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There is good, there is bad and that is just how things are and always will be in the sex industry and other industries too :p

Hello Mitsou,

This is what I've been saying in every post. It's not as horrible as La Presse says or as blissful as La Capt says. It's run by good and bad human beings. Unfortunately the semi-legal standing allows it to be highly exploitable...beyond other jobs.

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Shit has happened to me. Shit has happened to every girl I knew in the business.

About this journalism being biased: I don't think it's any more biased than Merb.

That said, I don't think figures like "En trois ans, 100 proxénètes ont été arrêtés. Tous, sans exception, ont été condamnés" are bullshit. These figures came from a Montérégie youth center. I think they know what they're talking about...

Cool agencies, I don't know how many there are but I suspect there are more that aren't so kosher.

...why shouldn't you believe me when I tell you most of the places I worked at were awful and didn't care for my protection at all? Or the other girls' opinions here, who state that they've lived that reality as well?

Bonjour Sidney,

I understand when Merb clients rebel at articles like this one from La Presse. As one member said here (Mitsou?) we live in a Merb bubble, and also our experiences are likely to heavily contradict the extreme depictions given in the articles like this. Then, just on principle it's hard to take a fair look at articles that are designed for attacking the industry we enjoy. But what I can't understand is how anyone can just throw up an angry wall of complete denial that anything like the events in the articles might be true, never mind when it's done by a member who has been around Merb for a long while and has seen the many upsetting and harsh revelations about the ladies over the years.

Your experiences match what I've read and heard from escorts and drivers, and some will have to reconsider their opinions now that we have more written testimony from ladies who have gone through the experiences giving us a clearer picture of the truth. Thanks for that.

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Ladies and Gents,

In response to Merlot's distorted characterization of my views:

I stand by my contention that these articles constitute propaganda. Merlot, as you can see from the definition below, "propaganda" is not the same thing as "lies," as you suggest.

I did add the second part of that line, "meaning untrue, fabricated" because it's the common notion of propaganda, not the accurate one as we both know. It had the benefit that you might explain your position more clearly, as you did.

I never said any such thing. "Seediness" can be found in the sex industry, in government & politics, in law enforcement, in business, in education. Despite the seediness that I have sometime observed in those institutions, I am not in favoring of abolishing them.

Seedy or seediness are poor generic words indicating any kind of dealings that skirt the law or ethics. You're right that this exists everywhere. But in the sex industry I meant to refer to methods to actually control a person's life for sexual profit, such as promoting drug use, using physical abuse as a constant threat in many cases, emotional blackmail as a mode of operation, unusual in the other businesses.

Should we take you skipping over the existence of "abusive pimps, drug dealers, gangs, or mafia type organizations" to be your tacit admission of their involvement.

Not all feminists, just 99% of today's feminists.

So I distorted this one by 1%. Actually less than .5% since I allowed that many feminists are against the sex industry.

The reason that women face risks in the sex industry is because of the illegal nature of many of the activities associated with it.

This is contradictory. You indicate being a sex worker is already no more risky than other work, yet indicate greater risks because of the "illegal nature".

Unless I have good evidence to the contrary, I assume that an adult woman with whom I have contracted to provide me with sexual services is doing so of her own free will. Women are not children in need of protection from meddlesome politicians, police officers, nitwit feminist professors and hack writers.

Have you ever seen a rape? Reported crimes against women show 1 in 4 or 5 women are raped. So you imply if you don't see it or don't see the police reports it didn't happen since you have already said to me that a woman simply telling me she or her friends have been abused in some way isn't good enough. It's guaranteed you have spoken to women you never knew had been raped even though they never said anything about it.

Clients who think nothing is wrong just because they've never seen anything are sealing themselves in a wishful bubble.

I've never met any lady since 2001 who seemed to be providing sexual services against her will. Why? She is there to perform/act as everyone keeps saying. If she is in trouble is she likely to unburden herself to some stranger who is paying for service illegally, doesn't want involvement or exposure?[/I]

I don't see why anyone characterizes those who might really be trying to help as "meddlesome" and "nitwit". Sure there are those who have agendas that are not concerned with the well-being of the ladies, but to stereotype them wholesale is denial of the good many are trying to achieve.

If you oppose legalization of the business of prostitution then you condemn lots of girls to having to work for the assholes you typically find in illegal businesses.

You are contradicting yourself. You keep saying conditions in the business as they are today are no worse than other businesses yet you indicate an admission of common exploitation when you say "condemn", which clearly means a situation of danger from "assholes" well beyond normal.

If you're satisfied with the status quo, then to me that shows disdain for any girl who doesn't have the ability like you to manage her own business. If your position is that we should have a law that bans only "asshole pimps" (i.e., asshole agency owners, boyfriends etc.) but not "good pimps" (i.e., agency owners that you approve of), how is that supposed to work?

You seem pretty closed to anyone who can offer first hand experience and testimony if it contradicts what you believe. Again, do you need to see it happen in front of you to admit to it.

You're also making some poor presumptions about Sidney, rejecting the possibility that she may have gotten out because of having seen some very bad things happening to the ladies, as well as her own bad experiences. I don't know what's in her mind either, but I wouldn't disparage her if her witness information contradicted
my view.

Merlot, I think these are all points on which you and I can mostly agree.
  1. I view this series of articles in La Presse as part of a campaign to attack the sex industry in Montreal and radically restrict it
  2. To ameliorate the problems associated with the sex industry, I have called for it to be legalized.


  1. From my original post in this thread I didn't think we would be far apart, so your original reply seemed harsh. I have agreed with everyone who says so many of these articles like these in La Presse are made to attack the sex industry as an evil as a whole, denying any positive possibility exists rather than dealing with the reality that the industry will never go away so protection of the women must be paramount.

    But as you now indicate the difference between us seems to be that you think that working in the industry is no worse than other jobs (though you have shown some contradictions) and I know the abuses are beyond normalcy in other jobs.

    Since the business will continue there is no choice but to protect the women involved. If legalizing it achieves that I think we should support it. Simple decriminalization may not be enough for the reasons CaptRenault explained.

    Cheers,

    Merlot
 

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Look behind you.
I talked to FS stripper "X " and she mentioned that one night a couple of girls were dropped off at the FS bar by their pimps not knowing the job they were about to perform until they got there ( thought contact dancing only ), the other girls supplied them with condoms as the girls would not tell the pimp they would not work there. If someone thinks that all the girls they see are there on their own free should think twice as some are not.
 

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Ladies and Gents,
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Merlot
Wow ... 3 page down to be able to read this post !!!
Are you trying to make some long post world record ? :lol:

Cela dit ... ces article de La Presse comme dit précédemment ne sont qu'un autre exemple de non objectivité totale car complètement "one sided" !

D'ailleurs pour n'importe quel article paru si je m'aperçois que l'auteur est une ... femme ...
Je lis ça avec non pas un grain de sel... Mais la salière au complet ! :lol:

Je ne pensais pas que le La Presse voulait tant autant ressembler au Journal de Marde...ouppsss de Montréal !
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Well said, John S. Black. I couldn't have said it any better. We're all entitled to our opinions & if we want others to respect ours, we should also respect theirs.
 

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Gentlemen, :)

to call a woman a nitwit feminist is uncalled for and to say merlots discredited just because you say so is your opinion which I don't agree with.
many woman are raped and abused and don't go to the police because of people with an attitude

I think La Capt was just trying a little oneupsmanship in his style. If he is the reasonably fair person I think he is he would realize the point was you never really know when you are with someone who has experienced tragedy or vicious abuse, and just because you don't know about it doesn't change the fact it happened. So if your entire experience with escorts has been sweet, cozy, charming, and exciting, that all says nothing about what they've really gone through.

Still, despite making allowances for the style of writing, it is troubling that anyone seems to see feminists under the bed or in the closet all of the time, or compulsively uses them as a one-size-fits-all bogeyman (bogeywoman) to explain all they don't like on this issue. I may have made a common but maybe faulted reference for rape stats without checking, but saying my views were all based on feminist influence was bogeyman nonsense...and that's pretty discrediting if you always feel compelled to throw up the feminist demon so habitually to deal with any explanation. Common Capt, you must be better than that.

merlot has earned many peoples respect and I find him a gentleman.

That's it, I'm calling the company to have them put out a new super huggie Merlot (Teddy) Bear.

I appreciate the sentiment JSB, but you are making me blush, not to mention feel like I can leap tall buildings. Let's ease back on this, Je sais que je suis un bâtard quand je veux être.

Cheers,

Merlot ( le magnifique) ;)

BTW: The Capt has been very respectful generally speaking despite some mischaracterizations and presumptions we have both been guilty of. Unlike many other discussions neither of us have resorted to crass insults and I think we both appreciate that. He's passionate but he has handled it pretty well.
 

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I, for one, disagree with that model. It hasn't been shown to me how decriminalizing the section on living off the avails would make prostitution any safer. It would allow asshole pimps to work in full impunity, is all it would do. As for brothels, I have no problem with decriminalizing them, same with having a driver.

You have answered your own question. You are in favour of decriminalizing living off the avails if you are in favour of decriminalizing drivers. Drivers are living off the avails. I suppose, also, that if you are in favour of decriminalizing drivers, it is because you feel they make prostitution safer.

The same logic applies to brothels that are businesses living off the avails.

Himel had a very simple way to solve the problem: living off the avails should be considered pimping when it is done in an exploitive way.

this is what a cop told me in conversation just a few days ago,he said since the lap dancing case its been hard to go after massage studios unless there is drugs underage or complaints

Individual cops say all sorts of things. I don't see any link between the two. The day police officials see massage parlours as a serious problem, they'll be able to do pretty much any bust they want. But I think they are realistic. The erotic massage industry is pretty low profile, fairly well managed and easy for police surveillance, whatever some spokes people of the RCMP may want to tell.

THIS IS SEX PROS OF CANADA'S POSITION. This is the argument that was used in Ontario Superior Court. More precisely, the argument went: "if I live with my mother she can be arrested for living off the avails". Show me a single case in Canadian jurisprudence where a judge put a mother behind bars for living off the avails. Screw "ifs", give me facts.

You are showing a very simplistic version of the SPOC argument. Living off the avails concern many people: agency owners, sex workers sharing a working space, drivers, receptionists, hotel managers, etc.

Many people are defending what Young calls the overly broad provisions of the abolitionist regimes: forbidding all intermediaries to make sure exploitative ones are prosecuted (at the expense of having the non exploitative ones prosecuted) and forbidding incall to make sure seedy brothel are kept out the business. But then, what about making prostitution itself illegal to make sure sex workers are not exploited? Overly broad provisions leave arbitrary power to the police forces and tribunals. This is not normal in democracies like ours.

Secondly, you say you are convinced by Stella's position yet you argue against it. You say you are for LEGALIZATION of prostitution - they are for decriminalization of prostitution. Pick a camp!

There is not much difference between legalization and decriminalization. Decriminalization exists nowhere, not even in New Zealand where brothels with more then 4 workers are regulated and where cities and regional powers can continue to impose zoning restrictions. Totally unregulated prostitution is not unfeasible even in Alan Young's mind. What Stella want is no intrusion from the government in their private matters like personal health.

Lastly, I think serious funding needs to appear for social programs for women living and working on the streets.

Why specifically for women? Why specifically for prostitutes? Guys living on the street do not deserve the same programs?

I don't think social programs for people living marginal lives are lacking. I guess social workers outnumber street sex workers in Montreal and that there are numerous programs available for them. We often think that street sex workers are crying for help because we believe they should be crying for help. The fact is that many of them get more money to live then with minimum wage, their most reasonable expectation in other jobs. Getting involved in education programs may not a choice everybody makes. It’s fine to build attractive programs for people who deal with addiction and who otherwise need to turn tricks to make a living. But it is naïve to think they will fulfill their goals.

I think they are a fair, accurate representation of one side of the sex industry.

Fair and one side? Fair means precisely showing the two sides. Also, nowhere in the article are they pretending to show one side. They pretend to talk about prostitution, as a whole.

More exactly, I would like to see it legalized in the way that Germany, Australia and New Zealand have done so.

Any reason why you leave the Netherlands aside? It's as good a model IMHO.
 

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I wonder if reported have or will ever show up at a merb get together. Perhaps with hidden cameras. A "This is what a John looks like story"
 

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Prostitution is a service industry and is a business. And as with any other major business activity there are satellite businesses that support and serving it: advertisement (a.k. MERB), hotels, health care professionals, lawyers etc., and all these activities even tourist industry technically have profits on the avails of prostitution. It is inevitable and there is nothing wrong about it. The only wrong is hypocritical treatment of the prostitution by our society. I firmly believe that in about 50-100 years from now sex service will be in the category between health industry and art (yes, artistic talent is a requirement :)).
 

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Though.... I'm wondering why La presse has made so many articles in a so tide time frame..
 

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I really don't understand why we seem to think "legalizing" something will stop any criminal activities.

First of all, Mitsou, thanks for the first link you provide, a well balances analysis that neatly supports your position. The second link is what I call propaganda.

Legalizing does not stop criminal involvement in the sex trade. Pretending the mafia, bikers or other large criminal organizations have total control of this industry anywhere in the world would be, IMHO, a gross misrepresentation. However, they are in the business everywhere. They may own agencies, massage parlors, strip clubs. But then, what the criminal organizations do with their money is a matter for the police. I don't even know if this industry is an efficient money laundering place. After all, sex businesses are relatively small scale.

I agree with you: public policies on prostitution, all of them, do not have a significant effect on the presence of criminal organizations. I would even go a step further: publics policies on prostitution rarely have significant effects on prostitution as a social phenomenon, its incidence, the characteristics of its participants, prices, etc. The main reason for it is that even in legal systems a large part of it remains anonymous. It is a point well developed in the first link you provide. Sex workers first and foremost request everywhere to maintain their anonymity for security reasons, for confidentiality reasons, for the fucking double life reason and, for many I'm sure, for fiscal reasons. Having the state take a share of the money earned in such intimacy may not be natural for everyone.

But overall, that does not clear out all the benefits of legalization, most notably stopping the nonsense of criminalizing participant of such an activity that happens to be in most cases, a victimless "crime".

And, of course, there are the pragmatic arguments, about safety (largely demonstrated in the Bedford case) and public health. No responsible health official does not want to get a list of sex work businesses in its jurisdiction. It's quite useful when there is an outburst of antibiotic resistant std. As I said, large parts of the industry remain underground whatever the public policy. But at least, legalization helps protect the part operating in the legal sector. That's better then nothing. Public policies pretending to have effects in the underworld are wishful thinking, especially when they exclusively based on repression. It is quite clear in my mind that the most beneficial effects, however small, of the state in prostitution do not come from the action of the police. They come from the action of the health agencies. Montréal is a good illustration.
 
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