"I've never been with a black girl"

[AdeleBeaumont]

I have to be honest, I get that a lot in my personal and non personal life. I was talking with other black SP and they all said that they find it offensive because they feel like they're just being fetishisized/objectified.
I don't mind it because I don't think there's a difference between me and a white woman. Yes, you may be attracted to white women over black women and that is just fine. It's just as if someone would say they like younger women over older women. To each their own, we all have preferences and one shouldn't be hurt by those words. It might sound clumsy but it sure isn't meant to be hurtful. I do understand why some people could be uncomfortable with that but in this context I really don't mind it. One SP even told me she ignores all messages/emails starting with that sentence. Another one said avoids men who are referring to her as "ebony".


I don't take it personal. In fact, I'm here to be your fantasy right? If you've always wished you could be with a black woman, it would be a pleasure to make it happen.




Does it offend you when a gentleman approaches you with those words "I've never been with a [insert ethnicity here] girl" ?

 

[Jessica Rain]

I think it depends on how they say it as in the tone and mannerism expressed.

I have heard the same as in bigger girl, older woman, even first-timers saying they have never been with an escort before.

I personally don't get offended but I get how it can for some women.

Good thread!

 

[Halloween Mike]

I will admit i could be seen as guilty of saying that as i mentioned in your other thread. But its a "sexual thing" before anything else. I could say also that i never been with an elderly woman (50+ years old) and that could also be a fetish i have. I would say the number of older women that would interest me to see would be limited, but some of them would be a total fantasm. One of my celebrity crush is Cynthia Rothrock and she is 62 years old. Sure she does not look that age at all, but still...

In real life peoples are peoples and i am actually pretty tired of these "race seperating" things. There is currently an hashtag on twitter call "mywhiteprivilege" , i feel this is so dumb and it just keep alive the stigmat that "whites are better" when its not the case at all.

But sexually , especially since either black or asian women are much less frequent in the hobby, i kinda want my first to be special. Think of it as almost a virginity of this. Kinda like anal virginity or first "insert sexual fetish".

Maybe im over zealous and should really just let it go with the flow. But i kinda have in mind all these georgous black ladies in mind (Jessica Lucas, Beyoncé, Halle Berry, Jennifer Hudson, Tyra Banks, Nathalie Emanuel and others) and i fantasm of being with someone close in look to them.

As you say, isn't this business about "fantasm" and "fantasy" in the first place.

But if it may offend some black providers ill be sure to not say this. Yes the goal is not to offend anyone.

 

[AdeleBeaumont]

I think it depends on how they say it as in the tone and mannerism expressed.

That is SO true.

Maybe im over zealous and should really just let it go with the flow. But i kinda have in mind all these georgous black ladies in mind (Jessica Lucas, Beyoncé, Halle Berry, Jennifer Hudson, Tyra Banks, Nathalie Emanuel and others) and i fantasm of being with someone close in look to them.

I can't believe you forgot Naomi Campbell and yes it only makes sense that you would want your first experience to be memorable (for good reasons).

 

[Jessica Rain]

From some ladies in niche markets who have to deal with men who negatively fetishize their niche, I get it.

For example, some Asian ladies will not book a man who appears to only be booking an appointment based on the incorrect notion that all Asians are subservient and docile. Or book a black lady simply because it is somehow Taboo. There are some mean comments that I have heard about booking based on those races and the terms used seem to me to be racist in nature. I won't even repeat them.

For those types of men, I get why women would be upset.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Some time soon there will be a first, why, why not, and if we click who knows then I may see more Asian ladies.
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If you are ever in Vancouver there are some smoking hot Asians working there.

 

[jalimon]

I pity the men who have never been with a black girl I could say the same with Asian girl. My god what a loss of opportunity!

For me it's like saying I will only eat french food for the rest of my life. Haha makes no senses!

Cheers,

 

[cloudsurf]

One of my favourite escorts is a black lady from Toronto.
When I`m with her I get so wrapped in the moment that I`m not even aware of her colour.

 

[pat98]

jalimon
So true ...
I have only one thing to add .. about black girls; I waited far too long :bounce:
to finally discover it was MY preference!

 

[EagerBeaver]

There is a black lady I met on SA who managed to turn this right around and use it as a marketing slogan. Her Seeking profile says, “if you haven’t been with a black lady before, choose me!!!” Or words to that effect. I actually met her before she ever adopted that slogan, which was not applicable to me anyway. I think I have now reached a point where I have had sexual relations with as many black women in my life as white women. In the last 5 years I have had an overwhelming majority of black sexual partners through SA (primarily) and it has evened the racial score, so to speak. Equal opportunity in my bedroom 365/24/7, the only real important criteria is looking good and being able to bring an excellent blow job.

 

[AdeleBeaumont]

the only real important criteria is looking good and being able to bring an excellent blow job.

That's how it should be. But it's ok to have a preference as well.

 

[gaby]

Well interesting thread.....dans mon cas c'est un cheminement naturel-----de plus de 30 ans----et une quête qui continue......long long story. ...j''irais même jusqu'à dire plus qu'une passion...une raison de vivre...lollll.

Ce que j'aime chez les black ladies c'est qu'elles aiment intensément la vie, le plaisir,le fun et sont pétillantes, généreuses and sooooo sexy and sensual.......juste de les voir bouger--danser me rend crackpot......d'ailleurs TOUTES celles rencontrées ont toujours été le fun quoique bien sûr différentes physiquement et en intensité....mais jamais de regret......alors comme le dit si bien pat98 et bien d'accord avec lui ..elles sont MY preference.....et de loin.

 

[Halloween Mike]

That is SO true.



I can't believe you forgot Naomi Campbell and yes it only makes sense that you would want your first experience to be memorable (for good reasons).

There is so many, the post would be long if i named everybody LOL. I could had name a lot of Asian ladies as well, lots of them not being that well known but oh so beautifull.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Gentlemen stating that they never been with a black girl is to be expected. If one looks at the supply the majority of girls are White For instance on Merb the agencies hire mostly White girls, many stripcoubs got racial quotas. So the chance you try a black girl is slim unless you actively seek one out. I prefer black girls so I actively screen for that. I am just more attracted to black women. But for arguments sake let us say I had same preferences if I go to a stripclub the chance I take a black girl are slim since there are not many of them.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Just my opinion but I do not think a person's skin color makes them any better in bed, it is the attraction in your mind that may make you think that. For myself in looks I prefer the P.A.M. look ( for those who remember her ), my recent stay in Vancouver brought on a new like for Asians but still not the top of my list. Halley Berry would be more than welcome.

 

[cloudsurf]

Salty you gotta love Halsey who is tri-bi.

 

[heliragedeleted]

Thé very first time I was with a black women I had no idea what race she was. It was at the Econolodge and the booker failed to mention anything about her except that she was free and would be a good fit for me. She was right and it went very well. Of course I made a double take when the door opened, but junior said to me why the fuck not?
So I now know my dick is not racist.

 

[sambuca]

I was talking with other black SP and they all said that they find it offensive because they feel like they're just being fetishisized/objectified......................

To each their own, we all have preferences and one shouldn't be hurt by those words. It might sound clumsy but it sure isn't meant to be hurtful.

You're right Kyla. This business essentially objectifies every type of escort. If men can only make one requirement of an escort, most of us would say we would like her to be pretty. However, we're looking at photos on a multitude of websites making choices like curvy or skinny, natural or implants, blonde or brunette and on and on.

Many years ago, I frequented a large nightclub in Brazil where there were dozens and dozens of "professional" women of all colors and shapes. I honestly never walked in with a specific type of woman in mind. I drank. I bought drinks for women. I danced. I talked. Then I would walk out with a girl who made a connection and was fun. The girl was never the hottest there and usually far from the whitest.

The reason I tell that story is that it contrasts with finding escorts on the internet where men might never or rarely break out from their predetermined parameters.

 

[hungry101]

I find it ridiculous that an SP would get offended because of that.

I'm with you Sam. If you don't want to be objectified than find another line of work.

I have to laugh when I see female adult film stars become active in the #MeToo movement and make a statement such as the following:

"Yes, I was on set to have a 3-way and a guy unloaded on my face and when the director said cut I noticed he was giving me the elevator eyes. This is terrible! I felt like a piece of meat!!!

I turn on the news and and think who's going to be whining now. Everyone wants to be a victim. Now black escorts are feeling objectified and fetishized? Find a new line of work. That's like me being insulted because I am treated like too much of an engineer.

 

[jalimon]

I agree with you hungry... And so does the OP Kyla. From her first post:

"I don't take it personal. In fact, I'm here to be your fantasy right? If you've always wished you could be with a black woman, it would be a pleasure to make it happen."

Right on! It's all about fantasy! An sp that feels objectified is not in the best line of work to say the least...

To tell you the truth a part of the "objectification" is actually something that turns me on hehe I will always remember a sentence that one girl said to me.. "You know to be very honest being paid to be fucked turns me on, I like it!".
That is probably a better mindset for the hobby

Bonne Journé!