No Merb for a week... can I do it? Could you?

[AirBo]

(this thread is obviously intended to those of us who can't help but visit Merb daily)

OK...

I've been more active here than I would have thought over the past month or so. Of course, being sick for 10 days, Merb was a nice distraction but it's now time to get back to my other hobbies.

SO...

I decided take things a bit further... I'm going to challenge myself: No Merb for a week

EXCEPT...

(already an excuse...) to post once in this thread every evening to talk about the experience and catch up on this thread only. Let's say 20mn max

ALSO...

(more excuses...) as any good Merb addict , I can't start this tonight or tomorrow... the challenge will be MON to SUN next week. This might give me time to realize that this is a really stupid idea

And until then, we can share thoughts and have fun about it...

Can I do it? Could you?

 

[RobertNYC]

(this thread is obviously intended to those of us who can't help but visit Merb daily)

OK...

I've been more active here than I would have thought over the past month or so. Of course, being sick for 10 days, Merb was a nice distraction but it's now time to get back to my other hobbies.

SO...

I decided take things a bit further... I'm going to challenge myself: No Merb for a week

EXCEPT...

(already an excuse...) to post once in this thread every evening to talk about the experience and catch up on this thread only. Let's say 20mn max

ALSO...

(more excuses...) as any good Merb addict , I can't start this tonight or tomorrow... the challenge will be MON to SUN next week. This might give me time to realize that this is a really stupid idea

And until then, we can share thoughts and have fun about it...

Can I do it? Could you?

You can give up anything, Merb, sex, drugs, TV, internet - and I mean anything - if you just will it. And be serious about it.

 

[envelopes]

I'm only here because R3ddit banned the escorts section. Information from r3ddit is actually how I got started in the hobby. It was such a valuable resource. Puritan laws like SESTA/FOSTA destroyed a great community

 

[Rebaynia]

I'm only here because R3ddit banned the escorts section. Information from r3ddit is actually how I got started in the hobby. It was such a valuable resource. Puritan laws like SESTA/FOSTA destroyed a great community

There is an escort section. I only just started talking there. Its actually sexworkers now. There is even a clients only sub category. But prefer merb. Have only written there for like 2 days, and not sure if i will continue.
When you take into account it is likely people from anywhere and all over, it reduces the appeal, while the peolle here are generally more local targeted. Montreal, or people interested in SW in montreal

 

[Rebaynia]

Not sure i want to take a week off of merb lol... but might be a healthy option.

 

[envelopes]

There is an escort section. I only just started talking there. Its actually sexworkers now. There is even a clients only sub category. But prefer merb. Have only written there for like 2 days, and not sure if i will continue.
When you take into account it is likely people from anywhere and all over, it reduces the appeal, while the peolle here are generally more local targeted. Montreal, or people interested in SW in montreal

Yes, during the bans, they allowed SPs to have their own subs, but banned all the client ones. Never made sense to me.

The SP sub is not great for clients. Why? Let's take merb (and other similar boards) as an example. It gives clients tips on how to find SPs, on SPs to avoid, reviews, how to stay safe as a client, etc. Any of that would be deleted or banned on those subs.

Just take a look at some of the posts, I see a post from a hobbyist asking how they can request things and 90% of the answers are "pay a deposit then you can ask". That's not a good tip for clients, but great for SPs though

 

[David Sel et Poivre]

I probably could give up merb for a week, but don't want to...
I'd have way too may threads to catch up reading on

 

[AirBo]

You can give up anything, Merb, sex, drugs, TV, internet - and I mean anything - if you just will it. And be serious about it.

Here's a habit I want to break: waking up and checking Merb while making my morning coffee lol

Not sure i want to take a week off of merb lol... but might be a healthy option.

I think that's my point: cheking Merb THAT often is unnecessary and not very healthy in the end...

 

[AirBo]

One thing I find funny though: if I don't have anything planned one particular evening or weekend, checking Merb and interacting with people takes my mind off thinking about booking an SP...

My point being: I want to book an SP only when I'm horny, NOT when I feel I need company. To me, that would be hobbying for the wrong reason.

I make sure to avoid the ad section, so I don't know who's available.

I make sure to avoid the outcall review section, so I make sure NOT to know who's the latest gem.

I just hang out in the lounge... but there's a real world outside... I should be there instead.

I'm just thinking out loud

 

[AirBo]

By the way... in one of my other hobbies, I get to meet and interact with women. I got my eyes on 2 of them who seem to be single.

- One looks quite young... I would say 30ish​

- One looks more my age... I would say 45ish​

Both are cute, but guess which one attracts me most LOL

The wise choice would be that I cruise the older lady but I can't help myself teasing the younger one... like I want to believe I still have a chance... and I think I do

 

[Aficionado]

Sure can!
I've been off Merb for a month 3,4 times already.
( Well that was after being banned by the mods, but still! )

 

[AirBo]

Sure can!
I've been off Merb for a month 3,4 times already.
( Well that was after being banned by the mods, but still! )

Getting banned is a bit of a harsh solution LOL I don't want to get there...

So... how did it feel? Was it tough the first few days? Did you end up pondering about your life and how you could spend your time differently? Or was it like "Baby steps until the ban gets lift off"?

 

[Thane]

(this thread is obviously intended to those of us who can't help but visit Merb daily)

OK...

I've been more active here than I would have thought over the past month or so. Of course, being sick for 10 days, Merb was a nice distraction but it's now time to get back to my other hobbies.

SO...

I decided take things a bit further... I'm going to challenge myself: No Merb for a week

EXCEPT...

(already an excuse...) to post once in this thread every evening to talk about the experience and catch up on this thread only. Let's say 20mn max

ALSO...

(more excuses...) as any good Merb addict , I can't start this tonight or tomorrow... the challenge will be MON to SUN next week. This might give me time to realize that this is a really stupid idea

And until then, we can share thoughts and have fun about it...

Can I do it? Could you?

I accept your challenge!
However, I find MERB to be an entertaining distraction while working.
I'll start with a short term goal of 3 days and 3 nights to see if I can be resurrected.

 

[Thor Jr]

Been there, done that. Over the years, i have taken breaks from merb on many occasions and for various reasons, from relationship status, to just feeing like taking a break or just something on merb turns me off and ill take a break.

My mood changes frequently, and so do my tastes. Merb is not a way of life, its a review board that we peruse to either share information or get information, and sometimes its there for us to have fun or if we just feel like ranting a little. There are few reviewers i enjoy reading and sometimes its nice to just read the stories. I like to read, penthouse forum was one of my favorite reads back in the days, some guys here remind me of those pages.

This reminds me, I'm due for a break.

 

[AirBo]

36 hrs after I started this thread, I haven't changed my mind yet...

If anything, I intend to take this further in 2024.

Haven't had a GF in 7 months. It's time to change that. I need a break from the hobby.

 

[Aficionado]

Getting banned is a bit of a harsh solution LOL I don't want to get there...

So... how did it feel? Was it tough the first few days? Did you end up pondering about your life and how you could spend your time differently? Or was it like "Baby steps until the ban gets lift off"?

It's like when you quit smoking, the first 48 hrs are the worst ones.

 

[Thane]

36 hrs after I started this thread, I haven't changed my mind yet...

If anything, I intend to take this further in 2024.

Haven't had a GF in 7 months. It's time to change that. I need a break from the hobby.

I have no doubt whatsoever that you can find a GF if you want to. You communicate your thoughts really well. Though, is that what you really want?

I need to take a break because I find whenever I get stressed or bored the frequency of my SP visits increases. The week before last I saw 3 in a week.

 

[AirBo]

It's like when you quit smoking, the first 48 hrs are the worst ones.

That's exactly what I expect

I hate myself right now for imposing this challenge on myself LOL

But I think it's for the greater good haha

 

[AirBo]

I have no doubt whatsoever that you can find a GF if you want to. You communicate your thoughts really well.

Thank you very much I appreciate the kind words.

Though, is that what you really want?

No LOL

Well, Yes and No... I'm complicated... it's the long run that I have problems with... when it becomes serious or past the passion period...

whenever I get stressed or bored the frequency of my SP visits increases

That becomes, unfortunately, hobbying for the wrong reasons (I think)... you are right to consider a break...

I only hobby when I'm horny. If I'm bored at home, here I am on Merb.

 

[Thane]

Thank you very much I appreciate the kind words.



No LOL

Well, Yes and No... I'm complicated... it's the long run that I have problems with... when it becomes serious or past the passion period...



That becomes, unfortunately, hobbying for the wrong reasons (I think)... you are right to consider a break...

I only hobby when I'm horny. If I'm bored at home, here I am on Merb.

Stress causes me to get hornier. Lol.
However, my hobbying is mainly due to being horny and the need for variety. I can’t eat the same dish day in and day out..