How often do you have sex with your wife/SO?

[naughtylady]

b_cup_lover>>> yes I did notice. I just thought it was interesting for comparative purposes.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[MAXHD]

well said..

My ex told me she was in a bad mood because I hadn't cut the grass! On that day, as she was aware, I had to work exceptionally long hours. I don't care if it is common for sex to be used as a weapon. If it happens to me, I look for the exit.

In general, I think if you give in on the things which are important to you in the belief that surrendering will improve or preserve a relationship you better be coprophagic.

I recently told my new GF that I couldn't tolerate her lateness and last minute cancellations and I wanted great sex at least x times a week and asked her what she needed from me. I admit to being afraid of losing her or that she would be resentful, but instead she has been a lot more affectionate and respectful.

If I could go back in time to advise my younger self, I would say that no matter how daunting the potential loss (financial or other) seems in a divorce, it is dwarfed by the loss of years clinging to a dead relationship.[/QUOTE]
AMEN TO THAT!!!!! was married for 25 years....ans should have been
out of that.....20 years before.....To the young people who are clinging to a dead relationship...ask yourselves.....'' do i feel dead inside ''? if so.....time to move on.....it wont get better.. and if you feel guilty see a psychologist to help you sort things out..
my experience and my opinion....
best thing i did in my life!

 

[General Gonad]

Clinging to a dead relationship?

.....To the young people who are clinging to a dead relationship...ask yourselves.....'' do i feel dead inside ''? if so.....time to move on.....it wont get better.. and if you feel guilty see a psychologist to help you sort things out..
my experience and my opinion....
best thing i did in my life!

Maxhard, anon-vlad,

You have pinpointed my biggest fear. You ever seen the movie, "As Good as It Gets" when Jack Nicholson wakes up one morning staring at his wife and asks himself "who is this woman that I have spent the better part of my life with?"

Time goes by very fast. I was thinking of the happiest moments in my life, travelling with my close friends in my late teens and early twenties. We were young, naive, care free, full of joy and zest for life. We had so much fun; it was just incredible.

When I met my wife, I felt alive again. It was amazing on all fronts, including sex. But relationships mature, you cannot bottle that initial magic and maintain it forever. It just doesn't happen that way.

The most important thing, for me, when I was looking for a wife, was to look for a very close friend. I wanted someone who was sensitive and very caring (I can't stand cold people). I wanted a companion that I can share my life with.

Am I clinging on to a dead relationship? No, if that was the case, I would have taken the measures to exit. But, I am not kidding myself. I still have an uphill struggle to elevate my relationship to where I think it should be.

Finally, for all of you contemplating to leave your wives or seriously questioning your relationship, you should remember that there are no guarantees in life...none whatsoever. The grass might seem greener on the other side but you might quickly realize that it really isn't.

What I am realizing is that open communication helps a lot. I am through avoiding discussions because she doesn't feel comfortable with them. I don't confront her in an aggressive manner but I do remind her that certain things really bother me and I ask her to share with me what really bothers her. It's the minimum that we owe to each other.

GG

 

[MAXHD]

Maxhard, anon-vlad,

You have pinpointed my biggest fear. You ever seen the movie, "As Good as It Gets" when Jack Nicholson wakes up one morning staring at his wife and asks himself "who is this woman that I have spent the better part of my life with?"

Time goes by very fast. I was thinking of the happiest moments in my life, travelling with my close friends in my late teens and early twenties. We were young, naive, care free, full of joy and zest for life. We had so much fun; it was just incredible.

When I met my wife, I felt alive again. It was amazing on all fronts, including sex. But relationships mature, you cannot bottle that initial magic and maintain it forever. It just doesn't happen that way.

The most important thing, for me, when I was looking for a wife, was to look for a very close friend. I wanted someone who was sensitive and very caring (I can't stand cold people). I wanted a companion that I can share my life with.

Am I clinging on to a dead relationship? No, if that was the case, I would have taken the measures to exit. But, I am not kidding myself. I still have an uphill struggle to elevate my relationship to where I think it should be.

Finally, for all of you contemplating to leave your wives or seriously questioning your relationship, you should remember that there are no guarantees in life...none whatsoever. The grass might seem greener on the other side but you might quickly realize that it really isn't.

What I am realizing is that open communication helps a lot. I am through avoiding discussions because she doesn't feel comfortable with them. I don't confront her in an aggressive manner but I do remind her that certain things really bother me and I ask her to share with me what really bothers her. It's the minimum that we owe to each other.

GG

in my case.....the grass was greener....much greener...
but again....thats my case!
I left her 7 years ago...and never regretted it..
mind you we were totally imcompatable...
she found jesus.. i found my hobby! LOL