Have you ever been sexually abused or harrassed ?

[cloudsurf]

With all this Weinstein talk....has anything like this happened to you or your friends ?

Escorts have told me stories about being raped by a relative. Many instances of guys exposing themselves ....usually on the Metro.
Or fending off an attempted rape on the street.

Harry Styles got his crotch grabbed at a recent concert.

What about you ?

I was sexually violated in a very mild way about 10 years ago. So mild that I forgot about it till now.

I was riding on a bus with one of my customers. We talked about business and family.
Then at one point he put his hand on my knee. I thought it was an accident and lifted his hand off my knee and onto his.
A few minutes later he put his hand back but this time on my thigh. Again I took his hand off. Since he was an important customer I couldn`t punch him or even tell him off. Luckily we soon arrived at our destination and separated quickly.

 

[clark_larson]

A few weeks ago around 10PM I was waiting for a friend, a guy approached me started a discussion, he was obviously gay and complimented me on my style, nothing to worry about. Out of nowhere he grabbed my junk, I got mad and threw multiple punches, he fell down,I fled the scene. Now this son of a bitch knows there are consequences to his actions.
I consider that being mild compared to what other people have experienced.

 

[jalimon]

Sonia of Unicorn abused me beyond belief! But it was soooo good Just kidding...

Of course I will not name names but of 3 SP I openly ask in the last 6 months, one confirmed she was rapped before turning 18.

Since a video came out of a women walking down the street of New York I did ask a lot of girl if they were ever harassed sexually. But let's be clear, I did told them that what we saw in that famous video of that new york girl is not sexual harassment for me. It's a bunch of guys commenting on a nice girl walking down the street. Still I would say 50% of women told me they have been physically or verbally harassed before. I cannot comment more on the level of the abuse. Maybe some considered harassment what was just a failed intention. Hey even me who look like Brad Pitt (just kidding again) I had girls turning me down when trying to kiss them. But what matter is the number, seriously 50% and perhaps more as I did not wrote everything down responded yes...

Cheers,

 

[cloudsurf]

Sexual abuse is grossly under reported. Some estimates are that 25% of women and 10% of men have been sexually abused some time in their life.
The true figures are probably much higher.

 

[Doc Holliday]

I was sexually harassed by a female colleague of mine about 20 years ago. It happened repeatedly and there was no getting through to her that her advances were not welcome. It got to be a big problem whenever we'd be out socially at the same place & she'd be drinking alcohol. And then she moved into the same apartment building and would come knocking on my door at night wearing barely anything. When she'd find herself a boyfriend i thought it would stop but it did not.

The problem wasn't that she was unattractive (unless you happen to like psychotic overweight girls) but mostly because i was in a common law relationship at the time & it started to create problems between me and my partner. The psycho bitch had even started to befriend her and was trying to put all kinds of crazy ideas (all lies) into her head in order to cause problems in our relationship. It stopped after she got word that i was considering putting a restraining order on her. She had also heard that i had approached our employer about it but that didn't seem to bother her. My ex-partner at the time considered assaulting her but i managed to convince her that it would only complicate things for myself and herself. Let's just say that it gave me a new insight into sexual harassment and i realized that it's no laughing matter. It can be pure hell!

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

That might be a delicate topic and "too personal" (to relate with another thread)... but the % of sp that were abused before getting in the business is incredibly high..

Let say, I won't talk about abuse/rape,... but as harassment, when I was 29weeks pregnant (with that pretty round belly), I was going at my class and had to cross a long field area..Few morning, it happened that I was getting approached by this guy in his car, rolling next to me and trying to get my number..I saw him 3 times within a month...but there was that morning... I was heading the field area and I recognized his car, parked this time...I was walking in an hurry to just ignore him and as I was next of his car I looked quickly but it seems like my brain couldn't do the connection because of the morality or I don't but it took me few seconds to realize he was jerking off in his car...the thing is, by the time I realized it, I was in the middle of the field and he was rolling next to me and telling me with his hand to get in his car...I screamed at him to fuck off and I went backward on my way (it was a one way street)..

I didn't have my cellphone for some reason so I went at the first house where people were awake... 3 guys were working in a garage and joking while the radio was on and they were fixing a car "can I use your phone?"..one of them was cleaning his hands and asked me with the most friendly smile while taking his wireless phone from the cgarger "you wanna call your boyfriend?"...but his smile disappeared when he saw me bursted in tears..I just couldn't manage being that harmless while carrying my baby and seeing some taking advantage of it was making me sick...

I went on a flasher forum and lashed out on them...but they told me flashers won't get someone in a field, as They won't ask their victims to join them either..they told me to avoid passing by this way since this guy was more of an abuser and that I am this vulnerable would just make things worse..

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

Sexual abuse is grossly under reported. Some estimates are that 25% of women and 10% of men have been sexually abused some time in their life.
The true figures are probably much higher.

As for women, much, much higher. I was talking about this last night in the car with my, um, "better half" and she told me that she was raped twice when considerably younger, both times by boyfriends who took her forcibly without consent. She went on to tell me that she knows more women who have been assaulted/abused than who have not.

She also told me of a couple of frightening encounters on the streets of Montreal where she was close to calling the police. And she's told me that she avoids the Main during F1 week simply because the men on the street are particularly crude and obnoxious.

It ain't a pretty picture. I hope the shit that's going down now will have some long term effect.

 

[EagerBeaver]

I had a similar experience to Sam 21 which occurred when I was 17. I was at a large shopping mall in the town I grew up in and went to use the public restroom that was there. It was a large restroom with many toilets. As I walked in I had a sense of someone walking behind me but thought nothing of it. I walked in to one of the toilet stalls to take care of my business. There was a man who followed me in to the stall and began touching from behind me in a sexual manner. Instinctively, I wheeled around and threw a hard right hand punch into his solar plexus. The dude was much bigger than me and my sense was probably stronger, but the punch to the solar plexus stunned him for a second and enabled me to run past him, out of toilet, out of the restroom and into the food court, where I found the head of mall security, I guy I knew personally at the time on a first name basis. I told him what happened and he searched for but could not find the suspect. The guy didn’t really get a good feel on me. I was more scared than anything else because I would not have been able to overpower this guy, had it come down to that.

 

[heliragedeleted]

This is way tooo personal....
I think the worst part of these abuses is the effects not only the victim; But also included serious side effects on the entire family. A very close female in my family was raped as a child by a neighbor in her building. She never really recuperated from this horrific event. It perturbe the entire family, the sense of helpless and sorrow was sometimes difficult to tolerate. Some events leave terrible scars.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Well i guess im too ugly. Never happened to me. Oh well i can say that there is at least one good side to not being attractive

Considering how shy i am in real life i would actually welcome a "pushy" attitude by a woman.

Its weird cause when i read about all these harrasment or assault story i am completely unfazed by them. I mean not as in not understanding there bad behaviors, this i know, but as in "how the hell can they do that" as it would never cross my mind to do something like that.

Even in escort parties, i mean i see lot of dudes with "silky hands" and being all over the girls, but me... unless she clearly make a move first, i am way too shy to do anything like this. Its not in my nature. Paid "meetings" are different as you clearly pay for the service. Social set ups like parties i feel the general rules of society applies. So imagine a total stranger or a mere "conaissance" or job buddy. NEVER in a million here ... lol

(But even in paid meeting, took me years to be the one initiating contacts, the first time i remember it was an SP that was very "talkative" so i saw there was already 20 minutes pass, so i had to do something lol)

 

[TD Bank]

When I was 18 I looked 16. I was in a metro car with one other passenger. The whole train was almost empty. It was a woman of about 30-35. She was wearing dark glasses and sat across from me on the double bench on the other side of the side doors. At one point she pulled up her skirt and exposed herself to me. I was embarrassed and look to the side.

Around the same years I went with a couple of friends to Lenzos restaurant near the old forum. I never liked to use the urinals in the washrooms so I went inside a booth. This tall guy stuck his head over the toilet stall and winked at me. I pulled out an exacto knife and thrust it towards his face and his head disappeared. I kicked the stall door and it opened outwards and hung on one hinge. The last I saw of the guy was his back as he ran out the door.

 

[jalimon]

Court delays also keep victims from filing reports, the pressure of testifying in front of a jury, lawyers and curious crowd, being scared to look nervous, to forget stuff, to stutter, not knowing what questions will be asked to maybe trick you, seeing the accuser and maybe his entourage in the crowd, your real name being called in front of everybody present, having to recall and tell this unfortunate event again... That's alot to bare and it can be extremely overwhelming.

So many injustices and crimes are being swept under the rug because of these reasons, it's really sad.

Thank so much for your post Mocha. There is so much hard core dude on this board that should read it a few times and begin to think that mentality towards women can be changed. You can call me naive but I do believe in full equality of sex without being afraid of guru feminist running the show. I know for a fact women like sex as much as we do and all can be done in a full consensual way.

Cheers,

 

[Doc Holliday]

I was at a merb party. I think it was the last one i attended. It was getting late and people had started to leave. On her way out an sp i had been introduced to earlier came over to say goodbye and she was leaving. So we hugged one another and the next thing you know she takes a hold of my head and starts frenchkissing me. I was stunned since i had never heard of her before and had pretty much just met her. And the frenchkissing went on for what seemed like minutes. Eventually she stopped and told me i should call her and left. I felt so used!

The next day i meet a black girl i had met at the party. She and her friend had arrived very late as people were leaving. We're talking on the sofa and she mentions seeing this couple make out right in front of her and her friend. I told her it was me. Oh!

About 7 or 8 years ago i'm at the French Courtesans halloween party which was held in a private residence. Later two girls arrive and one of them starts to chat it up with a couple of the guys she seemed to know. The cuter one of the two was just standing there being ignored. So i walked up to her and asked her what her name was. She smiled and said that she was not an sp she just came to the party with her friend who was an sp. A few minutes later it just happens that i have to go to the bathroom and the girl i had spoken with a few minutes earlier is standing by the door waiting her turn. So when it as her turn she walked in and told me i could come in also. I said 'no, it's ok' and waited outside. About two minutes later the door opens and instead of coming out she grabs my arm and pulls me in. She locks the door and shuts the light and then begins frenchkissing me. I was shocked to be honest but i couldn't really do anything. So i went with the flow and we made out for a few minutes until someone started knocking on the door. So we stopped, she opened the light, kissed me and told me 'see you in a few minutes'. I felt so violated!!!!

 

[jalimon]

Doc you misread the thread subject. This is not a thread about boy's dream

Cheers,

 

[clark_larson]

Your post seems more like bragging.

 

[Julia Sky]

This is such an awkward thread.

 

[minutemenX]

I have suffered often and a lot from the “blue balls” syndrome in my youth when girls were willing to get to the main course as close as possible without doing it. It was quite painful both physically and emotionally. Can this be considered a sexual harassment?

 

[Hydargoos]

Abusé, non. Harcelé par un homosexuel, ça, ça m'est déjà arrivé dans les années 2003-2005 quand je travaillais dans un resto. On commençait en même temps et il me pognait tjrs la poitrine dans le vestiaire. Des fois, il me faisait des clins d'oeil aussi. Je ne suis pas violent mais lui, j'avais envie de lui en sacrer une. Surtout que moi, je suis exclusivement aux femmes

 

[jalimon]

This is such an awkward thread.

Why? Julia I am discovering there is so many dude here that do not take abuse or harassment toward women seriously. I know I was one of them a few year ago...

Cheers,

 

[clark_larson]

Why? Julia I am discovering there is so many dude here that do not take abuse or harassment toward women seriously. I know I was one of them a few year ago...

Cheers,

Because it probably happened to her and is embarrassed to talk about it. It is understandable. In any case she should take proper action.