Loss of interest

[Flyingby]

This is one way to look at it and it probably holds true in many cases.
I prefer to think that they do have an opinion of their clients ( I don’t ask it is of no interest to me) and in rare cases you can make a connection where they actually do care about you and you can actually have a certain type of friendship.
Not all are cold hearted money hungry hookers that look at you like a walking ATM. They have feelings like all other women. That doesn’t mean for you to confuse the issue, you are actually paying for their time.

Fradi. You are right for those times where you repeat, repeat, repeat, and repeat again.
but when you only see a girl maybe once or twice. You are an atm.
and with so many gems. Why would you eat tthe same thing over and over again.
i like salt and vinegar chips, it is my go to chip, but sometimes I want doritos, or bbq, or some popcorn.

 

[Flyingby]

Or how about when they Tell you they have a BF who creampies her in the Morning before she goes to work and Then your eating her out thinking wow your really juicy but its really another mans cum your eating up. I hear that happens a lot.​

If you hear that happens a lot…you are definitely seeing the wrong girls

 

[Kenshiro2029]

You got it. Life is too short to over analyze. Fucking hot girls, and getting your ego boosted is a GREAT way to improve your self-esteem which will make you not only happier, but healthier as well. Just don't buy in (pun intended) that the girl (Shantie excepted) is into you. Money makes an average looking gut hot. A large bulge in the wallet is worth two extra inches in length! And yes, the physical act of fucking and exposing your physical self to another human does make for certain feelings, and you can make "friends" with the women you meet. But you need to keep it in perspective. A lot of these women also have boyfriends, it's a job. Now let's get back to finding hot girls to fuck!

Fradi. You are right for those times where you repeat, repeat, repeat, and repeat again.
but when you only see a girl maybe once or twice. You are an atm.
and with so many gems. Why would you eat tthe same thing over and over again.
i like salt and vinegar chips, it is my go to chip, but sometimes I want doritos, or bbq, or some popcorn.

I absolutely agree with Fradi, probably we as guys we don’t like hearing that but it’s a transaction at the end, it’s like regular relationships we are supposed to provide (dinners, trips, etc..) and that’s ok. In this hobby it’s more transparent the transaction, but always remember whatever you are feeling is just temporary result of your hormones and brain chemistry affected.

 

[adeci]

@Wtv, might i ask how stimulated you feel in your day to day (work-life challenges) ? my experience has been sex drive goes immediately way up whenever i accomplish something (these days can be as simple as 1 email, or filing my taxes lol)

 

[Kenshiro2029]

@Wtv, might i ask how stimulated you feel in your day to day (work-life challenges) ? my experience has been sex drive goes immediately way up whenever i accomplish something (these days can be as simple as 1 email, or filing my taxes lol)

This an interesting take, i feel quite often When life work-life gets complex, overwhelming an easy fix is sex to bring some balance, but I find that’s it’s just a temporary fix,

 

[Kenshiro2029]

Fradi. You are right for those times where you repeat, repeat, repeat, and repeat again.
but when you only see a girl maybe once or twice. You are an atm.
and with so many gems. Why would you eat tthe same thing over and over again.
i like salt and vinegar chips, it is my go to chip, but sometimes I want doritos, or bbq, or some popcorn.

Lol but sometimes you want a very specific type of Doritos and you cannot find them because they are out of stock (all booked) . In a serious tone, i was told many years ago that this hobby is for finding sex not love.recently I had the privilege to assist to a public event and it was impressive the amount of beautiful ladies with older guys. I’d say 20 to 25 years age gap easily. With all respect to the gents , I doubt those arrangement work due to the gent charming conversation, at the end the gentleman is looking for something and the lady too, it’s an exchange. An affordable one? I doubt any SA is affordable but it’s just another way “build” that connection.

 

[Quebecoisewomen#1]

@Wtv, might i ask how stimulated you feel in your day to day (work-life challenges) ? my experience has been sex drive goes immediately way up whenever i accomplish something (these days can be as simple as 1 email, or filing my taxes lol)

When seasons start to change something happens to my libido!

 

[Kenshiro2029]

It really all depends on what you want from this hobby.
Some are perfectly happy with just the physical release and being with a gorgeous woman they tend not to repeat with anyone or maybe occasionally if the experience is overwhelmingly great and they tend to pick from agencies.

Me personally I see very few I see one in particular 80% of the time another maybe 10% of the time and a few new ones occasionally.
I like the connection and the friendship we have developed they are not only gorgeous but the kindest most thoughtful young ladies you would ever want to meet and 2 of them I have been seeing for over 5 years. I don’t use agencies I prefer independents I like the personal attention and the connection that develops sometimes, yes it is more expensive.

This hobby is not to be confused with a real relationship it does not compare to being with the woman you love the mother of your children and the love of your life.
It fills the void somewhat and if you are lucky enough to find amazing young ladies like I have then the hobby is worth it.

I’m curious about your experience and those friendships and connections? Does it happen more often with more experienced SP in general? At the end it’s their job and it’s part of the customer service and client satisfaction I guess, specially with a recurring client.

 

[Kenshiro2029]

Or how about when they Tell you they have a BF who creampies her in the Morning before she goes to work and Then your eating her out thinking wow your really juicy but its really another mans cum your eating up. I hear that happens a lot.​

Lol this was brutal lol, but not so far fetched. I had heard that multiple times too. Classic boyfriend sex vs work sex, Nothing wrong with that! It’s fair game!.

 

[Kenshiro2029]

I used to be a semi active person in this... hobby? But lately I've lost almost complete interest in it. Maybe it's the last minute cancelations by providers with no explanation or the social media, or discussions I've had with certain providers about the work they do and what they actually think of the clients...

I just don't see the value of it anymore or how the experience is even worth it. Just me ranting in the wee hours or anyone else?
Guys, anything?
Ladies?

If I may give you my perspective, it’s hard to see the value if you are expecting more than just sex. I don’t blame you why you have those discussions, to be honest I was very curious years ago and I learned a lot. Not sure how old are you but I’ll suggest to stop just cold like that and try dating. Go do it and see what you get different, I assure you that on this times it’s a high risk and low reward game , sometimes you just want to have sex with a gorgeous girl and go on with your day.

 

[MCTJ]

Or how about when they Tell you they have a BF who creampies her in the Morning before she goes to work and Then your eating her out thinking wow your really juicy but its really another mans cum your eating up. I hear that happens a lot.​

This is fearmongering.

 

[minutemenX]

Or how about when they Tell you they have a BF who creampies her in the Morning before she goes to work and Then your eating her out thinking wow your really juicy but its really another mans cum your eating up. I hear that happens a lot.​

Yep, and in restaurants and bars they often just rinse the silverware and glasses, and you end up eating other people saliva. How do you think all these nasty infections spread? Thinking about it would sure spoil your appetite . Farm kids raised in dirt often have superior to town folk resistance to infections. I guess hard practicing MERBITS develop similar tolerance and resistance

 

[wtvmark]

@Wtv, might i ask how stimulated you feel in your day to day (work-life challenges) ? my experience has been sex drive goes immediately way up whenever i accomplish something (these days can be as simple as 1 email, or filing my taxes lol)

I'm always busy, doing activities i like or at work. My job is pretty engaging, i get to socialize with a lot of people, I work out almost every day for 90 mins, play sports...
own my own house, i invest a good percentage of my income... i travel a few times a year ect. Just been single almost a decade, dating at this point makes me feel like id prefer to eat wet socks. I
I dunno, i feel like Helmholtz Wastson from brave new world.

 

[Jordd]

I'm here to fuck hot girls and I'm fucking hot girls. For me, this hobby is about fucking hot girls. That's all I'm here for.

I hear a lot of guys actually don't fuck and just want to talk. That's fine too. Go ahead and talk.

You get what you pay for. What's the problem? Anything else is stuff you're making up in your head.

That’s gold! It would make a great plaque on my wall, or a t-shirt!

 

[Jordd]

I'm always busy, doing activities i like or at work. My job is pretty engaging, i get to socialize with a lot of people, I work out almost every day for 90 mins, play sports...
own my own house, i invest a good percentage of my income... i travel a few times a year ect. Just been single almost a decade, dating at this point makes me feel like id prefer to eat wet socks. I
I dunno, i feel like Helmholtz Wastson from brave new world.

This topic is making for a popular thread.
Seems like you have an active life.
But, seriously, if you’ve lost interest, just leave. Take a break.

 

[wtvmark]

This topic is making for a popular thread.
Seems like you have an active life.
But, seriously, if you’ve lost interest, just leave. Take a break.

I am on a break for now. Might be permanent. Given the cancellations i lost my taste for it and am doing other things.
Does it make me feel any different? Not really. I was just wondering if/what other people felt being in a slump. I'm not that old so i have a lot in front of me. But was just wondering What some vets had to say, maybe some providers. On their part its a loss of a client, if that even matters, There's always another potentially better one anyway.
Instead of partaking i started my own garden for example. I have grown enough bok-choy where its gotten out of hand already and half my living room has turned into a jungle with all the vines everywhere.
But again its just 1 am ranting. I would have been out but my plans cancelled again. Civilian plans, last minute cancellation as usual. I'm not that old but i still remember a time where people had more courtesy then to no show or cancel 30 mins before.

 

[Fradi]

I’m curious about your experience and those friendships and connections? Does it happen more often with more experienced SP in general? At the end it’s their job and it’s part of the customer service and client satisfaction I guess, specially with a recurring client.

I am not sure if it has anything to do with more experienced SP or it being their job.
When you treat someone with kindness and you see them for years to me it is kind of natural to develop a friendship.
Yes it is their job and yes it is a $$$ transaction, however I don’t think it is any different than with other jobs.
I had my favourite suppliers and people with whom I developed a friendship at work in many parts of the world and with some I am still in contact with.
Why do people always think that SP are not basically women with the same kind of feelings like any other.
They will look forward to seeing someone who is kind and thoughtful and treats them well and for sure as a client I would much rather spend my money on these type of ladies.
Basically you get back what you give.

 

[Jordd]

I am on a break for now. Might be permanent. Given the cancellations i lost my taste for it and am doing other things.
Does it make me feel any different? Not really. I was just wondering if/what other people felt being in a slump. I'm not that old so i have a lot in front of me. But was just wondering What some vets had to say, maybe some providers. On their part its a loss of a client, if that even matters, There's always another potentially better one anyway.
Instead of partaking i started my own garden for example. I have grown enough bok-choy where its gotten out of hand already and half my living room has turned into a jungle with all the vines everywhere.
But again its just 1 am ranting. I would have been out but my plans cancelled again. Civilian plans, last minute cancellation as usual. I'm not that old but i still remember a time where people had more courtesy then to no show or cancel 30 mins before.

Well, I don’t consider myself a veteran. I don’t find myself in a slump either. Actually, a cancellation would have the opposite effect on me. I’d be even more eager to rebook.

I agree it won’t matter to the providers. One client less won’t make a difference.

You are single with disposable income. The world is your oyster, my friend. You can do what ever you want. It doesn’t have to involve SW.

You can meet new people and develop new interesting relationships. And you can continue to focus on your other hobbies, like 90% of the population.

 

[Fradi]

Fradi. You are right for those times where you repeat, repeat, repeat, and repeat again.
but when you only see a girl maybe once or twice. You are an atm.
and with so many gems. Why would you eat tthe same thing over and over again.
i like salt and vinegar chips, it is my go to chip, but sometimes I want doritos, or bbq, or some popcorn.

Flyingby,
We are all different I was perfectly happy with eating the same for over 35 years because I was with the woman of my dreams. and the mother of my children. That I will never have with any SP no matter how much of a friendship we have.
I guess I haven’t changed much, even with SP for me it is not about quantity but finding someone I really like and enjoy spending time with and they know it and usually respond in kind.
Yes we all understand that they do this for money but that doesn’t mean that you have to feel like you are an ATM, if that is how you feel then maybe you too are seeing the wrong SP or you basically don’t care one way or the other because all you want is sex with a hot girl. which is perfectly fine also.

 

[donbusch]

I'm always busy, doing activities i like or at work. My job is pretty engaging, i get to socialize with a lot of people, I work out almost every day for 90 mins, play sports...
own my own house, i invest a good percentage of my income... i travel a few times a year ect. Just been single almost a decade, dating at this point makes me feel like id prefer to eat wet socks. I
I dunno, i feel like Helmholtz Wastson from brave new world.

Have you tried travelling to Brazil, Columbia, Indonesia, Phillipines, Thailand for a few weeks or months to try some long-time GFE? Not interested in a full-time relationship then how about a few quarter-time relationships with ladies that truly appreciate your business?

Pre-covid, I used to visit Montreal regularly although it’s easier for me to fly to European or Asian cities. That quebecois GFE was really something special but now, all we read on the boards are indys escalating their prices, agencies pushing for incalls only despite higher prices and the dreaded frequent cancellations. Are the ladies doing these last minute cancellations because they are flaky or perhaps a client offering more hours suddenly called?

You have gotten a lot of good advice here but end of the day, even the best-intentioned advice is based on one’s experiences & preferences. Post your question in the international monger forums and you’ll get well ….. totally different advice and outbursts on spoiled western SWs, futility of marriage, how they’re fucking the young hottie that is growing their bok choi and who cares about regulars or cancellations when you are drowning in pussy.