If you see me in public

[AdeleBeaumont]

I am writting this because, as per usual, I was chatting with other SP and they have confessed that some men they're seeing told them they never knew if they should acknowledge them in public or not. I believe it's a genuine concern. How would you explain to your friends or colleagues without revealing too much of your private life.

If you are not sure about how to handle this situation you have two options: you can either ask the SP if it's ok to come in chat in public (during a session) or you could simply send them a message to let them know you have seen them at X store/restaurant and ask them if the next time, you should come say Hi! or not.


Please remember that this isn't the case for all SP but I do not mind you approaching me in public. My friends, family and coworkers know that I am attracted by older men so they wouldn't be surprised to see you come to me for a little chat. Obviously, don't call me Kyla or else that would quickly be awkward.




Please respect their boundaries and do not do anything you wouldn't want them to do to you (add you on Facebook, shout your name in public etc.)

 

[hungry101]

If you see me in public do not call me Godfather.

See 1:20 of the clip

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1tD_OXofo7k

 

[TheJames101]

If an SP I have been with sees me in public, I'd rather they not approach me. I will give them the same respect and not approach.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Sure there is a recent thread about has already, do not know what to search it under

 

[Hydargoos]

Ça m'est déjà arrivé une fois et je venais juste de terminer la rencontre. On avait eu la même idée d'aller au Tim Hortons. Cependant, quand je l'ai vue, j'ai fait demi-tour. Mais ça n'avait pas été une très bonne rencontre.

Avec une fille avec qui j'ai eu une belle chimie, par contre, ça ne me dérangerait pas. Rien ne nous oblige à dire où on s'est rencontré. Mais, par respect pour elle, jamais je n'insisterait si je la voyais en public. Mais si elle, elle viendrait me voir, je n'aurais pas de trouble avec ça

 

[Numerati]

I saw one of my favorites once at the Eaton Centre during lunch time. Not only did I went over to say hi I put her in a head lock and the sleeper like you see in wrestling. Made a scene.

Wanted to see her after that incident and she never replied back. Wondered if I did something wrong.

As for the facebook thing. That depends. For some it is fine for others a no.

 

[EagerBeaver]

This actually did happen to me once around 15 years ago. I saw a lady who at the time worked for the French Kiss Society. She was walking down St. Catherine Street downtown, west of McGill, with a guy, who I can only presume was her boyfriend. We were walking in opposite directions on the same side of the street and our eyes locked on each other in a look of recognition for a brief moment. I didn’t say anything to her, and she didn’t say anything to me. She was in conversation with the guy. I had seen her probably a month prior to that random encounter.

Basically privacy should be mutually respected in these situations.

As STN mentioned there was a thread on this topic recently and multiple threads in the past. Around 15 years ago there was a very long thread about an incident involving a very popular agency escort who worked at Satin Dreams. She was in a coffee shop downtown with several friends when a client loudly greeted her with her work name that the friends didn’t know about, similar to the “Godfather” video above posted by Hungry101. It apparently led her to quit the agency and then someone started the thread. This all goes under the general heading of “loose lips sink ships.”

 

[Numerati]

In my years of hobbying the only SP that welcomed social interaction was Serina of the Courtesans. All others were a simple eye contact, a nod and/or a subtle smile if we run into each other in public. In majority of the cases we just ignore each other until I plan to see her again. As always say she goes by Jessica in the hobby but her real name is Amy, remember you were with Jessica and not Amy. Same face and body but two different people.

 

[hungry101]

I saw one of my favorites once at the Eaton Centre during lunch time. Not only did I went over to say hi I put her in a head lock and the sleeper like you see in wrestling. Made a scene.

Wanted to see her after that incident and she never replied back. Wondered if I did something wrong.

As for the facebook thing. That depends. For some it is fine for others a no.

I want you to know that you made my morning coffee shoot out my nose.

When you got her in the headlock, you should of rubber her head with your fist and shouted Noogie, Noogie, Noogie!!!!

 

[Numerati]

And you think I am joking. I didn’t shout Noogie. I was screaming out that she doesn’t do anal with her bf in 17 different languages. Thank you Google Translate.

Heh.

Oh how about this for laughs. I ran into my worst Montreal experience at the airport coming to Montreal. To make the matter even more uncomfortable we were designated to sit next to each other. Luckily it was just an hour flight but you can definitely sense the uncomfortable awkwardness. I just put my headphones on and slept through most of the flight though. Talk about terrible coincidence.

 

[cloudsurf]

Talking about airports. I ran into a very popular escort at the airport in T.O.. She had been the duo partner of Gisselle from FKS.
We sat together on the plane ride back to Mtl. Had some interesting and intimate conversations and she even bought me a bottle of wine.

Numerati are you talking about Serena the lactating snake charmer ?

 

[Meta not Meta]

If I see an SP in public?

I smile ...

... and then move on.

 

[jalimon]

If I see an SP in public?

I smile ...

... and then move on.

Me too. And if she's with a bf I my jaw might jam cus I smile too much

hehe

 

[Bbw hunter]

This has happened to me several times over the years. I rarely go to bars these days but whenever I do I seem to spot one my "girls". If she ignores my glance I back off,if she smiles at me we have a bit of a chat. There is no set rule for how to act in this situation. It is different in each case and depends on the girl and the situation. Obviously if she is with a bf ya you should keep your distance but otherwise it is not the big deal some seem to think it is. If a man and woman recognize each other and start a convo its not like everyone in the vicinity will stop and stare and think "OMG he must be paying her for sex!". I have probably seen two dozen sps out in public: outside bars, in stores, street festivals,etc. It can be a small world and it happens. Sometimes we chat and other times I just move along; the split seems to be about 50/50. You just have to use your judgement and common sense to gauge how to act in these situations.

 

[Fradi]

It all depends on the situation.
How well do you know her, is she with someone are you with friends etc...
If I ran into my ATF in a public place and we were both alone, I am sure she would be offended if I ignored her, same goes with a few other ones that I know.
I would let her make the first move, but knowing some of these ladies I am sure they would approach me and start a conversation, I am not ashamed of knowing and being with any of them, even If I was with someone it wouldn’t be that difficult to explain she goes to the same gym and we talk sometimes, if they don’t believe me I don’t really care.

 

[Anna Bijou]

The default should be to not approach. Unless you have previously discussed. A client once told me that he would expect me to come over and say hi and would be offended if I didn't. You can't be offended, you don't know who the SP is with. It's only happened to me once and we didn't acknowledge each other. In that instance it would have been fine for me but I didn't know if it was for him. We stood in line at the bank as if he didn't know each other.

I remember reading a story on this board where an SP was approached while she was with her mother and the guy kept insisting on calling her by her work name even though she told him he had the wrong person. You have to be smart about it.

 

[SylvainP]

L'année dernière ou l'année d'avant, je suis en train de dîner un samedi au Tim Horton. Une femme séduisante vient me saluer: c'était une masseuse que j'avais déjà rencontrée dans la cadre de son travail. Il est vrai que j'étais seul. Après avoir discuté, elle est allé rejoindre une autre personne.

Si je voyais une escorte ou une masseuse accompagnée de quelqu'un, je ferais preuve de retenue, ce qui est normal.

 

[Numerati]

Talking about airports. I ran into a very popular escort at the airport in T.O.. She had been the duo partner of Gisselle from FKS.
We sat together on the plane ride back to Mtl. Had some interesting and intimate conversations and she even bought me a bottle of wine.

Numerati are you talking about Serena the lactating snake charmer ?

Yeah that Serina. She was the only SP that didn’t mind mixing both of her lives with me. During summer festivals when we run into each other she would introduce her friends to me and my friends vice versa.

My airport encounter was not really that awkward as we just ignored each other. The surprisingly crappy part was when we were assigned to sit next to each other. Seeing her without being all dolled up makes you kind of question yourself. LOL

 

[kkrack]

I have seen a few in public, recently one came over and hugged me, she started walking with me with her arm around mine. It felt awkward for me but I just went along with it. She wasn't dressed provocative and she's good looking but I just happen to be a very discreet person, I don't even hold hands in public when I'm dating someone.
I also went out with an indy girl out of the blue, I asked her if she wanted to go out for drinks and she accepted, big mistake. God was she annoying. Talking to everyone saying how she was a privileged white girl and how she was pansexual or some crazy shit like that. We went back to her place and told me she was raped and did heroin at some point, kind of a bummer for a 260$h encounter, great kisser though.
I frequently see a girl from euphoria I had a bad encounter with. She's literally my neighbor we ignore each other, I know where she lives, I think she knows where I live.
Let me turn things around, imagine you had sex with this ugly fat girl multiple times or even multiple ugly girls, would you want them to talk to you when you're with friends or whatever? Probably not.
In general be the least intrusive you can be.

 

[Numerati]

Simply put this hobby is great when it is close enough to be meaningful yet close enough not to be annoying. It is about having boundaries. If things are okay a simple nod and/or smile and acknowledgement is more than enough.