Premature Ejaculation

[montrealer]

Hi everyone,

i have a question for all you guys, my sexual experiences are very limited, maybe due to the fact that i think i cum too fast. is it because the lack of experiences? still too young?

so how long does someone have to last before exploding his load?

is there somethign to do to prevent you from ejaculation fast?

share you experiences and advice,

thanks

 

[picaron]

i wish i could cum fast :/..... i gotta give a good pounding for 30-45 minutes before i can even think about coming.

I've heard that male enhancment pills like viagra make it harder to orgasm so quick, maybe that could help?

 

[montrealer]

i wish i could cum fast :/..... i gotta give a good pounding for 30-45 minutes before i can even think about coming.

I've heard that male enhancment pills like viagra make it harder to orgasm so quick, maybe that could help?

thanks for you reply picaron,

one question though, has it been like this for you all the time, or does the ejac. time increase with age and experience?

thanks

 

[metoo4]

For me, at ~16-20, sex was all new and I would explode in a matter of minutes at the slightest touch from a woman. Now, the excitement is "less pronounced" and I can take my time. Been there, did that... There are still hooties that get me really close to firing first, asking questions later but mostly, when it's a close call, I try to divert the girl's attention to something else than my little boy. Even better, when it's getting risky, redirect the pleasure towards the girl so YOU make her cum, without involving your dick! She will love you for this, you will look good and you'll control when you cum.
Of course, if you see a girl and you didn't cum in weeks (or days if you're young!) then, you're asking for trouble as far as being a "fast trigger". Hey! That pressure got to get released!
Anybody remember the movie "There's something about Mary" with Cameron Diaz and Matt Dillon? The guy decide to jerk-off before he meet with his date so he doesn't blow-up too fast. That's not only true in movies!
It reminds me of a joke:
The guy haven't been with a lady in ages and finally decide to call an escort. About about half an hour before the appointed time, he gets his dick out and jerk himself to completion. After he's done, while he wipe the mess off, he says to his dick: Now you had your fun, better let me have mine for the rest of the evening and wait till I'm ready!"

 

[EagerBeaver]

My experience is similar to metoo4, but for guys concerned about premature ejaculation, drink some wine and it will cure this problem.

 

[picaron]

i've been like that all my life.... heck im not an old at all . I think part of the reason is im circumzised (no, im not jewish), so the sensitivity is lost.

 

[Mr.President]

guys any medicine ...or sth like that for delay?

any medicine or something like that to prevent this problem ..viagra just help u to get erection...anyone knows any godd stuff?

 

[Sugarloafer]

There are also condoms available with a desensitizing lubricant on the inside.

 

[Looking]

Good discussion,
In my experience, the practise of starting-stopping works for me, but the girl doesn't like the up-and-down - most seem to generally prefer none-stop action. I guess, it's a bit of a trade-off in a way...

 

[J. Peterman]

It a matter of training yourself.

When I was 20, I was able to hump about 5 or 6 times per hour with little problem. ( my maximum capacity was never reached as I was not able to get a test subject to atempt this ) The girls would often comment on my special abilities.
When I was 35, and started to see SPs. I wore some out when they offered 1 hour service. I was able to preform continuously for the full hour. This did not please them as I was told that some other clients were finished in minutes.
The last few years, I have been in a relationship where the rule was "Come on, lets get it over with" has caused my accomplishment time to diminish.
I think that if you trained yourself, most people can double or tripple their ejaculation time easily. What MERB hobbyist need is a sex surrogate therapist, specializing in the specialty of ''training" or "rehabilitating " sexual preformance.

 

[joeblow]

I agree with much of what has been said above. I might add that age explains a lot:
- In my teens and early twenties, I had a hard time lasting more than a few minutes.
- In my thirties, I managed to control myself with the "stop and go" technique.
- Now in my forties, the challenge has shifted from lasting to MSOG...such is life

Some other factors I noticed had a bearing:
- Position: mish cums faster, all other positions are easier to control
- Emotional involvement: its easier to last with an SP than with a GF.

 

[joeblow]

The last few years, I have been in a relationship where the rule was "Come on, lets get it over with" has caused my accomplishment time to diminish.

Great comment, which is worth a thread in itself. It appears that both SPs and wives/longtstanding partners have an interest in having men cum quickly, "to get it over with" so to speak. Does this mean only GFs in the early phases of a relationship want us to last?

Sad...

 

[naughtylady]

How to cum slower.

Desensitising spray works, however it tastes awful, so after putting some on, leave it there for a good 5 to 10 minutes then wash it of very well. Go into any sex shop and ask them to reccomend something to prolong erection.

Extra strength condoms also help.

Also when you feel that you are about to cum very soon, pull out and think of some of the least sexy thoughts you can (ex.: dead dogs, ugly toothless naked grandmothers, income tax audit) until the feeling passes. Then go back for more. With practice you will then be able to try not pulling out but just "freezing" or stop thrusting and tell her not to move either, until thew feeling passes.

With practice you can learn to prolong your erection.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[EagerBeaver]

I agree with much of what has been said above. I might add that age explains a lot:
- In my teens and early twenties, I had a hard time lasting more than a few minutes.
- In my thirties, I managed to control myself with the "stop and go" technique.
- Now in my forties, the challenge has shifted from lasting to MSOG...such is life

Some other factors I noticed had a bearing:
- Position: mish cums faster, all other positions are easier to control
- Emotional involvement: its easier to last with an SP than with a GF.

I completely agree with this analysis. My only regret is that I do not have the sexual potency now that I did when I was 18-22 years old and could go forever. It is sad that when we finally get to the age where are making some good money and we can afford to pay to see SPs, our sexual prowess is in decline from what it was when we were younger. Seems almost unfair.

 

[hemoglobule]

Je comprends très bien ton problème, j'ai passé par là. Comme les autres ont dis ça dépend un peu de facteur d'age, donc ne t'en fais pas trop. Mais j'ai fait par hasard un découvert, j'ai trouvé une pillule que ça marche très bien, sauf que cette pillule est maintenant est interdit c'est la fameuses VIOXX, car il y a 4 ans j'ai mal au pied et mon médecin me prescit le VIOXX, et j'étais très étonné de la longévité de mes relations, même si la fille m'a BJ pendand 15 min, j'ai senti du plaisir mais sans déchargé. Mais comme maintenant le VIOXX est interdit c'est dommage, comme je suis un scientifique je sais que VIOXX est un anti-inflammatoire, donc j'ai essayé un autre sorte d'inflammatoire et ça machait. Il y a aussi un autre chose plus naturelle c'est du caféine, une tasse de café bien concentré 2h avant relation peut aider un petit peu. Une autre constatation, si ton penis est vraiment vraiment bien bandé le temps de coït est plus long, donc prend ton temps attends que tu es vraiment bandé avant d'aller plus loin. Bonne chance dans ta démacher, car moi maintenant je suis dans la quarantain, mon problème comme les autres ont dit c'est de écourter mon relation.

 

[Mr.President]

unsing spray will lead to fell almost nothing ..?

i just saw naughty lady`s tip for using sprays i have not use them for a long time but some of them are so good most of them makes u fell nothing like a dental dam or stuff like that ..and alsot my biggest problem with them was getting a good erection which i used to get in 1 min without those stuff...then the girl realy had to try alottttttt to help me to get an erection but i will try one so soon and if anyone has good experience please let us know..

 

[TheComte]

All that's been said works for some of us, with mixed results.
I have pretty good endurance with my GF but when it comes to SP, my first encounters were another story; still are when I anticipate too much and forget what follows....

When I get to the SP places I'm already pretty much aroused and that is the biggest problem. Wich brings back to mind "The tao of lovemaking" that puts lots of emphasis on "breathing".

First, relax, take 4 or 5 deep breaths. You've got to loosen up...make sure you feel no tension (or too much excitement) before the meeting

That's why a few drinks (1-2) can help

While going at it, you've got to focus on the growing urge to cum, to avoid getting surprised, too late....(then the "stop and go" starts) but mainly, work hard on keeping a steady breathing pattern.

Works for me.

Have (lasting) fun....

 

[montrealer]

thanks for you feedback guys

but there is one uestion noone answered.... how long is the normal ejaculation time for both partners to be satisfied?? i know it differes from person to person,, but the average time

have a good one

 

[naughtylady]

ask someone at the sex shop to help you choose a desensitising spray, they usually know are better than others.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[franky]

franky sayz
the stop start method with pressure to the glans penis is the method that sex surrogates use. It is advocated by sex therapist. It teaches the control needed. Premature ejaculation is defined as orgasm before you wish to orgasm. I am pretty sure that 50 minutes of non stop pounding may look good in a movie and make you feel studly but few women enjoy that. I am told that 10 to 15 minutes of thrusting is a generally good time frame from the womens point of view. Avoid sprays, yes they work but does not help in the long term and can have a rebound effect. also masturbation often worsens the problem if you masturbate purely to "cum". This teaches a quick trigger that is then hard to get away from. I also find that with sp's I try to cum twice an hour so this actually makes me try to cum fast, which ultimately defeats the purpose. That is why I now like the 90 time frame of satin dreamz. allows me to slow the pace without having to get a two hour service.
franky