GF used to be an SP

[testing1]

I think having a kid is a bigger issue and could be way more problematic than being a former escort.
There will always be another man in your lives who may not be so pleasant to deal with for either and not all children warm up to a new man who is not their real father.
I will always say that women are women and they all have the same wishes and dreams the stigma if any attached to them will always be there unfortunately but it is up to you to stand by her if it comes out during your relationship.

I would emphasize this. Being a former escort I don't think matters at all in the long run but in terms of relationship stress having a child already and dealing with that can definitely add extra stress to any relationship. Also it will be a different type of lifestyle when your dating that you should be aware of.

Former job as an sp I doubt as any impact unless OP makes an issue of it which is probably why most wont tell you. I actually dated an SP once I think and didn't know until i saw the pic on her chat app of the agency with their number. It also explained why whenever we went out she would pay with 100 bills or 50s. In terms of what the dating was like it was exactly normal and she was great.

 

[McFly]

I might be wrong here, of course. But have you guys considered that this might be a Jane passing as a John. I am under that impression as I am reading his (her) comments and how (s)he "likes" other member's comments... Also this being a fairly new member, with an obvious male name (Robert 39). Again, just a feeling.

 

[EagerBeaver]

I might be wrong here, of course. But have you guys considered that this might be a Jane passing as a John. I am under that impression as I am reading his (her) comments and how (s)he "likes" other member's comments... Also this being a fairly new member, with an obvious male name (Robert 39). Again, just a feeling.

You are suggesting that this is a female Tony/Elf Gone Bad. Yes, this is the Internet and some people do get off on being an impostor and fooling others. Tony was able to perpetuate interest in Newbie Indy escort "Amanda Geneva" by creating a phony ingenue persona and a sense of naïveté in marketing. Numerous board members were fooled and that was the whole point.

But could the situation be reversed by a female angry about perceived misogynistic, judgmental or dismissive dating comments of some of the male posters here, and is out to make them look foolish by securing agreement with the propounded stereotypes? Of course it's possible. It's the internet and anyone with imagination can say anything about who they are or what situation they have.

Could it also be an SP posing as Robert 39 seeking to flush out the comments of one particular board member she dated, with an enema like thread? Yes, that is possible. I have seen that before. It's called posting to flush out a suspicion. If he took that bait, then the shit will hit the fan.

 

[Fradi]

Nope, he is just a guy who has feelings for a former escort who is a single mother. I wouldn’t worry about her being an escort 8 years in the past, probably a huge plus in the bedroom department.
Not an easy situation as odds are not good for relationships involving children from another parent, that being said when it does work out it can be a beautiful thing and can change that single mother and child’s life for the better forever and can be amazing.
I have seen it happen first hand and they are totally happy only difference was that she wasn’t an escort before but had a couple of kids. Dealing with her ex was and still is a problem though and he will always be the biological father, he is a total dick.

 

[Frankydoodle]

Funny that a bunch of people that hobby for different reason: cheating on spouse/gf, can’t find a girl without money, can’t commit to a relationship, etc can be so judgemental.... maybe look yourself in the mirror first? Anyways, good luck with whatever you decide to do, at the end of the day we all have skeletons in our closet and if your relationship starts with honesty it’s already a better start than most relationship.

 

[McFly]

You are suggesting that this is a female Tony/Elf Gone Bad...

Be it Tony/EGB or anyone else, I guess it's possible. But I had the impression that it was the mother that wanted to go out with a previous hobbyist and see what other hobbyist would say about it. I know this got twisted in my head while I read it. I just wanted to see if that angle was a possible one.

I was a passive merbist these past years, so I don't really know about all the stories that are going on.

 

[Robert39]

Gents & @EagerBeaver / @McFly - very interesting, but no I'm just a guy struggling through life, who's got fucked around in the past and hoping for some peace and luv in my old age (though I'll settle for peace and affection and some good action) @EagerBeaver - very impressive writing (I mean that sincerely - commanding use of metaphors!)

 

[Flyingby]

Funny that a bunch of people that hobby for different reason: cheating on spouse/gf, can’t find a girl without money, can’t commit to a relationship, etc can be so judgemental.... maybe look yourself in the mirror first?

Well. OP asked for opinions
So that entitles us to give it, no?

 

[minutemenX]

Do you know that some SPs despise men who pay for sex and will not date them in the civil life?

Do you know that they also have a saying that the client will always be a client? This is a strange world and the prejudice goes both ways.

 

[The blondeguy]

Robert, go for it. You have one life, live it. I know an ex SP who settled down and she is happy. Best of luck to you, all the best.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Do you know that some SPs despise men who pay for sex and will not date them in the civil life?

I met an escort like that at SD years ago, after our session we sat back and had a few drinks and smoked some weed ( I was her last customer ) and talked for about 2 hours, she mentioned the same thing. I also asked if she had a boyfriend and she said she would not date someone who let her be an escort.

 

[sorengard]

I met an escort like that at SD years ago, after our session we sat back and had a few drinks and smoked some weed ( I was her last customer ) and talked for about 2 hours, she mentioned the same thing. I also asked if she had a boyfriend and she said she would not date someone who let her be an escort.

Her comment says so much about the dynamics of this hobby. I used to think SPs looked down on their clients for needing them. Only later did I realize the SPs detested clients because they hated themselves. That's when I said goodbye for good.

 

[nico61]

it’s like this thread has in some way opened up a can of worms. My experience with most of the SP’s I have been with dont Hate their clients. Are we all forgetting that basically an SP‘s work is one of the oldest profession in the world? some of these SP’s use this money to pay for education, debts, etc. Some at least enjoy their work.
one SP I was seeing told me she was addicted to her job. She truly liked that she was giving pleasure and getting pleasure in return. And to boot getting $$$$ for the service. I had been seeing an SP who was very much into me. she had a regular Job but to make ends meet she became an SP. We had such great chemistry. At one point she wanted to date. Our age difference was for Me the deal breaker. Bottom line is how many guys would date a women knowing she was a Former SP?
in civilian life how many single guys would date a divorcee with a young kid or more ?

 

[Frankydoodle]

Well. OP asked for opinions
So that entitles us to give it, no?

Yes indeed i agree, but there is a difference between giving your (not pointing you specifically) opinion and “putting” the individual down for asking or the ex-SP for their past. Most reply from stereotypes rather than personal experience. That’s all i am saying. We hobby for different reasons and SPs do what they do for different reasons....

 

[JornyHerk]

it’s like this thread has in some way opened up a can of worms. My experience with most of the SP’s I have been with dont Hate their clients. Are we all forgetting that basically an SP‘s work is one of the oldest profession in the world? some of these SP’s use this money to pay for education, debts, etc. Some at least enjoy their work.
one SP I was seeing told me she was addicted to her job. She truly liked that she was giving pleasure and getting pleasure in return. And to boot getting $$$$ for the service. I had been seeing an SP who was very much into me. she had a regular Job but to make ends meet she became an SP. We had such great chemistry. At one point she wanted to date. Our age difference was for Me the deal breaker. Bottom line is how many guys would date a women knowing she was a Former SP?
in civilian life how many single guys would date a divorcee with a young kid or more ?

Haha Yeah and the stripper thinks you're VERY handsome.
And the waitress thinks you're SUPER funny.
and the barmaid finds you EXTREMELY charming.

 

[sorengard]

Haha Yeah and the stripper thinks you're VERY handsome.
And the waitress thinks you're SUPER funny.
and the barmaid finds you EXTREMELY charming.

Bingo. If only guys realized this more often, they would avoid a mountain of trouble.

 

[nico61]

Haha Yeah and the stripper thinks you're VERY handsome.
And the waitress thinks you're SUPER funny.
and the barmaid finds you EXTREMELY charming.

Lol.. the $$$$$$ rules I get that. just To say it’s my new perspective. I’m a guy that was married to the same woman for 31 years. Cancer took her away and her passing wrecked me possibly forever.

 

[Marlakai]

Haha! That's funny! Thanks you made my day!

OP you should give a try if you are comfortable with that go for it.

Glad to see I brightened up somebody's day with anecdotal evidences and experiences!

 

[Oldbastard]

The worst thing about that *job* the way they describe it , it’s being in a world of pure fantasy with nice hotel, fancy meals, big car and money, money, money. But the honesty for themselves, it’s a empty basket and no real life.
When they will realize it will be be to late.
Very sad but it’s the REAL thing!

 

[Flyingby]

The worst thing about that *job* the way they describe it , it’s being in a world of pure fantasy with nice hotel, fancy meals, big car and money, money, money. But the honesty for themselves, it’s a empty basket and no real life.
When they will realize it will be be to late.
Very sad but it’s the REAL thing!

I think you are correct for over 80% of the girls. But there is a minority who will get out of it with a paid condo, a paid car, new boobs a paid mba. Lots of jewelry. And a smirk on her face thinking. Look at what you fuckers bought for me!
the other 80% lived the good life for a little bit. Then boom. Reality caught up and they wonder if it was worth it