My friends want to know

[LC18]

My friends have a few questions for men looking for sugar ba bies or a similar kind of relationship. Since you have always been respectful and willing to participate in my numerous threads, I thought I would ask. If this topic isn't for you, you really don't have to comment. You also don't have to answer every single question, just do those you're comfortable answering.


Where would you look for a sugar ba by? Online, in person, escort/stripper turned sugar baby?

What are your expectations in terms of dates per week vs money?

Do you prefer allowances or "pay per meet" ?

What is the difference between an escort and a sugar b aby if you do "pay per meet" ?

What would be your budget per month?

Would you feel like paying someone's bills every month feel too transactional?

How much would you pay for one evening a week (5 pm - 10 pm approx) ?

Are you still using seekingarrangement?

Do you expect your sugar ba by to send you nudes and text messages when you're not seeing each other? (if you allow it)



Thank you so much in advance.

 

[LC18]

Thank you @Merbert for your detailed answers. I’ll pass the info to my friends.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Maybe let's say 2500-3000. It might seem low by escort standard, but that's over 30k per year just to spend a few hours with someone every week

This is more than low imho.

Lena mentioned 5pm to 10pm, once a week. That’s 5 hours x 4 per month= 20hrs
At 3K you’re averaging 150/ hr!

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Thank you @Merbert for your detailed answers. I’ll pass the info to my friends.

That was only 1 opinion from someone who actually never participated in the sb/sd scene. Just saying

btw, I personally never been attracted by this kind of stuff.

 

[NatashaSnow]

Just nudging this active because I want to know too.

 

[CLOUD 500]

My friends have a few questions for men looking for sugar ba bies or a similar kind of relationship. Since you have always been respectful and willing to participate in my numerous threads, I thought I would ask. If this topic isn't for you, you really don't have to comment. You also don't have to answer every single question, just do those you're comfortable answering.


Where would you look for a sugar ba by? Online, in person, escort/stripper turned sugar baby?

I never had to use SA, the relationships I had would not be what I would call a SugarBaby, I had a number of arrangements over the years. All girls I meet at the stripclub. My most recent one I have been seeing her since 4 years on a regular basis.

What are your expectations in terms of dates per week vs money?

Given the amount of time I have, one date a week is good for me. Each session I had were $300 meetings. She usually stays with me for four hours. We spend most of the time at the hotel, chatting then play time. Sometimes we go out to restaurants or watch a movie. Social time is always off the clock.

Do you prefer allowances or "pay per meet" ?

Always pay per meet. I do not do allowances.

What is the difference between an escort and a sugar b aby if you do "pay per meet" ?

Escort is all business. Book, pay, bang bang, bye bye. I call it the pizza delivery experience. Not my cup of tea. With an arrangement it feels more like a friendship. There is no clock, with each meet she stays with me how much time she wants. We know each other real names, I have her on social media, I got her personal number not a business number or a phone app..

What would be your budget per month?

No set amount, seems to be between $1200 to $1500 a month.

Would you feel like paying someone's bills every month feel too transactional?

Not so much, makes me feel like a walking ATM. You do it once and it will become regular. I had a regular who every month had a request, I stopped it and she did not try anymore.

How much would you pay for one evening a week (5 pm - 10 pm approx) ?

I do not like set times. If I offer $300, or $400 stay the amount of time you would like.

Are you still using seekingarrangement?

I have not needed it as I found all I needed from stripclubs. If there were none I would go to Seeking Arrangement.

Do you expect your sugar ba by to send you nudes and text messages when you're not seeing each other? (if you allow it)

Definitely a plus. Only very few ladies ever sent me nudes. Yes I would want to chit chat via text message. I do it often with the regulars I have an arrangement with. I do not like it when it is all business, meaning just to text to set up an appointment. I would want to chit chat a bit without necessarily having the purpose to make a booking.

 

[Gazoo64]

I agree with @Merbert . Good answers Merbert, my answers would be similar!

Difficult to give a precise answer about the amounts I’d pay. IMO, it would be a slightly lower rate than standard SP rate, for a few reasons. It’s a combination of social time and intimacy. As well, it’s a win-win situation (if it suits both) since it’s a steady income for the SB, trust has been established, etc.

I’ve never had a SB, but I would consider it under the right circumstances.

 

[LC18]

This is more than low imho.

Lena mentioned 5pm to 10pm, once a week. That’s 5 hours x 4 per month= 20hrs
At 3K you’re averaging 150/ hr!

Your head is looking at it from an “client” point of view. It would be low for a provider but for a sugar bb I think it makes sense. It would be average in my opinion, not low.

Also since not everyone is a multi millionaire it’s probably more common.

 

[LC18]

Thank you @CLOUD 500 for bringing a different perspective.

 

[chiff209]

I know SW isn't a normal business, but I've always felt sb/sd relationships should benefit both sides to make sense. They get reliable income from a known entity and we get a somewhat better rate because of that. Remember, the usual hourly rate covers more than an hour of her time if you factor in travel time or time between clients, and booking.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Maybe let's say 2500-3000. It might seem low by escort standard

It depends. The monetary incentive for a prolific escort might be higher, but the benefits can lie in the arrangement itself. I wouldn't do pay-per-meet since there is no incentive for me, of course. But an arrangement where I receive 3000$ at the beginning of every month to spend a few evenings together (meals and wine paid!) starts to be quite attractive. The reliability of a substantial amount makes a big difference.

When I was younger, I tried S/A but I never met someone ready to give an allowance. Personally, all the appeal is there.

 

[Eurasian]

Your head is looking at it from an “client” point of view. It would be low for a provider but for a sugar bb I think it makes sense. It would be average in my opinion, not low.

I agree, there shouldn't be a client-provider relationship... else get an SP. $30k net, so $2500/month is a real good for few hours "work" a week for a... say university student, I don't think she'd make that flipping burgers.

These type of relations are suppose to differ from client-provider and boyfriend-girlfriend or husband-wife... something in between, wherever the girl and man feel comfortable exchanging.

Between the hobby, my personal and professional life... I don't have time to see a SB once a week, once a month maybe and I don't expect to be the only sugar daddy for the SB I'd see.

I'd never give an allowance, I've heard stories about girls not showing up for X, Y and Z reasons. I can do pay per meet but even that feels transactional... back to client-provider relations.

No nudes expected unless I ask, that would be rare.

I've used Seeking once and got with a 24 year old SB... had a good time while it lasted (I lost interest), she never asked for an allowance nor a pay per meet... I just covered every outing and gifts here and there. She had access to things she couldn't with someone her age. Had another one but not from Seeking, met in a bar... it clicked and same type of relationship/exchange, she told me she was seeing other guys her age too and I was ok with it, so was I

 

[LC18]

Thank you @Eurasian I find the “gift” and “activities” suggestion interesting as long as they are significant.

Let’s be honest, if you were to gift a lingerie set from La Senza, it wouldn’t be anything a man her age couldn’t do.

Or for those who don’t like lingerie like I do, if you gifted a pair of shoes from Payless…wait it doesn’t exist anymore. Aldo then.



P.S: there’s nothing wrong with those store but I just feel like they’re very accessible and the sugar bb might as well just buy that herself

 

[Eurasian]

Thank you @Eurasian I find the “gift” and “activities” suggestion interesting as long as they are significant.

Let’s be honest, if you were to gift a lingerie set from La Senza, it wouldn’t be anything a man her age couldn’t do.

Or for those who don’t like lingerie like I do, if you gifted a pair of shoes from Payless…wait it doesn’t exist anymore. Aldo then.



P.S: there’s nothing wrong with those store but I just feel like they’re very accessible and the sugar bb might as well just buy that herself

Who said things she couldn't access were materialistic? How about connections? Knowledge? Trips? etc?

Keep in mind, you're a provider... you might look at the 1$ differently from a full time student who flips burgers to pay her rent. Those fall in the SB baby category, you don't.

 

[LC18]

Who said things she couldn't access were materialistic? How about connections? Knowledge? Trips? etc?

Keep in mind, you're a provider... you might look at the 1$ differently from a full time student who flips burgers to pay her rent. Those fall in the SB baby category, you don't.

It used to be true now not so much. Social media has brought the idea that luxury is more attainable or that it should be a norm.

You see k!ds and teen*gers asking for Cartier bracelets, makeup and Louis Vuitton.

I have no issue thinking a student in let’s say CÉGEP could want something more than La Senza or a dinner at La belle et La boeuf

 

[Eurasian]

You see k!ds and teen*gers asking for Cartier bracelets, makeup and Louis Vuitton.

They can ask, dreaming is not illegal... do you see most of them get it? I've been asking to be a billionaire... I am still waiting for my dream to come true

 

[Christian32]

Where would you look for a sugar ba by? Online, in person, escort/stripper turned sugar baby?

seeking.com mainly, sometime secretbenefits.com (but don't recommend that site, its incredibly scammy in many ways and atttract guys from Leolist so...)

What are your expectations in terms of dates per week vs money?

300 / date, sometime up to 500 but my repeat rate is 300

Do you prefer allowances or "pay per meet" ?

PPM only

What is the difference between an escort and a sugar b aby if you do "pay per meet" ?

SB are cheaper for long dates (when I want to spend time doing other things than sex)

What would be your budget per month?

Its not a matter of budget but how often I feel like seeing her, the best an SB can do to make me see her is to tease me, with pictures/videos, suggestion of things she would like to do with me or just insisting to with appreciation messages works too.

How much would you pay for one evening a week (5 pm - 10 pm approx) ?

300, maybe 400

Do you expect your sugar ba by to send you nudes and text messages when you're not seeing each other? (if you allow it)

No, I am not interrested by online discussions, but I expect the SB to reply at least to my simple questions like "are you available this evening"

 

[Fradi]

I am probably strange and think differently than most.
I don’t want a SB relationship. I will never pay an escort or SB for social time.
It is not about the money.
To me paying for social time is like paying someone to be your friend, I have friends and I have a family that I can enjoy lunches and dinners with.
If I have dinner or lunch or hang out at a spa or movie or a hockey game or even a nice vacation in Europe or a Sun destination as a friend or a friend with benefits either way I want her to be there because she wants to be there not because I am paying her. Of course I would pay for all the activities money is not my issue.
Paying an escort for sex with time to enjoy having a bottle of wine and conversation is fine I like it to be sociable and not rushed but paying for social time in whatever fashion SB or escort is not something that I would do I don’t buy friends.

 

[chiff209]

Remember, the men here have all dealt with scammers and flakes that can make us wary of paying in advance. Just look at how many refuse to pay deposits even to established ladies here.

But those who post on review sites are only a small segment of the customer base, and I would imagine tend to be more value/price conscious than the general customer base.

 

[Christian32]

I don’t want a SB relationship. I will never pay an escort or SB for social time.

Most SB relationship include sex. personally first the date I ask for B2B / cuddle without too much clothes and then hope for more the following dates and if she is not up for sex the 3rd date its over.