Is your feeling on her ability to cope with her job important?

[Net Profit Margin]

gugu, I appreciate your effort here to elevate discussion but you're all over the place. One you keep changing the question and two you put morality and criminal law in the same bag.

I don't know where you and Siocnarf are going with that. Are you trying to show that I'm a heartless prick for not showing concern for her ability to cope with the job? Sure seems that's what you're doing. For the record and to spare you further questioning:

I'm firmly againt pimps beating up on sexworkers. As a matter of fact, I'm firmly against violence in any shape or form, physical or psychological, duh!

I'm firmly against underage prostitution as defined by the Law, duh!

I wish sexworkers get their fair share of money but that's beyond my control, duh!

If she shows evident signs of going through depression like she bursts into tears in the middle of the act or whatever, chances are very good I kindly ask her to leave and hope for her she gets well, duh!

It's great if she can cope with her job but by the time my feelings about her ability to do so kick in it's already too late (not to say that my feelings are possibly wrong)

 

[Siocnarf]

I was not implying anything about you, just a wish that you would explain your own position instead of questioning other's who had already explained clearly their own. I agree with your last sentence. If I only have a vague feeling she is not happy I won't leave on the spot, but I probably won't have a very good time and I will not come back. There's of course a distinction between someone who is just uncomfortable with the job and someone who is being exploited and as a client we don't know the details of her life.

 

[Siocnarf]

This conversation reminded me of Nelly Arcand, the writer who used to be an escort and committed suicide a few years ago. She came from a good family, was not abused and it was her own decision to become an escort. I don't know what kind of vibe her clients got from her, but she was depressive and disgusted with life in general even before becoming an escort. If an SP can cope well with the job it does not mean they are necessarily happy, but it will be less apparent to the client. And when they seem unhappy in the job it can be for a lot of different reasons.

 

[gugu]

Well, NPM, you bumped the thread. I hope you got the answer you were looking for. Just like siocnarf, I had no intention of attacking you. This is just a discussion. Of course, I pushed you a bit to find out where you would locate the limit. There must be one somewhere.

 

[Merlot]

This conversation reminded me of Nelly Arcand, the writer who used to be an escort and committed suicide a few years ago. She came from a good family, was not abused and it was her own decision to become an escort. I don`t know what kind of vibe her clients got from her, but she was depressive and disgusted with life in general even before becoming an escort. If an SP can cope well with the job it does not mean they are necessarily happy, but it will be less apparent to the client. And when they seem unhappy in the job it can be for a lot of different reasons.

Hello Siocnarf,

Perhaps the books by Nelly Arcand served a personal cathartic purpose she needed. But having achieved that, perhaps the publicity and the perception of her in the public mind had a severe negative personal impact with the tragic result. Catch 22.

Many millions cope with jobs they don`t like or hate, but can put on a brave and smiling face while in that role. It`s hardly uncommon, and so the logic of the same situation for escorts. Maybe many enjoy the fantasy of being with men but aren`t necessarily happy that it is enjoyed through escorting, as we enjoy escorts but might wish for someone very special for ourselves alone. It must be much tougher for the ladies who are chosen by anyone who may be anything, while we clients get to choose at minimum for physical appeal and beauty.

It is relatively important for me that the lady of the moment can relax and enjoy herself. That would go a long way to making the encounter all the better. But would it change things if she was acting? In my situation where my stay is short and the option to send anyone back means losing key prime time opportunities in a very restricted time frame, it probably wouldn`t matter as long as she was aesthetically and physically pleasing...and at least seemed comfortable with me. But it would matter regarding the chances of a repeat.

Her feelings are important in a best case situation with real freedom to choose. But in my situation if she is only acting the opportunity restrictions mean I must deal with whatever the situation is. If I lived in Montreal, and had the opportunity to send one lady back one night and try for better the next, then I could afford to seek out real companions. But visitors must do their homework, take their best shot trusting to good information and...luck.

Happy choices,

Merlot

 

[santa-fe]

Common Merl, next time just have a fuck, why it has to be so complicated... Reminds me Larry David show...:smile:

 

[Siocnarf]

Hi Merlot. I'm not very good at "reading" people and I'm never quite sure to what extent an escort is acting. I guess they must all act to some extent (I'm sure I can't be that interesting), but I don't mind so long as its believable. However I prefer someone who is a bit grumpy but seems in control to someone who is acting poorly.