. I had mostly negative experiences. Everything changes when you begin to like and care about them. You will never get along with them again because of how you met them. It will always lead to fights, and at the end of the day, she will always work. That will only confuse your mind and make you frustrated with jealousy. Don't get me wrong, they're wonderful people, but the way you met them will always cause friction. It happens automatically. I'm confident that if you meet an SP'S outside of her workplace, the relationship will work out.Because you met them at her workplace, there will always going to be a glitch in the relationship. It will never work. Please take my word for it. I heard both good and bad stories,but mostly bad stories. SP's are no different than us; it's where you met them that will confuse you and prevent it from working. As I previously stated, if you meet outside of her workplace, it will undoubtedly work.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

I dont mix my work with customer for many reason ... main I want to dont stick with only my work... try to put my life not only around the industry.. I have already 20-30 sp friends already and I don't have enought time.... probably the one you where friends might be not stable in their life.. i friendship go in the both way... its doesn't mean I don't like or have a big respect for my customer... but a lot of good human in the world.. can't be friend with all of them..but I do enjoy social date.... I do love breakfast .... shopping... spa... i make special for multiple hours

 

[Numerati]

LOL an analogy….

You own a Ferrari. You take it to the track and see how powerful it is. On weekends you take it out for a beautiful scenic drive to the countryside to your cottage. That is the experience with her SP persona.

Her civilian persona experience. You take that same Ferrari and drive half a mile to the store to get toothpaste.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

LOL an analogy….

You own a Ferrari. You take it to the track and see how powerful it is. On weekends you take it out for a beautiful scenic drive to the countryside to your cottage. That is the experience with her SP persona.

Her civilian persona experience. You take that same Ferrari and drive half a mile to the store to get toothpaste.

It's interesting how you compare an SP to a Ferrari. I'm not sure where your logic is coming from. I don't see any distinction between the client and the Sp. At the end of the day, it is the client who pays. We're the fishes paying for sex. A little courtesy.But your post was sarcastic.I give you credit for that, buddy.

 

[Numerati]

It's interesting how you compare an SP to a Ferrari. I'm not sure where your logic is coming from. I don't see any distinction between the client and the Sp. At the end of the day, it is the client who pays. We're the fishes paying for sex. A little courtesy.But your post was sarcastic.I give you credit for that, buddy.

Ahhh I should of be in more detail.

The Ferrari is not the SP. The Ferrari is the experience itself. Doh! Yeah kind of confusing reading it myself. That was why I wrote “You Own” because you own the experience and not the SP. lol

Should of explained it more clearly.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Ahhh I should of be in more detail.

The Ferrari is not the SP. The Ferrari is the experience itself. Doh! Yeah kind of confusing reading it myself. That was why I wrote “You Own” because you own the experience and not the SP. lol

Should of explained it more clearly.

Thank you for clarifying.I was reading your post while also browsing the Le Penthouse Website schedule. My mind had wandered. I see what you mean. My bad.

 

[Anong]

Not with SPs but with couple of strippers. One stayed friend more then 10 years and still is. She stopped working 2 years before .Still I see her on new year, her birthday or saint Valentines with the gifts. We text each other once a while. She is very gentle and calm person and anyone of us have no problem.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

What I like of sex work and to keep my personnal life separate... I hate when customer add me on my personnal social media or try to say my real name... my friends do language meet up..

I have a bissness and friends around
My family
My friends
My sp friends

They have exception in life.. but don't life to make a hope they gonna be my boyfriend or something ... I dont play with feelings

 

[Fradi]

They have exception in life.. but don't life to make a hope they gonna be my boyfriend or something ... I dont play with feelings

I would never want to be an SP boyfriend or something, simply put I am too wise for that and know it would never work, way too much of an age difference and zero chance of it working.
What I want for the SP that I have seen for many years and have become friends with is the same kind of loving relationship and family and memories that I had in my life. They deserve nothing less they are gorgeous and amazingly kind and thoughtful women.
As far as being friends with a select few, why not If some SP can have boyfriends and still be active in the business why can’t they have friends it is not that difficult to keep friendship and a client relationship separate it just takes a lot of respect and not taking advantage of each other like any other friendship should be.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

I would never want to be an SP boyfriend or something, simply put I am too wise for that and know it would never work, way too much of an age difference and zero chance of it working.
What I want for the SP that I have seen for many years and have become friends with is the same kind of loving relationship and family and memories that I had in my life. They deserve nothing less they are gorgeous and amazingly kind and thoughtful women.
As far as being friends with a select few, why not If some SP can have boyfriends and still be active in the business why can’t they have friends it is not that difficult to keep friendship and a client relationship separate it just takes a lot of respect and not taking advantage of each other like any other friendship should be.

Lot of sp have boyfriend... some in close relationship ...some polygamous .. age for me it's not the reason I get friend 20 and also 84 in my personnal life...

 

[Fradi]

Lot of sp have boyfriend... some in close relationship ...some polygamous .. age for me it's not the reason I get friend 20 and also 84 in my personnal life...

I agree. age is not an issue when it comes to friendship, but it can be a huge one in a marriage or boyfriend relationship when the age difference is wide and it very rarely works.
My point was that if an SP can manage a boyfriend relationship when still in the business then why can’t they manage a friendship.
Nothing is ever impossible when 2 people care and respect each other.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

I agree. age is not an issue when it comes to friendship, but it can be a huge one in a marriage or boyfriend relationship when the age difference is wide and it very rarely works.
My point was that if an SP can manage a boyfriend relationship when still in the business then why can’t they manage a friendship.
Nothing is ever impossible when 2 people care and respect each other.

If I get in the relationship im not open, or polyamourous. I dont talk about my work and I really keep separate for my personnal life.
Its the way I am. According to the way you manage the think. Some escort are happy to tell their husband how many orgams. Some prefer to be discrète. We know.. but we don't talk about it.
All my friendship with men are never hide. I will always introduice my friends (men) to my partner. I dont usualy without him alone. Just like I mean if you meet 20-300 new person à years difficult to be friends with everybody... and also why one and not the other one. Me I like everybody.. my heart is huge.. but still I have so many person already in my life..... and don't see then much... because I keep my social energy for my bissness so when arrive my day off I just need time for myself..

 

[Carmine Falcone]

Closest to ever seeing an SP off the clock was when this SP invited me over to her place. I was the last client of the day and we went back to her apartment. But I didn't make any moves. We only talked. But I probably didn't make a move because it came out that she had a "problem" if you catch my drift.

Earlier this year, I took an SP out for dinner after 2 hours of very spirited sex, taking compromising pictures of each other, shooting the shit etc. Despite all that, the chemistry disappeared once we interacted at dinner in a manner that was closer to conventional dating than pay-for-play. It's also telling that despite a lot of texting back and forth before, neither person has texted the other since February when we last hooked up.

So yeah, I'm sure some can navigate a conventional relationship with an SP after meeting her first as an SP, but I don't know if it's doable or even healthy for either party.

 

[Lexus3]

Does not work out. The fun part is pay for play. When it starts getting personal and they start sharing their problems and issues, the sessions start getting less enjoyable and I move on. It's about sex and companionship for pay, not a relationship.

 

[minutemenX]

The stigma goes both ways. As they say a client will always be a client even if you add the adjective “former” to it

 

[envelopes]

It's a bad idea but I still do it all the time