When you become intimate with a person of the other sex(or same) what length of time should it take to do the deed? I'm not talking about the length of the visit with the lady, but more in the sense of you are both naked and doing the hippy-dee/dippy-dee. You can explain yourself by mentioning the time it takes for the foreplay (my favourite) and the apres sex, but what I'm more curious about is from the start of penetration to completion. What do you ladies want/prefer?
How long should it last?
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The average therapists' responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from three to seven minutes; "desirable," from seven to 13 minutes; "too short" from one to two minutes; and "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes
Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours, therapists say | Penn State University
Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from three to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.
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If you really like this woman and want to keep seeing her ..... makes sure she nuts first, no matter what, however long that takes. When it comes to her just forget the clock.
Once she nuts it don't matter how long you last afterwards, could be 30 seconds even, she will be content and you will both be happy.
Outside this hobby I've been with woman who can nut very fast (less then 2 min) and some that can take a lot longer (15+ min). How long you last won't matter at that point after she orgasms and she mostly won't be concerned with it. Don't think about it.
Once she nuts it don't matter how long you last afterwards, could be 30 seconds even, she will be content and you will both be happy.
Outside this hobby I've been with woman who can nut very fast (less then 2 min) and some that can take a lot longer (15+ min). How long you last won't matter at that point after she orgasms and she mostly won't be concerned with it. Don't think about it.
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Also if a woman is more clitoral than vaginal, then if you provide oral or fingering stimulation to orgasm, she would be very happy too.
To me, 2 people fit together (or sometimes don't) uniquely
Every session I've had is different (even with repeats), some that were very foreplay heavy and others with barely any. Some with lots of conversation before and between, others with next to none.
Curious to know from some of the women here what they consider excessive or just right!
Every session I've had is different (even with repeats), some that were very foreplay heavy and others with barely any. Some with lots of conversation before and between, others with next to none.
Curious to know from some of the women here what they consider excessive or just right!
(Not a woman)
As you said in your post it varies from person to person. Still, the general "sex advice" is that with women, foreplay is important, as is building a connection. In the context of an encounter with an escort, that's usually small talk on the couch at the beginning followed by kissing and/or oral sex. I would even add something that is less often mentioned but equally important: making them feel safe!
If this is concerning a session with a SP:
The simple answer would be the time it takes.
However, foreplay is appreciated. I don’t need to talk but some clients enjoy a little chinwag prior to doing the dance with no pants… and no I don’t mean talking for 45 minutes either on the 1H session lmao, but hey some like that and need that. Every person is different. I have clients last long / a whole 40min of slow fast, teasing, breaks sipping wine naked and eating fruits, etc… and then I’ve got the ones that know they won’t last and save the boom boom for a little 2 min at the end
I never kick anyone out even if it’s MSOG - you paid for the time, so if that means you came 2-3 times and have no more juice in you, we can literally chill naked and I’ll massage you or we can play video games. LMAO. Nah but. There’s no stress!
The best SPs are versatile - and won’t purposely talk to avoid the appetizers nor the main course. (I will remind clients that I need to suck their peens).
If this is a question about IRL in a relationship: 24/8 constant tomfoolery AND at inappropriate times
The simple answer would be the time it takes.
However, foreplay is appreciated. I don’t need to talk but some clients enjoy a little chinwag prior to doing the dance with no pants… and no I don’t mean talking for 45 minutes either on the 1H session lmao, but hey some like that and need that. Every person is different. I have clients last long / a whole 40min of slow fast, teasing, breaks sipping wine naked and eating fruits, etc… and then I’ve got the ones that know they won’t last and save the boom boom for a little 2 min at the end
I never kick anyone out even if it’s MSOG - you paid for the time, so if that means you came 2-3 times and have no more juice in you, we can literally chill naked and I’ll massage you or we can play video games. LMAO. Nah but. There’s no stress!
The best SPs are versatile - and won’t purposely talk to avoid the appetizers nor the main course. (I will remind clients that I need to suck their peens).
If this is a question about IRL in a relationship: 24/8 constant tomfoolery AND at inappropriate times
Take a blue pill , and last the time you wantThe average therapists' responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from three to seven minutes; "desirable," from seven to 13 minutes; "too short" from one to two minutes; and "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes
Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours, therapists say | Penn State University
Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from three to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.
, and beat the odds.
I agree with psefreak on this one.
If I get off, 1,2, or 3 times before the hour is up, I'm in a great mood, and look forward to seeing them again.
But how long a gent lasts, isn't an issue for me. Someone cums quick, I take it as a compliment, we can go again, and again if he is able to. If he takes longer, it just means I have a chance to have an O myself while we are at it. What I don't like, is when he purposely interrupts himself preventing his climax (edging) just to last the whole hour. It can prevent his ability to climax in the end because he's tired himself out. Or when someone can, and purposely hold out not to cum for the whole hour. Just straight f*ing no foreplay, is just a boring time, it gets old fast. These are the ones I say a blowup doll, rather than a real woman is what they need. Thankfully that is rather rare though.
I would say 30 minutes or less is a good amount of time. It leaves time to cuddle, chat and go for round 2 if they are able to.
I've even had a 4 year relationship, that he was great at cunnilingus, and would get me off over and over, but when it was his turn, he was a 2 pump and done sort. The little blue pill did help him last longer when he took it though. But is expensive if you don't have the funds to afford it for every night. Didn't bother me. His joy was in pleasing more than being pleased at least.
Depending on days I will last between 10-15 minutes and my preference is to do a lot of foreplay because for me it's the journey and not the destination. I'm in my late 50's and still don't need the blue pills, mind you I nut only once when I see a lady.
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