Have you ever ask a SP out for a date?

[Jamesrenard44]

I'm just curious

No sex in mind. You exchange emails and you really have fun and you think she's having the same type of fun because for the moment, she's not making a dime off of you and she seems to enjoy the conversation (back and forth, not just answering questions)

Have you ever ask an SP out for a date (drink, coffee) just to chat?

 

[Mithridate]

No, as much has i have exchange a lot of emails with the ladies i have met, I have never push so far our connection either through emails or even on the phone.
However some are offering social time, and it seems that social time can be more than just a coffee If I read correctly, but what would be the difference between a daytime package (12 hours) and 12 hours of social time.
So 12 hours of social time would be without intimacy and the 12 hours daytime package would include some.
For me 12 hours social time would be like, ok for this period of time you are the ultimate GFE, going to see a movie, to a museum, walking in park "main dans la main"
So i could have had answered no, but I am confused about social time and daytime package.
Qapla
M.

 

[BookerL]

Hello all

The answer is yes many times ,however the situation being very different since I was a owner Booker for 2 decades .



Cheers



Booker

 

[ValWangSmiles]

Yes. This all happened overseas.

I was leaving said country (east of the prior iron curtain) and I told her and she pounced on exchanging emails and then FB names. Beforehand, from the first encounter, we clicked because we shared a very uncanny and very similar interest in type of music.

We went out for late lunch/dinner first and I picked out a restaurant that'd bring back memories of her home. The late summer sun dipped down as we sat outside and talked intimately. She had been my go-to as I was extracting myself out of a wreck of a relationship. She revealed a lot to me at the lunch. She didn't have a great childhood least to say. Her German stepfather made advances on her (and after living in Germany for a few years, stories like this don't even make me surprised anymore, ugh). She did make clear that she was twisted in her head in a way, and I really appreciate her for that, because I knew not to have pursued beyond a friendship.

Before I took off, I gave her a card through one of her coworkers at where she worked.

When I came back to visit said country, I let her know on FB and we agreed to go out for dinner and dancing at a club. I took her to TGIF, because, as a full-blooded American, this is our most prized representative of 'Merica. </sarcasm>. I took her clubbing at a dance club where I knew the owners and promoters. I always had friends there with bottles and I never paid for drinks there, and I was trying to explain to her, that it's cool, she didn't have to pay for any of her drinks since she was with me. But she went ahead and bought her own drink. I'm glad she wasn't a gold-digger type of girl or female friend - I've known more than a few like that that took advantage of me before.

After that, she left said country and I did too. From FB, I think she has a new bf, the rough, mean looking, not smiling, tough, tattooed, beefcake, rough cut kind of caveman who'd sweep her off, taking her by the hair, type guy. I actually think the 2 of them fit together; i.e. only that type of guy would be able to rough handle a kind of girl she is that's been through a rough childhood and has trust issues. And previous drug addictions. But we're still on good terms and wish happy holidays to each other.

As cliched as it is, if you two click, and female intuition is way better than male intuition, then she'll even want to initiate the date out. If, further, she's even super cool and honest, she'd tell you upfront her boundaries and if she's a total basket case or not.

 

[Ricky bonds]

Yes several times. (Ive dated sp's, lived with sp's, been friends, fallen in love, and had some fall in love and go batshit crazy when i reviewed other girls)
The best advice i can give is never, ever, ever under any circumstances go into the 'off the clock' zone with a working girl.
If you absolutely must get more 'comfortable' and 'intimate'..never go any further than being grandfathered (never ask for this if it isn't presented to you)..your sanity may depend on it.

last but not least..before going down that rabbit hole if the urge is too strong, verify what medication she is on (if any) and research what said medication is used for to understand what type of issues you could possibly be dealing with in any relationship beyond an hour at a time..
And i say this with all respect due, like in any walk of life there are all types of people, and i really hate to stereotype..it just so happens that many lovely ladies i have met were dealing with serious issues..serious issues that i could have been forewarned of had i just read the labels and googled a complicated name.

 

[ramblinman69]

You are a wise man RB, I ventured into that twilight zone and still feel the pain. Unfortunately, it"s easyer said than done

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

The best advice i can give is never, ever, ever under any circumstances go into the 'off the clock' zone with a working girl.

And always make sure you pay the SP even if you " forgot your wallet ", or expect freebies for any reasons, these things always come back and kick you in the ass.
Just saying.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

The ''forgot my wallet'' or ''oups,didn't bring enough''or my favorite :handing the money hand to hand at the end and holding to it to see if I will take it are the lamest stunt to pull on a lady and enough to make one reconsider if you are good to see again...

I know the intent and had to go thru that a few times with various ex-regulars.

You are thinking :'' we've been seeing each other for x times,we have so much fun and she seems to really enjoys our time together,wait, if she was really enjoying it she would meet even for free so if I will pretend I forgot the donation she will laugh it off and say ''forget it,you I should be the one paying me...'' sigh

What I am thinking while you wait to see if I will say that is: ''really? He is that cheap?Never thought that of him...''

Myself, if I was on the other end and really liked someone ,and could afford it of course ,I would like to spoil her silly,not try to shortchange her...''

I had a mistress a few years ago,there is nothing I would have like more then to take her to Paris and wave off if she wanted to pay...
Only manage a few locals escapades ,but still it was fun to spoil her a bit.

To be spoiled is fun too lol

 

[Ricky bonds]

And always make sure you pay the SP even if you " forgot your wallet ", or expect freebies for any reasons, these things always come back and kick you in the ass.
Just saying.

..poor bastard that forgets his wallet, that deserves a serious beatdown.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Sometime it is true, I still laugh about that one: it was an incall which make me nervous to start with,I prefer to be the one knocking to the one waiting,so the door rang,I open and a gentleman look at me from the stairs and said ''I forgot the donation,be right back...''

Hum,for me it was a first but I heard about that stunt and it took a long time so I thought that was it,I put back my jeans,I was waiting only with lingerie and a shirt...and lo and behold he came back!
I told him I thought I just had been stood up,he said it never even crossed him mind,he was a real gentleman ,we proceed to have a wonderful time together.

I was very happy to be wrong...

 

[SilverDust]

To be spoiled is fun too lol[/QUOTE]

I tend to spoil, and enjoy it once I am comfortable. Just got to remind myself not to get attached..lol

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Of course ,as long as everybody is aware of the boundaries all is well.
Which make me think,it is ok to ask for off the clock meeting,be it for coffee,drink or dinner,but if the lady says no,please do not insist.
If she could, she would ,and arguing is really a turn-off...

 

[eviltmp]

Take it from all the guys that have spent time with SP's outside the biz. Just don't do it. I know it sounds like a good idea and all and i know the thoughts that will go through your head but it's not going to meet your expactations.

 

[FreeG]

It's good to hear experience on this! I too have the fantasy that an SP will want to spend time with me afterwards or hookup off the clock for the sole reason that she had so much fun with me! But I must continually remind myself that this is fantasy: it's just not going to happen in reality!

 

[Thor Jr]

I would like to believe that not all situations and also the ladies are the same, this may be the way they make their living, and its their job to reel you in like a salesman reels you in, but they are also human beings with a heart and soul and maybe, just maybe, they do like your company outside of their work. If they feel they have to take advantage of our good will and kindness, then shame on them, i would like to believe i have a kind heart, if you must take advantage of this then you are not a lady.


Thor Jr

 

[gaby]

I would like to believe that not all situations and also the ladies are the same, this may be the way they make their living, and its their job to reel you in like a salesman reels you in, but they are also human beings with a heart and soul and maybe, just maybe, they do like your company outside of their work. If they feel they have to take advantage of our good will and kindness, then shame on them, i would like to believe i have a kind heart, if you must take advantage of this then you are not a lady.


Thor Jr

Well said . I like your comment and really share your view on that subject.

 

[Maria Divina]

Gentlemen, if I may put my little grain of salt, from the other side of the fence :smile:

I did share, really rare few times from all my years of experiences, some "off the clock" times with my complices de rencontre.

But, I am very precautious because I am afraid that it could bring more negative than positive, ei: I don't want nobody to fall in love or to open the door to more expectations, could it be on the personal side or even, on some eventual future encounters, to take things for granted after, and to have to deal with someone disappointed or worst, frustrated.

I did lived some experiences that some were pushing, and pushing so hard to enter my private life. That's a really uncomfortable situation.

The basic goal is to live the nicest adventures possible. (I think it might be the same for everyone, right?)
I don't want to find a boyfriend or an husband. So, that's clear it is without string attached.

I appreciate very much and connect with some very beautifully, but I always clearly wanted to stay without any string (this said, no put intented here.... :lol: ....)

So, that's my own experience on this matter.


If I might give you any advice, be sure that if you invite the girl/woman that you met as an escort, of the purpose of this invitation and that both are at ease with it.

Keep in mind that all ladies are probably customized to receive all kind of sollicitations to meet "off the clock", that's very common, you cannot even imagine, believe me. hahaha :lol:
And to give some special donation for different reasons to someone unknown, sometimes. :violin:

 

[Mithridate]

Gentlemen, if I may put my little grain of salt, from the other side of the fence :smile:

I did share, really rare few times from all my years of experiences, some "off the clock" times with my complices de rencontre.

But, I am very precautious because I am afraid that it could bring more negative than positive, ei: I don't want nobody to fall in love or to open the door to more expectations, could it be on the personal side or even, on some eventual future encounters, to take things for granted after, and to have to deal with someone disappointed or worst, frustrated.

I did lived some experiences that some were pushing, and pushing so hard to enter my private life. That's a really uncomfortable situation.

The basic goal is to live the nicest adventures possible. (I think it might be the same for everyone, right?)
I don't want to find a boyfriend or an husband. So, that's clear it is without string attached.

I appreciate very much and connect with some very beautifully, but I always clearly wanted to stay without any string (this said, no put intented here.... :lol: ....)

So, that's my own experience on this matter.


If I might give you any advice, be sure that if you invite the girl/woman that you met as an escort, of the purpose of this invitation and that both are at ease with it.

Keep in mind that all ladies are probably customized to receive all kind of sollicitations to meet "off the clock", that's very common, you cannot even imagine, believe me. hahaha :lol:
And to give some special donation for different reasons to someone unknown, sometimes. :violin:

Dear Maria
You are as wise as Yoda in Star Wars, but you are a lot prettier:lol:
You have resume in a very nice way, what an encounter is, dinner, overnight etc, sure it take some discipline not to cross the line.
But when you are in a period of your live that you do not want a girlfriend or a wife, I had 2, I think its enough, you feel the freedom, at least it is how I feel
Qapla
M

 

[Jamesrenard44]

Thank you Maria for your input

Saying "I don't want to find a boyfriend or an husband" is a big statement. I was just curious to know if it's regarding everyone or just persons who contact you as being Maria? For the rest, I admire your honesty!

"Keep in mind that all ladies are probably customized to receive all kind of sollicitations to meet "off the clock", that's very common, you cannot even imagine, believe me. hahaha
And to give some special donation for different reasons to someone unknown, sometimes. "

I'll just never understand those people....

 

[Jamesrenard44]

I don't think that seeing an SP off the clock after having sex with her is a good idea. Sex change everything, plus you've met her in her "work status", it changes the dynamic I think.