Is it possible to befriend an escort?

[DanilusVulpes]

That! That!
It seems, from reading the threads on merb, that a lot of johns(of course not all) are totally awkward and socially unfit, or deeply unconsciously misogynist. I regularly get flabbergasted and speechless when I read some comments expressed openly on the board, I find it scary.

I feel rather hurt that I appeared as anything close to misogynistic; that was never my intention. I genuinely am just an introverted fellow that has difficulty reaching out to people, especially when it comes to something as more brusque as sexual services and such.

Again, I wish to reiterate that by no means did I come here hoping to score free nights with an escort, nor do I wish for anything malicious or second-handed. It was actually a genuine question of whether or not it was possible to befriend an escort, simple as.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I feel rather hurt that I appeared as anything close to misogynistic; that was never my intention. I genuinely am just an introverted fellow that has difficulty reaching out to people, especially when it comes to something as more brusque as sexual services and such.

Well the only advice I can give you, since you are admitting that, you are (desperately?) looking for friendship with SPs, because of your lack of social skills. That makes you a walking target!

A lot of girls outhere, in the wild west world of escorting, are far from being angels. Your risks of getting eaten alive, and not in the pleasant way we all seek, is very high.

 

[Mika xx]

Real friendship is when you tell an ex client to his face in an arcade that you blacklisted him as a client bc it’s too awkward to get intimate with a friend, then laugh in his face and then keep playing that basketball machine arcade machine as a team.
We are just humans. Friendship can happen naturally or not. Some people just have more chemistry together than others.

 

[rando555]

I connect with most people very easily so yes you can befriend anyone.

One thing is that if you befriend an SP, there should be 0 expectations that she owes you anything if you hangout with her / go grab dinner together, etc.
Otherwise, this suffers from the same issue as "Nice Guy Syndrome" where you do things because you expect something in return instead of truly being kind.

Also *some* SPs change quite a bit when you befriend them and this may bother some individuals.

I do like when someone trusts me enough to drop the illusion and some of the rants about clients are quite amusing.

 

[envelopes]

some of the rants about clients are quite amusing.

I know way too much about a lot of you.

 

[mat514]

I got pretty close to an independent escort I've seen the last 3 years, and still today.
She liked me as a customer, and gave me her personal number, and would always accept seeing me even when she stopped working.
She once changed her personal phone number, and remembered me enough to text me to let me know of the change.

She's great because when I'm feeling horny and needing something right away, she would make herself available, very reliable.
A few times, she would have her boyfriend over at her place, so I would offer picking her up, driving her to my place, and driving her back. So I'd get an extra 20 minutes of caressing and foreplay on the drive to my place

Funniest experience was when I texted her, feeling desperate for a blowjob. She told me she was at a party at a friend's place, and that we could take a room if I didn't mind her friends.
I went for it, and she held my hand and we went straight to the bedroom while she presented me as "this is my friend" and everyone gave me grin and her best friend said "you lucky boy".
I couldn't help myself as she gave me a blowjob, with grunts, and moans, and dirty talk. When I came, I could hear giggling outside, and then absolute silence and smiles as I walked out of the appartment.

I'd say this is the closest I've been to "befriending" an escort.

 

[masterfreak]

Désolé mais j'ai de la difficulté à comprendre ta démarche.
Je ne crois pas que c'est une bonne idée de rechercher une amie lorsqu'il y a une transaction financière. L'amitié, l'amour ca ne s'achète pas.
Tu devrais investir ton argent pour ton bien-être pour avoir de meilleurs résultats dans tes compétences sur le plan social.
C'est possible d'avoir des amies peut importe le domaine d'activité mais ça arrive naturellement tu peux pas forcer les événements.

 

[DouMan]

hello,
i myself dated 2 escorts in my life. At first the both didnt tell me..witch is wrong...lets fast forward to my last one. anastasia from vog...wow what a desaster . it is true that the more youy work in the industry the more cold and heartless you become. she has a few metal ilness issues that she nefer attendede becasue she thouhht she kmew everything..another escort thing..also you cannot ever trust one. they are alllways up to somthing behind you back.. so fuck em

Hey bro, do you really think this is the place to bring out your personal issues and directly attack a provider, again, for PERSONAL reasons!

 

[Rebaynia]

It is very possible to befriend an escort. I am friends, by text with a few of my clients. But if they want to see me in person it is on the clock. Otherwise my time belongs to my kids, my master, and my homelife doing what I want to do to relax between heading out to work.

I do get asked to just hang out with some off the clock, but that time for me is better at home, seeing as socializing can take a toll on me and tires me out till I just want to be left alone.

 

[Thor Jr]

Absolutely, why should we think they are not like any other human being walking this earth who wouldn't enjoy someone to hang out with and just chill and watch a movie. If there's a connection for friendship, why not. Its a myth that women are from Venus, they want and deserve to be just as miserable(or happy) as we are. If they don't want to be friends with you, they will tell you, and i am sure they will do so in as kindest manner as possible, I wouldn't be as kind, then again, i don't want to play hide the salami with you anyway, so there you go.

 

[Nachoy]

Meet an agency escort who I got friendly with.
We exchanged numbers
She quit escort work and got civilian job but still saw me as a side hustle
We would go out for dinner and talk about what was going on with her family and new job

 

[Collected00]

Meet an agency escort who I got friendly with.
We exchanged numbers
She quit escort work and got civilian job but still saw me as a side hustle
We would go out for dinner and talk about what was going on with her family and new job

How many times did you meet her before you asked for her number?

 

[Nachoy]

How many times did you meet her before you asked for her number?

On the first meet. If I feel there is chemistry i exchange numbers on the first meet. The worst they can say is No. I get many phone numbers first time I see an SP

 

[AirBo]

On the first meet. If I feel there is chemistry i exchange numbers on the first meet. The worst they can say is No. I get many phone numbers first time I see an SP

I second that. Why wait if the chemistry is there. I could make a phonebook out of SP phone numbers gathered throughout the years

 

[AirBo]

We are just humans

As simple as that. Any new encounter brings out a different feeling between 2 people, sometimes unexpected.

 

[Mefy]

Exchanging numbers with SPs in order to be "friends"

I don't think her giving you her personal number isn't that big of a deal.
It's just a more reliable form of contact.
It means she likes you as a customer.
Read nothing more into it.

GUYS , you are a paycheck to her, that’s it.
Don’t ever forget that.
Even when I’ve had providers try to initiate a friendship or whatever I’m always skeptical.
One SP gave me her number and texted me to bring champagne for the next visit.
Don’t get caught up in your feelings.

Sh*t happens, but you need to be very lucky!

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I don't think her giving you her personal number isn't that big of a deal.
It's just a more reliable form of contact.

Of course it’s just for convenience, it can help sometimes to get a priority or last minute booking. Don’t get fooled, it is not her private number, they all have a working phone.

 

[minutemenX]

if it is ever possible to befriend an escort,

Yes, it is possible, but expensive

 

[envelopes]

Yes, it is possible, but expensive

Nah. I'm friends with a couple of SPs. We always split everything. In fact, one SP was in my city and we went out for dinner and she actually offered to pay for it since I was showing her around. (She's visited a couple times since that first time and we still split everything)

You can totally be "actual" friends with SPs.

 

[minutemenX]

I'm friends with a couple of SPs. We always split everything. In fact, one SP was in my city and we went out for dinner and she actually offered to pay for i

I also heard rumors that some guys manage to get free BBBJs in strip clubs.