How many Sps have you been with?
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Hi!
How did the dating go? Before or after starting yourself?
While I doubt it'd happen, I have been considering and wondering a bit. Any word of wisdom?
FWIW, 9 over decades and countries.
I dated 2 sex workers before I became one and I want to make it clear that I had not hired them lol I met them and found out they were escorts. One of them was beginning and only worked a couple months. The other one had been a worker for a while.
I didn't date either of them very long, but it didn't have anything to do with their job. I do feel like one of them had a schedule that was extremely packed, she was someone who possibly had a sex addiction and very toxic behavior around dating and sexuality, I won't get into it. I didn't feel like she was fully herself around me and there were a lot of lies. I stopped seeing her because she was deceptive and I wasn't able to ever see her anyways. The other girl was less busy but I felt like since it was very new to her, she still romanticized the whole thing, she validated herself through her sessions with men a lot and it seemed more satisfying to her than hanging out with me and I guess less emotionally heavy. I know a lot of SP who date tho and probably don't have these issues.
My word of wisdom is : don't expect that you will date an escort. This subject comes up really really often and I always have the same thing to say..
It's either really unlikely to happen, or it can end really badly for a few reasons. One of them being that once you are no longer a client the dynamic will change. I spent hours explaining this to someone the other day, who was heart broken over an escort he hired not wanting to date him... He said ''but our connection was genuine''. Sure, it's genuine, but we are still catering to you.. We can't be fully ourselves and we have to make sure to ''offer good service''. Once that is no longer a pressure, how will the client handle it? The client could also drop his ''best behavior'' as well.
There are clients who hire escorts and develop crushes and obsessions, this can become dangerous territory because they don't understand that it's not reciprocal, since we are offering GFE. There are also escorts who seem to be in it to find a provider type of man, but I think a lot of them are probably really picky about who they would choose to spend their lives with..
