Having control over your ejaculation

[Birds]

I find I struggle in this area. If the girl is really hot and I am really into her, I last a very short time. For example, last Friday I met a blonde goddess. She was young, like 19 years old. She had a perfect looking face with beautiful teeth and eyes. Very nice body with a good ass. She reminded me of porn star Alexis Texas. She was very soft and gentle. Well, while I was sitting on a chair, she sit on top of me and she started bouncing her nice ass on my cock. She was very good at riding cock, kinda like Alexis Texas. I came in like 20 seconds! That's quite short for the 200$ I paid. I really wanted to let her ride me for a while then pound her hard in doggy style position for a long time, but I could not. I wish I could control my ejaculation to make good sex last longer. Guys in porn seem to be able to go forever. I wish I could last for about half the time the guys in porn with a hot woman.

The thing is, there are often times when I last a long time with girls, but more often than not, it is because I am less into it. When a girl doesn't impress me much with her appearance or when there is a lack of chemistry or when her pussy is dry/too tight, I can last really long times, but often I struggle to ejaculate. I have the risk of my dick going soft, and there were times when I could not ejaculate at all. Also there were times when I decided to jack off at home the same day before seeing an escort, but instead of making me last longer, it would make me softer and less into the sex, thus not enjoying it as much.

So basically the more I enjoy the sex, the quicker I come. I wish I could enjoy the sex a lot and STILL last a long time. Is this even possible?

 

[MaxxxEdge]

Baseball... baseball... :lol:

If I was with Alexis Texas, I'd last about 20 seconds too...

 

[The Snark]

How old are you? Experience makes a big difference in these matters. When I was younger I had the same problem, but now I can more or less control ejaculation at will. It's mostly a matter of practice and confidence.

 

[TigerWould]

Try maybe having a few drinks before sex. That works for me. Relaxes me and sort of "numbs" the feeling a little, even makes me hornier! Not saying to get totally wasted, just 2-3 drinks.

 

[Merlot]

Hello Guys,

I have to admit Peter Mojo just isn't the same any more. When I was much younger all I needed was the Sears catalog adult bra section and I could shoot out a row of 14 tiny lighted matches at a distance 7 paces with deadly pinpoint accuracy. These days despite access to the best porn the world can offer I need bigger and fewer targets and a shotgun effect, though Alexis Texas and her big cheeks do help.

How old are you? Experience makes a big difference in these matters. When I was younger I had the same problem, but now I can more or less control ejaculation at will. It's mostly a matter of practice and confidence.

Okay to answer the question, with experience we do know where the edge of the fuse is and how to control it, even though there are still response triggers that make full control impossible. Still, I think it's a matter of personal biology. My good friend is the same age and he still has a lot of hard work not to finish very early with a condom. I'm the opposite. So I wonder if it's the luck of the draw biologically rather than experience.

Good luck,

Merlot

 

[Siocnarf]

So I wonder if it's the luck of the draw biologically rather than experience.

It's both. When I was inexperienced I had the opposite problem. It took forever to come when I was with a woman, although by myself I could come as quick or slowly as I wanted. With experience I learned to be more natural, less self-conscious and just let my instinct take charge.

It's not something you can control consciously, like walking or chewing. It takes a while to figure out what works for you. Also, along the way I found some great escorts that were perfect for me. It can take time also to find a good match in partners. Just because you pay someone and you find her hot does not mean that things are going to go down the way you want them to.

For premature ejaculation, I'm not an expert, but I would suggest not to focus too much on intercourse. Build up to it. Get a good GFE that likes to take it slow and lots of foreplay. Hopefully you will learn to control your desire so that it is not too intense, but not too dim either. Ideally, a sex therapist could help you solve the problem and find the right solution for you, but that must cost a lot!

 

[themonk83]

definitely some kegel exercices. you can do it anywhere from sitting down to eating/working. and do them while you pee. helps control the flow

 

[2fast2slow]

I,m exactly the same way, the more beautiful, the harder to control, unles its soon after refractory period. I use to frustrate my girlsfriends because of this. But age and experience really helped. Also, seeing alot of escorts helped (take that C36!, there is a therapeutic reason to see escorts)) Having sex with a lot of different women sort of de-mistifies them, makes you gain confidence and control.

You learn to slow your pace down when you are getting close to losing your control and accelerate if you feel like your going soft.

Also I think the fact that we have a hard time staying erect with average looking girls could be a side effect of habitual porn viewing

But one in a while i still 'mess up" and come too fast. The one time I saw the infamous Michaela I had not come for a several days beforehand. She was (is) so breautiful! Like a true porn star, beautiful face, slim with huge manmades. I came immediately after entering her! I wish I could get a do-over!

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

For example, last Friday I met a blonde goddess. She was young, like 19 years old. She had a perfect looking face with beautiful teeth and eyes. Very nice body with a good ass. She reminded me of porn star Alexis Texas.

Looks like a good find, can not find the review?

For me it is the opposite now the SP was to work to make it happen quickly. I tried some organic type Viagra ( forget the name ) years ago and I would get very hard but not able to cum ( this was my going to full sex strip club days and after 3 songs some would charge extra,,,, not good ).

 

[TheBlob]

Looks like a good find, can not find the review?

For me it is the opposite now the SP was to work to make it happen quickly. I tried some organic type Viagra ( forget the name ) years ago and I would get very hard but not able to cum ( this was my going to full sex strip club days and after 3 songs some would charge extra,,,, not good ).

Horny goat weed maybe?

For the OP problem, i'm the same and always have been. It's either i come too fast, or i barely get hard. I know that's all in my head because when i do get hard, it's as strong as wood. Also the more i have sex, the more i can control myself. But when it's been weeks since i had intercourse, usually it doesn't last long.

There are some approved medical treatment to control premature ejaculation, they can extend your time by a significant value, but i don't necessarily recommend it. I confirm it works, but i would not abuse of it. Self-control is the way to go. Personally i like to set the pace myself, so i can adjust the speed at will. A girl taking control and riding me will make me cum in no time. I know i can't go full throttle for long period, even if i would like to bang a girl real hard and fast, so i make sure to change my pace regularely. Start slow, go faster, slow down, repeat. Girls like rythm changes too.

 

[Loutre]

Also I think the fact that we have a hard time staying erect with average looking girls could be a side effect of habitual porn viewing

There's a lot of anecdotal evidence that porn watching affects how you respond sexually when not watching porn. (check out yourbrainonporn.com). Whatever practice you do to gain better control, I wouldn't suggest not doing it while watching or fantasizing about porn. Focus on the sensation instead.

 

[Perverted]

I find I struggle in this area. If the girl is really hot and I am really into her, I last a very short time. For example, last Friday I met a blonde goddess. She was young, like 19 years old. She had a perfect looking face with beautiful teeth and eyes. Very nice body with a good ass. She reminded me of porn star Alexis Texas.?

Who was this sp she sounds lovely?

 

[MaxxxEdge]

She had a perfect looking face with beautiful teeth and eyes. Very nice body with a good ass. She reminded me of porn star Alexis Texas.

Was she gap-toothed like Alexis?

Guys in porn seem to be able to go forever. I wish I could last for about half the time the guys in porn with a hot woman.

With experience comes control... But one thing you may not realize is that porn fucking is different than "real fucking." In porn, you have to open up to the camera. It's also often a lot more start/stop/start than what you see on screen. Someone has to pee... The girl's sponge isn't holding back her menstrual flow and the camera is picking it up... The guy has a brief wood problem because a position was difficult especially because he had to stay opened up for the camera... Good editors are the unsung heroes of the industry. I usually last a long time, but once past a certain point, coming can be a problem. Jerking it helps, but I'm usually lucky with accommodating talent that let's me fuck normally for a few minutes to bring me to my edge. Don't compare your ability to last to a porn scene... Not only is it unfair to yourself, it's not what it seems...

 

[themonk83]

its all in the head. i'm the same too. if i'm in horny as fuck, i have no problem but once the mind drifts away, oh boy!

 

[Kasey Jones]

definitely some kegel exercices. you can do it anywhere from sitting down to eating/working. and do them while you pee. helps control the flow

don't do them while you pee... You can try to find the right muscles while you are peeing, but doing the exercise while peeing can have the opposite effect.

http://www.simonfoundation.org/About_Incontinence_Treatment_Options_Kegels_for_Men.html

http://www.wikihow.com/Do-Kegel-Exercises

 

[BookerL]

The girl's sponge isn't holding back her menstrual flow and the camera is picking it up...

Well Maxxx this is a funny one ,since escorts also uses sponge for the same reasons ,but for escorts the problem is that the sponge is push deeper and is harder to remove after !Falling off would gross out the clients ,don't you think?
Stage sex is different then real sex in many different ways ,the tricks to hold off applies in both .
Doing stage sex shows myself, permitted me to learn and trained .
Choreograph sex for the enjoyment of the crowd .
And generally speaking the audience wants to see the girl cum the guy not so much .
So a 20 second performance doesn't make it ! :lol:

Cheers

BookerL

 

[MaxxxEdge]

Well Maxxx this is a funny one ,since escorts also uses sponge for the same reasons ,but for escorts the problem is that the sponge is push deeper and is harder to remove after !Falling off would gross out the clients ,don't you think?
Stage sex is different then real sex in many different ways ,the tricks to hold off applies in both .
Doing stage sex shows myself, permitted me to learn and trained .
Choreograph sex for the enjoyment of the crowd .
And generally speaking the audience wants to see the girl cum the guy not so much .
So a 20 second performance doesn't make it ! :lol:

Cheers

BookerL

Not sure if it's your English or my lack of understanding. You seem to imply that I don't know that about escorts or that the porn girls don't have the problem of the sponge being pushed in... I've been asked to remove many a sponge that the girl couldn't remove because it was forced too deep. Keep in mind the average male talent is bigger than the average John... Who do you think is going to drive the sponge in deeper or better yet dislodge it to the side so the flow becomes visible. I think it depends on the client and how open minded they are. I'm not put off by the red tide... Menstration is a natural process, many girls get horny during that time, so if a girl asks me to fuck her while on her period, who am I to say "no," especially if that girl has cleaned her ass off my cock with her tongue.

Stage sex or even webcam sex is also different from porn sex in that you don't have to open up as much. In porn, there is often a look through shot where the camera is very close to the action, except you have to elevate and separate yourself so the camera can see the fucking up close but a "look through" of the girls expression also in the frame through the gap created in the action. This does not happen in real or stage sex, nor does either have the pauses in between positions so wood is more difficult in porn. The crowd in stage sex provides enough of a distraction to help keep you from cumming too quickly so that's different too, but they are far enough away that you can do your own thing if you are wired to do it and have the control to perform. On the other hand, fucking a girl on camera in a room full of guys, starting and stopping, with a camera and a c-light 3-6 inches from your balls is a different experience altogether...

 

[BookerL]

Hello MaxxxEdge
Hello all

Not sure if it's your English or my lack of understanding. You seem to imply that I don't know that about escorts or that the porn girls don't have the problem of the sponge being pushed in... I've been asked to remove many a sponge that the girl couldn't remove because it was forced too deep. Keep in mind the average male talent is bigger than the average John

HaHa !:lol: There is no tweezers type talent in porn ?Hummmm !From comments from many girls in escorts it's is not rare ,so when they find a big talent they are overwhelmed and they play ,HaHa ,don't you agree?

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. Who do you think is going to drive the sponge in deeper or better yet dislodge it to the side so the flow becomes visible. I think it depends on the client and how open minded they are

I do agree it does depend on the client ,but from the reading of many refuses and my experience in the escort many clients prefer first appointment and first crack at the pussy that day .What is strange a guy calls a escort witch means that she is not exclusive ,her pussy was used to please someone else maybe just 30 minutes before ,guys in porn are more realistic they know and understand that girl moments ago was fucked by another talent
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. I'm not put off by the red tide... Menstration is a natural process, many girls get horny during that time, so if a girl asks me to fuck her while on her period, who am I to say "no," especially if that girl has cleaned her ass off my cock with her tongue.

I am all for that , I prefer duo and trios of girls with me everything goes ,Greek style ,snowballing ,DP, the fun in Dahouse ,I have had many interesting encounters with Montreal cuties ,very open-minded ladies in La Belle Province ,I live in Vancouver .But when I am in Montreal its playtime

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Stage sex or even webcam sex is also different from porn sex in that you don't have to open up as much. In porn, there is often a look through shot where the camera is very close to the action, except you have to elevate and separate yourself so the camera can see the fucking up close but a "look through" of the girls expression also in the frame through the gap created in the action. This does not happen in real or stage sex, nor does either have the pauses in between positions so wood is more difficult in porn. The crowd in stage sex provides enough of a distraction to help keep you from cumming too quickly so that's different too,.

So as a question in stage sex where their is a crowd of 20 people watching the performance and in porn where their is 20 people watching and filming the stess level will be different ,witch scenarios permits to hold off better the one where you stop for scenes or the one that is continuous ?

but they are far enough away that you can do your own thing if you are wired to do it and have the control to perform. On the other hand, fucking a girl on camera in a room full of guys, starting and stopping, with a camera and a c-light 3-6 inches from your balls is a different experience altogether...

I was not implying anything actually .Was just stating a fact that ,

Escorts do ware sponges has porn star or porn actresses do .Nothing more !

More often the sponge are push back that is the most frequent problem girls needs to wash the sponge in between the calls so they will not have bad odors ,sometime a girl started her shift and after first client she started her period ,we needed to rush at 24 hours pharmacy to get the sea sponge .I was a night booker and driver too,

But the most frequent problem I have faced with the sponge is that it went to far ,it did not fell, no client ever noticed the difference .

Girls are worried to loose their regulars if they are not available so they use all means to avoid that!
And sponge permits them to work even when in their period .
The hardest thing is stage sex in that you do not have a second third or fourth chance at it .

. Good editors are the unsung heroes of the industry.

Their is no editing, so must go with the flow .

Anyhow compliment for your great postings ,

you are interesting to read continue your good work

Un petit mot en francais merci MaxxxEdge


Warmest Regards

BookerL

 

[Halloween Mike]

Personally i have the oposite problem of OP, cumming is harder and harder over the years... Not when i masturbate... thats all fine. But with a girl, i could hold on as long as i want...

Hard on happen as soon as i get intimate with her(kiss, body touching) so its definately not a problem of errection. I think its because i feel if i cum too fast, i will waste the rest of my hour, and i know i can't go with MSOG, not enough time. I think i would need to book a 2h appointement to see...

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Remembering back to my younger days when control was an issue pot worked quite well.