How Long Do SPs Usually Stay in the Industry?

[RandomRob]

TLDR: Basically the title. More context below.

Hi guys (and gals), I just got curious about this and wanted to have an open discussion. In general, I'm wondering how long you think SPs (or MPs) usually stay in the industry and what factors contribute to them usually leaving in your experience/knowledge? Is it after they've been in the industry a certain amount of years, reached a certain age, or achieved a certain life lifestone (got into a relationship, finished college, have a kid, made/saved enough money)? Would appreciate insights from hobbyists, SPs, admin, or anyone really.

More personal context: I've been lurking in forums for about a year now. I'm new to the hobbying scene myself, have only seen quite a few in the Montreal and Toronto areas. I'm probably on the younger side of hobbyists and honestly just did it mostly on a whim to get some more experiences. In the time I've been lurking around, I've noticed quite a few SPs that I was thinking of seeing, but I hesitated on, and then they retired. Some of them were short stays and others were long-time favorites who just unfortunately happened to decide to retire just as I was getting into this. In line with that I've been wondering what markers I should generally watch out for to factor into my decision making. For example, stuff like "oh she's young and in college, maybe she'll stop once she graduates" or "she's been doing this for 2 years now, maybe she'll stop soon". On the other hand, I would also appreciate any insights on signs that someone might be in this for the long stay and I don't have to worry as much about meeting them before they retire.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Just book the girl, we never know when she could retire. There's no pattern. Just like with any job, some people think they'll work somewhere for a long time, but after 6 months they get a better offer. The future is unpredictable, and this job is too.

 

[Jaxan]

There are no true markers for longevity in this business, and from what I have seen, it varies greatly as every SP has their own path. My best advice, is carpe diem, prioritize a TDL list, and figure out who you can live without, if they left the industry tomorrow, and who you cannot miss the opportunity to see.

But generally speaking, the newer the SP is to the business, the more likely they are to quit suddenly. And if the SP has been around for a year or two, they are more likely to be around a little longer.

 

[Jordd]

TLDR: Basically the title. More context below.

Hi guys (and gals), I just got curious about this and wanted to have an open discussion. In general, I'm wondering how long you think SPs (or MPs) usually stay in the industry and what factors contribute to them usually leaving in your experience/knowledge? Is it after they've been in the industry a certain amount of years, reached a certain age, or achieved a certain life lifestone (got into a relationship, finished college, have a kid, made/saved enough money)? Would appreciate insights from hobbyists, SPs, admin, or anyone really.

More personal context: I've been lurking in forums for about a year now. I'm new to the hobbying scene myself, have only seen quite a few in the Montreal and Toronto areas. I'm probably on the younger side of hobbyists and honestly just did it mostly on a whim to get some more experiences. In the time I've been lurking around, I've noticed quite a few SPs that I was thinking of seeing, but I hesitated on, and then they retired. Some of them were short stays and others were long-time favorites who just unfortunately happened to decide to retire just as I was getting into this. In line with that I've been wondering what markers I should generally watch out for to factor into my decision making. For example, stuff like "oh she's young and in college, maybe she'll stop once she graduates" or "she's been doing this for 2 years now, maybe she'll stop soon". On the other hand, I would also appreciate any insights on signs that someone might be in this for the long stay and I don't have to worry as much about meeting them before they retire.

You’ve got young SPs and old SPs and everything in between.

Answering your question about retirement "markers" would require a crystal ball. Career length appears quite variable depending on the individual. I have noticed, however, that providers often return after retirement, or extended breaks.

If your main concern is "losing" a provider you like, I would just ask her how long she plans to continue working. Knowing how long they will continue working based on information available on the web is much trickier, if not impossible.

Good luck!

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I would just ask her how long she plans to continue working.

I would happily ignore anyone who approached me with this question!

 

[RandomRob]

I would happily ignore anyone who approached me with this question!

Can I respectfully ask why? I know it's different for everyone and I've never asked someone myself, but I have seen some here on merb who have asked and got answers so I didn't think much of it.

 

[MCTJ]

We often read in the media that it is very difficult for women to exit sex work. That's part of your answer.

 

[LC18]

How long you think SPs (or MPs) usually stay in the industry?
It depends on why they started in the first place. If they started to pay for tuitions and they graduated, they might quit and try to work in the field they studied. If they started to pay their bills and put food on their table, they might keep working a little longer. If they started to support an addiction whether it is drugs or plastic surgery, it might be very hard to quit.Those are all very vague explanations.

What factors contribute to them usually leaving in your experience/knowledge?
Being outed is one that I’ve seen far too often. When someone calls the friends and family to let them know that X is an escort, she might just quit and never come back.

Is it after they've been in the industry a certain amount of years, reached a certain age, or achieved a certain life lifestone (got into a relationship, finished college, have a kid, made/saved enough money)?
It could be for some while for others it would not stop them. You have to understand that not everyone sees this as a full time job and not everyone sees if as a sideline. Depending on how you feel about the job, it will change how these life events will affect your ability to keep working.

 

[Jordd]

I would happily ignore anyone who approached me with this question!

Um, why?

 

[Jordd]

How long you think SPs (or MPs) usually stay in the industry?
It depends on why they started in the first place. If they started to pay for tuitions and they graduated, they might quit and try to work in the field they studied. If they started to pay their bills and put food on their table, they might keep working a little longer. If they started to support an addiction whether it is drugs or plastic surgery, it might be very hard to quit.Those are all very vague explanations.

What factors contribute to them usually leaving in your experience/knowledge?
Being outed is one that I’ve seen far too often. When someone calls the friends and family to let them know that X is an escort, she might just quit and never come back.

Is it after they've been in the industry a certain amount of years, reached a certain age, or achieved a certain life lifestone (got into a relationship, finished college, have a kid, made/saved enough money)?
It could be for some while for others it would not stop them. You have to understand that not everyone sees this as a full time job and not everyone sees if as a sideline. Depending on how you feel about the job, it will change how these life events will affect your ability to keep working.

Perfect well thought out answers!

 

[TheBlob]

I lost track on how many times i placed a girl on my To-Do list, but she vanished before i pulled the trigger.

I'm not super active so i figured that was kinda useless for me. So i stopped making those list and try to live in the present.

Some stay a few weeks, some stay a few years, some change names, some change places. Nothing is permanent here.

 

[smarson10]

I would happily ignore anyone who approached me with this question!

I am also curious as to why.

 

[Julia Sky]

I would just ask her how long she plans to continue working.

This could come across as "I don't really want to see you all that much but let me know if you're on the verge of retirement, I could be tempted"

My answer would probably be something like "Could be tomorrow or in 5 years; when would you like to see me?" haha

 

[Halloween Mike]

There is really no predictability. I remember back then i expected one of my fav to work a long time. She was active 2010 til 2014 and she seem pretty much into it. But then she found a sugar daddy that became her husband and according to her, he was pretty rich. She never came back. Been 10 years.

 

[Jordd]

This could come across as "I don't really want to see you all that much but let me know if you're on the verge of retirement, I could be tempted"

My answer would probably be something like "Could be tomorrow or in 5 years; when would you like to see me?" haha

Girls always playing hard to get I see!

I guess I’ll never get why SPs think they have to play hard to get. It’s a sure thing right? No need to play games. I mean, if you want it, all you have to do is book.

I can see why you would think that about someone that’s never seen you or is hesitant about booking. In my case, I only ask that when it’s someone I like that I want to continue to see and know if they will be around in the long run.

Similarly, I ask how long they will be in town, for the same reasons. I’ve never sensed any awkwardness and gotten straight answers. Like, " Going back to (hometown) when I finish my studies." Or, " Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere for a while. "

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

This is a very sensitive topic. There are various types of service providers to consider when discussing their retirement.

One category includes students who engage in this work for short periods, making a brief impact before disappearing from the industry.

Another group consists of service providers who initially claim they will only be involved temporarily but become accustomed to the allure of easy money and a luxurious lifestyle. Unfortunately, these service providers may remain in the industry for an extended period, only retiring after significant life events such as entering a serious relationship or starting a family.

The most dedicated service providers are those who view this work as a long-term career, demonstrating a commitment that often results in their longevity in the industry.

Unfortunately , the most saddest and heartbreaking category are the service providers who are coerced into the industry by a pimp, who may remain under such control for a prolonged period. Despite the challenges they face, some eventually break free from this situation, only to return to the industry due to familiarity and the potential for quick earnings.

Additionally, there are street wise service providers who engage sporadically due to drug addiction, navigating a delicate balance between personal struggles and their work commitments.

The diverse range of service providers and the complex reasons behind their involvement highlight the multifaceted nature of the industry.

 

[Sylar]

Your question has been answered but I will add an anecdote for you.

4 or 5 years ago I was trying to book a SP in Montreal for something most people would consider extreme. It was certainly something in the fetish and kink category and it was the SP who guided me towards this fantasy. We had a lot of back and forth in writing and even met in person to discuss the details of the date. The week we were supposed to meet she reached out and had to postpone for medical reasons. We rescheduled and it was me who caught the flu and had to cancel the second time.
When we finally found a third date that suited both of us, she retired before we could meet. I guess the morale of the story is that third time is not always the charm and that there is never a guarantee that an SP will be around long enough. So take your shot while your can.

For your information, I was not able to find an SP who offered the same "service" even after 5 years.

 

[LC18]

For your information, I was not able to find an SP who offered the same "service" even after 5 years.

Now you’ll have to share with the class, or with me at least

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I am also curious as to why.

If this question comes from someone who never met me yet, I would not answer as it's unnecessary information to book, and it has the potential to be a judgment from the client.

On first contact, this question belongs with those: "Why I am in this industry" (to make sure I enjoy it, not just for the cash, and that I do not have a pimp), "If I am single or have a partner" (car je veux être sûr de pas créer de confusion et d’être en confiance car je veux trouver quelqu’un que je vais revoir et développer une bonne amitié sans être stressé) or "If I'm clean and never had STI or cold sore" (If it fits who you are, if you never had cold sores and have great hygiene, please let me know).

Indeed, in italics is what real clients have written me recently. Of course, a meeting never occurred.

 

[Julia Sky]

Girls always playing hard to get I see!

I guess I’ll never get why SPs think they have to play hard to get. It’s a sure thing right? No need to play games. I mean, if you want it, all you have to do is book.

I'm not sure I understand. Like you said, all you have to do is book. Nothing about what I said implies we play hard to get. "When would you like to see me?" is pretty straight forward. I can't believe "Girls always play hard to get" is your response to me basically saying "book us while we're here"......... This is the opposite of playing hard to get.

As for the rest of your message, indeed it's different if it's someone I know. But if that question came from someone I never met, like I said, it would come across a certain way and I would reply accordingly