Hi
This is a very good thread.
When you become older, you can have two main issues, erection and ejaculation, I am 62 and I have both problems
First one if you do not have physical issue is cause by different things, mainly psychological, if you see an SP for the first time or even a girl friend it happen, so if you loose your erection once it can become a psychological circle, you will be afraid that you will not have another one, I do not talk about others, I am just talking about my experience, it take more stimulation, and its true that sometime just the mere seconds between a full erection and the time you reach for the condom, you lose it.
So after that is square one, but the connection between the person you are with is also important, I must convince myself that she know what I know, but do not want to accept that older men have these difficulties.
I have tried about 10 years ago the little yellow pill, true it help, but it is not connected to ejaculation.
As for ejaculation, if you manage to keep your erection, it can take a while and again its a lot of stimulation, visual , tactile, etc, also Anti depressants can cause anorgasmia, I know
This is why when I see an SP try to take at least 3 hours, and yes when you repeat with someone these issues vanish a lot, but sometimes as beautiful a flower can be, it is human to want to see and smell the perfume of another flower.
One time I had a prostate massage with BBBJ, believe me, old or not, it was overwhelming, but its not a common thing you can ask when you see an SP.
Of course when I am alone, I do not have any of these issues.
So the issue, is not or try to, think about it, let it go, otherwise you will not be in the moment, easy to say, bit not always easy to do
Qapla
M.