How to increase the likelihood of getting a good, if not great, encounter...

[General Gonad]

I've been meaning to write a thread on increasing the likelihood of getting a good, if not great, encounter. There are many senior posters here that can add to their thoughts to this thread.

Here are some of the rules I follow:

1) Remember the three "Ps": Prepare, Pre-book and Plan. In order to prepare, you need to ask yourself, what type of lady do you really want to spend time with? Do you want looks, service and the right attitude? Then you need to read some reviews and try to decipher through the plethora of hogwash and hone in on what you want.

Then once you find the lady you want to be with, you should pre-book her. I will call an agency ahead of time and typically for multiple hours at the beginning of her schedule. I prefer two hour encounters and if you know how to converse, trust me, it makes a huge difference.

2) Remember the "G" for grooming: Grooming is something we should all do on a daily basis. But grooming is especially important when you're engaging in an intimate act with an SP. Take the time to shave, bathe and use mouthwash if you want to enjoy deep kissing.

3) Lighten up and have fun: If you take this hobby too seriously, you're going to make the SP feel awkward. Relax and enjoy your session. Don't be pushy or rude, just enjoy the session. Also, it's important to give as well as receive.

4) Don't be cheap: I generally cannot stand frugal people. If you're seeing an agency SP for two hours, then tip her properly, especially if they are worth it.

These are some of the rules that I try to follow. I am sure others can add to my rules, so feel free to do so.

GG

 

[ck_nj]

OK General Zod (um, I mean Gonad, LOL), you beat me to writing this thread. A thread I have been wanting to write for a while. But I know you are more eloquent than I am in starting these threads.

However, before I start, just know that I do not do ANY of these things to increase my likehood of getting a good, or great encounter.
I try to do this for any dates I have, SP or not.
I do this because I enjoy entertaining, as well as pleasing, the lady I am seeing. I try to do these things to help the ladies feel more at ease. To show that I am not just another faceless stranger who is only interested in getting his needs satisified.

Here are some of Clark's tips:

1. Ahead of time, try to find out if the lady drinks alcohol. If so, buy a small personal-size botle. I have been able to find these personal bottles at the SAQ, or any other place that sells alcohol.
If not, or if you are not sure, have some chilled bottles of water on hand. I always ask for a small fridge in the room, to keep the bottles chilled.
I found these great mini-bottles of champagne at the SAQ, cork and all. About the size of a beer bottle. It was great for her, and great for me, especially because I do not drink alcohol. I try to have one on hand if I am not sure if she drinks.

2. Have some light food available, if possible. It does not have to be caviar. Just some light fare, like cheese, crackers, maybe some cut up fruit. It does not have to be expensive. It just shows that you put in the extra effort, and she will remember little things like that.

3. Have some portable travel toiletries on hand for the lady. Show her where they are, and that she can take them with her after the encounter. Like travel mouthwash, hand cream, tissues. Leave them sealed. Again, it does not have to be expensive. And it shows that you put thought into it.

4. Have extra towels and washcloths available before she shows up. Nothing is more embarassing than not having enough towels.

5. Clark's last 'secret' tip. Try to please them first. It breaks the ice nicely.
And it shows the lady that it's not all about just pleasing you (which is probably what she is used to). Again, something she may remember. And if you do please her first, ask her how she likes it. We are not mindreaders here, and it will show her that you have an interest in her as well.


My job is done here. UP, UP, and AWAY!!!!

Clark

 

[Robin]

GG's is very good advice except for a couple of points: My biased opinion is that multiple hours are not really essential - one hour is enough to show me whether I click with the escort and want to repeat. Also tips are given at the end, so it doesn't influence the service - it only expresses my own satisfaction.

 

[General Gonad]

5. Clark's last 'secret' tip. Try to please them first. It breaks the ice nicely. And it shows the lady that it's not all about just pleasing you (which is probably what she is used to). Again, something she may remember. And if you do please her first, ask her how she likes it. We are not mindreaders here, and it will show her that you have an interest in her as well.

Very, very important point. I love DATY and will engage in it for a very long time with the aim of pleasing a lady. I try to get her really, really wet and into it.

>>Robin,

I generally prefer two hours. That is my preference because I enjoy chatting first. Also, I use to tip at the beginning but I am now more inclined to tip at the end.

GG

 

[bond_james_bond]

Making all the preparations well in advance of the session, so that you don't feel rushed around and during the actual time of session, is key.

 

[General Gonad]

Making all the preparations well in advance of the session, so that you don't feel rushed around and during the actual time of session, is key.

007,

Can you be a little more specific?

GG

 

[BigPickle]

Lighten up and have fun: If you take this hobby too seriously, you're going to make the SP feel awkward. Relax and enjoy your session. Don't be pushy or rude, just enjoy the session.

This is very common sense but breaks down when the lady herself is awkward around new people. Sometimes the best charms won't affect a girl like this and best to cut it short and cut losses than extend the strange encounter.

Don't be cheap: I generally cannot stand frugal people. If you're seeing an agency SP for two hours, then tip her properly, especially if they are worth it.

I'm about to sound cold but I don't tip doctors, lawyers, accountants, contractors, or any other profession where the hourly rate is very high. Same for ladies of the night. The means by which I tip good service is to become a repeat multi-hour customer. I know this is a service business but I sometimes have to wonder about the habits of some men who do this. Flowers, chocolates, lingerie, wine, and tips on top of that. That's courting behavior. Once I visited a SP in her hotel incall for a casual meet off the clock, she had at least 2 sets of roses on the dresser and a GINGERBREAD HOUSE the size of a wedding cake. Some hopeless guy spent probably over $100 for something she could care less about (although I did enjoy munching on the M&M roof!).

A rule I would like to add is:

Don't be a hopeless guy! Be fun to be with, be attractive, be intelligent and thoughful, but don't be had!

 

[BobKnob]

Tip: Great Encounters of the Third Kind

Sounds like an old Sci-fi movie...........

GG: This thread is overdue.

My tip:
Since the encounter is between two strangers (unless a repeat), then it is a good idea to determine if your SP is dominant or passive in her approach with you. If both parties are passive, well, nothing happens for a while, maybe the mood is uneasy, no "spark".
If I sense the SP is passive, I take the lead and become more dominant. Sometimes she is aggressive, I am a lazy fart, and I just lie back and enjoy the action!
The point is that you want to connect on the "dominant/passive" level with your SP.

 

[Just-ass-weet]

Aniks Tips to a great encounter

The reality is that we probably end up making things much more complicated than they need to be - have respect for someone and treat them nicely, in the end you should be rewarded!

1) Get ready - research is your number 1 line of defense against having a bad encounter. Read everything you can on the girl (reviews, her posts, etc...), don't just stare at her pics, READ the website - lot's of valuable information is included there.

2) Be prepared to start off with a bang - First make sure you are freshly showered - even if you would like to pop in the shower with her (that is quite fun and a neat way to start off) - make a gesture you can both enjoy - share a bottle of wine, a poutine (for you Doc! lol), twizzlers, because when you share something, it puts you both more at ease.

3) DON'T just focus on trying to get her off... much better to just focus on creating passion, and on exciting one another. Of every lady I have spoken with, all of us prefer a guy to focus on teasing us over trying to make us cum!? That doesn't mean everyone, but all the ladies I have spoken with.

4) The easiest tip - treat her with respect and learn to walk away if it is not working out.

xoxox
Anik

 

[Regular Guy]

Now this one is interesting!

3) DON'T just focus on trying to get her off... much better to just focus on creating passion, and on exciting one another. Of every lady I have spoken with, all of us prefer a guy to focus on teasing us over trying to make us cum!? That doesn't mean everyone, but all the ladies I have spoken with.

Love to have you elaborate on this one. Verbal? Physical? Head games (playful)?

 

[Just-ass-weet]

The point is to NOT let her cum

That is teasing to me... make me just want to force you to f*ck me - do you know what I mean?

The stuff we did as teenagers, before "sex" was okay? It is hard to explain, but I can say that a groping, kissing and grinding session, makes me as horny as hell! Especially with most of our clothes on. That is teasing... of course, there are many other ways, and each girl is different, but for me, and many women, this takes the cake!

xoxox
Anik

Added - After recieving a few emails about how that may not be possible for someone who is not a "model material" type guy I feel it necessary to point out that any guy can make you want to screw the be-jesus juice out of him. Some "gorgeous" guys don't do anything for me, and other averages make me crazy! In fact, my ex-bfs have never passed the "good-looking" muster with my friends - but I couldn't resist them.

 

[korbel]

Music

Hello all,

It seems that I am following most of the tips mentioned on this board already. One thing I do for a preset meeting is try to add some music she might enjoy. People often get comfortable very quickly when they find something very familar and much to their liking. Music accomplishes that very well. I ask her if she would like to bring her own or I try to get something she would like.

As for the question on teasing from Regular Guy about Anik's category number three: I have the feeling it is all of the above. But personally, I love to tease a woman physically during daty and they seem to appreciate it since I get many compliments on it. Often, making them happy is the best part of it all.

Bonne journee',

Korbel

 

[Just-ass-weet]

But personally, I love to tease a woman physically during daty and they seem to appreciate it since I get many compliments on it. Often, making them happy is the best part of it all.

Bonne journee',

Korbel

Yes, I seem to remember your excellent skills!!

xoxox
Anik

 

[korbel]

To a legend.

Hello Anik,

Thanks, but my own poor little accomplishments will fade from memory while the legend of Anik "Bisous" will be told and retold in Montreal for eternity.

Warmest regards,

Korbel

 

[ck_nj]

Korbel, thanks for adding the tip on the music. I always have my laptop playing MP3's from different music genres, with my portable laptop speakers.

Blues, I especially love your tip on speaking some French. I totally agree with you. I believe it does show respect.

Clark

 

[General Gonad]

Most important tip comes from an SP

3) DON'T just focus on trying to get her off... much better to just focus on creating passion, and on exciting one another. Of every lady I have spoken with, all of us prefer a guy to focus on teasing us over trying to make us cum!? That doesn't mean everyone, but all the ladies I have spoken with.

Excellent tip Anik. I have to say that the reason I prefer longer appointments is because I truly believe sex starts in the mind. This isn't just for SPs, but for all women that I have approached in the past.

For me, the art of teasing requires more than an hour. I remember with Karma & Samy, I enjoyed the food, the wine and the conversation. Then I stared into their eyes and went in for the kill. It's fun when you forget you're paying for sex and try to treat is as a hot date that you want to score with.

In other words, before you make her cum, try giving her a cerebral orgasm!

GG

P.S. My policy on tips has changed. I always tip agency ladies because I know they're splitting the money with the owners. As for indies that charge $500/2 hours, I consider the tip is included in the rate they are charging me.

 

[JuIcE_Y]

just wondering

okay, i was just wondering about what you guys think about daty.. it often makes me laugh when i read these posts cuz most of you associate daty with pleasing the girl... and well thats not always the case... first of all I dont think you guys should think that performing daty is automatically gonna mean that you care about the girls need. if you really want to please a lady, just asks her what she likes. and well, some of us dont know, HAHA! so that makes it harder. I guess you should just be respectfull and please dont pound on the girl the first minute she comes in: thats just scary!!!

but i do have to say that being pleased often goes beyond preperation. It has to do with the mood we are in, on the chemistry that we have with our lover, on the sort of fantasies that we have. One of my best times was with an unshaved american guy that had downed a couple of beers and who had some loud porn on... but the dirtiness of it made me horny as hell. and its not that i dont like daty but once this guy was a perfect gentleman and spent a whole lot of time there thinking it would please me... but it was just not working.. anyways what im trying to say is that there are no other rule except being respectful of yourself and others, and just exploring and having fun!!!

XXXXX

 

[General Gonad]

The chemistry has to be there for a great encounter

if you really want to please a lady, just asks her what she likes. and well, some of us dont know, HAHA! so that makes it harder. I guess you should just be respectfull and please dont pound on the girl the first minute she comes in: thats just scary!!!

I've said it before and I'll say it again, if a "regular" woman has 600 layers to peel before we understand them, then an SP has thousands of layers that we need to peel!

You're right, not all SPs enjoy DATY. For many, they want to reserve this for someone special, not Tommy the Tongue. I love DATY so I want to be with someone that enjoys it too. I do my research before I book the appointment.

but i do have to say that being pleased often goes beyond preperation. It has to do with the mood we are in, on the chemistry that we have with our lover, on the sort of fantasies that we have. One of my best times was with an unshaved american guy that had downed a couple of beers and who had some loud porn on... but the dirtiness of it made me horny as hell. and its not that i dont like daty but once this guy was a perfect gentleman and spent a whole lot of time there thinking it would please me... but it was just not working.. anyways what im trying to say is that there are no other rule except being respectful of yourself and others, and just exploring and having fun!!!

Chemistry is very, very important. I had an SP that I met with recently and she started kissing me aggressively right away, taking off my clothes and talking dirty to me. I got so turned off that I knew within the first five minutes it was going to be a flop.

Unfortunately, I was right.

GG

 

[Hondo]

How important is the hotel?

How important is the hotel, the room, and location? Do we really need to book a suite at Le Place d'Armes to make her feel special?

 

[General Gonad]

How important is the hotel, the room, and location? Do we really need to book a suite at Le Place d'Armes to make her feel special?

I do not think so. As long as it is clean and has a decent bathroom, I do not think it matters. All clients have their preferred hotels. Eager Beaver has provided valuable info on booking nice hotels at decent rates through priceline. Other clients like going to motels like the Chablis.

In my opinion, making an SP feel comfortable has a lot more to do with your attitude than with the hotel.

GG