How can we refuse a provider?
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You politely tell her its not going to work. Hasn't happened often, but I gave them 20$ for the driver and contacted the agency to let them know.
Don't wait... if you're feeling its not right from the start, let her go from the start. If you wait until she gets undressed.. well I would consider that too late.
Don't wait... if you're feeling its not right from the start, let her go from the start. If you wait until she gets undressed.. well I would consider that too late.
You need to pay for the session, unless it is a case of bait or switch or she is intoxicated or something bad in that sense
or if she was very late, like more than 20min or so
then if you feel no chemistry or attraction, what I would suggest is that you tell her you are having a bad day, ask her if it is ok to start with (receiving) a massage, if half way you are still not feeling like getting a BJ or HJ, just tell her you are tired or stressed at work, whatever, get dressed, thank her and leave
simply don't repeat, having bad sessions is something that happen from time to time, hopefully not too often if you do your research right
or if she was very late, like more than 20min or so
then if you feel no chemistry or attraction, what I would suggest is that you tell her you are having a bad day, ask her if it is ok to start with (receiving) a massage, if half way you are still not feeling like getting a BJ or HJ, just tell her you are tired or stressed at work, whatever, get dressed, thank her and leave
simply don't repeat, having bad sessions is something that happen from time to time, hopefully not too often if you do your research right
Yes, sadly I did pay for the session. I packed it in and left in 15minutes. I read reviews, but she hasn’t had many current ones. I think the “quality” providers seem to be regularly reviewed. Lesson learned. Time, $, agrevation, and uber$…. Thanks folks!
It sounds like an awkward situation. I appreciate the worry about being blacklisted by the agency, but in my experience, if it's a reputable agency, let them know how disappointed you were and they'll try to make it right.
And now the important thing: write a review! Otherwise someone else will have the same lousy experience you had. It defeats the purpose of MERB if folks rely on reviews but don't write them.
And now the important thing: write a review! Otherwise someone else will have the same lousy experience you had. It defeats the purpose of MERB if folks rely on reviews but don't write them.
Incall.. sort of trapped. Review coming up…
Hi Folks, I recently saw someone I’ve been trying to see for about a year. When I opened the door, I was thinking,”who is this”? The photos must have been 5 or more years, and 20lbs.ago. It was with an agency. I will not post or answer who it was. My question and immediate thoughts were, “ will I be banned from the agency, can I just give a little donation and leave”? Is it fair to us? What’s the protocol if any? I just sort of closed my eyes and forged ahead. $ would have been better spent elsewhere. Thank you.
Interesting it had never happened to me, I mean, yes, there had been times when the pictures were better than the escort, but never to the point I felt "bait and switched" and I simply went with it and I didn't regret, the sex was good enough
If you felt you had been bait and switched or scammed by the agency, then you should not worried about getting banned by it
otherwise, just accept the loss and assume that this is part of the risks on this industry (specially if you paid lower agency rates)
If you felt you had been bait and switched or scammed by the agency, then you should not worried about getting banned by it
otherwise, just accept the loss and assume that this is part of the risks on this industry (specially if you paid lower agency rates)
You pay for the session and politely tell her you changed your mind no need to elaborate.
If she gets her money she won’t give a shit.
Not worth starting an argument over money. It is worth paying to get rid of her smoothly and not have a bad session,
Why care about an agency blacklisting you who sends you an SP that is not acceptable to you.
You should be the one blacklisting that agency
If she gets her money she won’t give a shit.
Not worth starting an argument over money. It is worth paying to get rid of her smoothly and not have a bad session,
Why care about an agency blacklisting you who sends you an SP that is not acceptable to you.
You should be the one blacklisting that agency
It happened once to me. Not because of looks, but attitude. I called the agency (in front of her...). I don't remember exactly which words I used but I guess I was diplomatic. We settled on $100 for the hassle/transportation. I was a regular with the agency at the time.
Back in the day, when I just started out, I only called the ones from the back pages of Journal de Montreal. They had no pictures! I got what I got. Probably half was a waste of money, but I had a few who deserved repeats.
No matter what agency of indy you should pay for the session. She blocked some of her time for you. I try to change my photos often.. still, there's always going to be someone who thinks the provider doesn't look exactly like their photos, even if they're super realistic. Really often photos are edited and posed in a certain way, some people's weight fluctuate a lot. I look very different depending on the time of the month because I have a small frame. It's not the provider's fault if she looks slightly different from her photos that specific day, or if the agency chose to post those photos of her.
In a situation like this I recommend paying for the session and leaving or asking the provider to leave and inventing an excuse. That never happened to me except once.. one of my very first clients as an indy acted disgusted when he saw me in person, just because I didn't have time to put on makeup. He should have just left and given me money, but he decided to act really rude, try to coerce me into bbfs and when I said no made me suck his dick for a whole hour and then posted a bad review. (which was deleted since).. it was really traumatic
In a situation like this I recommend paying for the session and leaving or asking the provider to leave and inventing an excuse. That never happened to me except once.. one of my very first clients as an indy acted disgusted when he saw me in person, just because I didn't have time to put on makeup. He should have just left and given me money, but he decided to act really rude, try to coerce me into bbfs and when I said no made me suck his dick for a whole hour and then posted a bad review. (which was deleted since).. it was really traumatic
Consent goes both ways buddy. She has the right to end the session whenever she wants and so do you.
You may think you need to pay the session - I think its circumstantial. If she is late, not as described in pictures / stats, smelly, intoxicated, etc you should not have to compensate that. Or youre getting screwed over.
In this case she was late and your time is equally important. Any respectable agency should not penalize you for that.
You may think you need to pay the session - I think its circumstantial. If she is late, not as described in pictures / stats, smelly, intoxicated, etc you should not have to compensate that. Or youre getting screwed over.
In this case she was late and your time is equally important. Any respectable agency should not penalize you for that.
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This comment doesn't talk anybody being late.
"Not like her pictures" can be very subjective.
When I first began with seing ladies, It was on the back of the Journal de Montreal and you didn't have pictures, you didn't know.
I was very lucky in my first couple of encounters to stumble upon kind and beautiful woman.
I did refused to let someone in once. It was not what was advertised, and she looked absolutly intoxicated, like barely standing up.
I paid a 40$ dollar fee, had a disuccsion with the driver and felt horrible about doing it. Should I have given her the entire amount?
I'm torned, because yes that is a prejudice towards her, but someone somewhere didn't care about her well being and didn't care about my needs either.
Then I though, what if I showed up on a door and upon looking at me threw the peep-hole, I could hear giggle, and her saying : NO thanks.
I am not ugly or fat, but I'm most certainly not the physical speciman that a given sp would like to see either.
I made mistakes, some Sp did as well.
It was expensive to learn.
I have since learned to go threw proper channel, and trust reputable ladies or agencies.
I have given up on LL or what seems to good to be true.
We're not buying a used car here, we're dealing with human beings.
And this is also why I refuse to note from 0-10 on a review.
I was very lucky in my first couple of encounters to stumble upon kind and beautiful woman.
I did refused to let someone in once. It was not what was advertised, and she looked absolutly intoxicated, like barely standing up.
I paid a 40$ dollar fee, had a disuccsion with the driver and felt horrible about doing it. Should I have given her the entire amount?
I'm torned, because yes that is a prejudice towards her, but someone somewhere didn't care about her well being and didn't care about my needs either.
Then I though, what if I showed up on a door and upon looking at me threw the peep-hole, I could hear giggle, and her saying : NO thanks.
I am not ugly or fat, but I'm most certainly not the physical speciman that a given sp would like to see either.
I made mistakes, some Sp did as well.
It was expensive to learn.
I have since learned to go threw proper channel, and trust reputable ladies or agencies.
I have given up on LL or what seems to good to be true.
We're not buying a used car here, we're dealing with human beings.
And this is also why I refuse to note from 0-10 on a review.
Assuming your refering to my post, i was responding to the original post. And its up to the provider to represent themselves appropriately.
It's very different to turn away someone who's very intoxicated.. she won't be able to consent. Personally I would still have paid her because she clearly needs money if she's in that position.. it's good at least you gave her something.
Not if she's working for an agency and they're taking her photos and editing them
It's never happened to me but I have to think I'd need to be super deceived or put in an unsafe scenario (potentially a 3rd party) where I would even think to turn around and bounce. I've had sessions that were less-than-hoped but never ones I regretted yet. It's only a matter of time, I suppose.
I agree with the consensus: Pay her for the session, make an excuse and dip BUT I would call the agency and let them know why you left early (in case they care).
I agree with the consensus: Pay her for the session, make an excuse and dip BUT I would call the agency and let them know why you left early (in case they care).
