Sexual Discovery: Changing, Adding, or Experimenting With New Options.

[Merlot]

Hello all,

We all know that one of the reasons many see escorts is "fantasy"; not just to meet beautiful women we can't get otherwise, but also to try or discover new options not usually offered by girlfriends or mates outside of the hobby. The question here is what has the "Hobby" helped you discover about your sexual tastes? Have you found new avenues of sexual pleasure to enjoy you might not have thought you would? Were you looking to try new options you knew you wanted to try? Or has the hobby been an avenue to play out your already exotic tastes with more, and more beautiful partners?

The real question I thought would be most interesting is: what have you discovered about yourself that you did not expect or found surprising about your sexual preferences???

Okay, so the choices here are as usual limited by the number of them allowed. Of course there are too many possibilities to cover. There is no way to agree on what belongs precisely in which category, especially with fetishes, so discuss that if you wish. Some choices seem very mundane to you, but will not be to others.

This is a private poll to allow anonymity for those who wish it.

Mark as many choices as fit you.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[Ariane Valmont]

Very interesting pole!

I can't wait to see the results.

 

[Special K]

Very interesting pole!

I can't wait to see the results.

Are you referring to Merlot's pole or poll?

 

[Ariane Valmont]

Are you referring to Merlot's pole or poll?

Oh no!! I saw someone make that silly mistake not long ago and I still had to make the same one!!

POLL. I meant POLL.

 

[Merlot]

Are you referring to Merlot's pole or poll?

Very interesting pole!

I can't wait to see the results.

Hey SK,

Now don't be a killjoy. If she says my "pole" is very interesting then that's what she means. So that's one big public confirmation for me.

Merci Ariane,

Merlot

 

[Ben Dover]

All this talk of fetishes and deviances is quite shocking.

I mean golden showers? Come on... Personnally, I think whatever people want to do in private is their own business but I for one would rather not find out how merb members are into pissing on our friendly neighborhood SPs or being pissed on. I also don't see how this information, in the context of an anonymous poll, would benefit anyone, unless they are just trying to make themselves feel better about their weird kinks knowing that a couple other people here enjoy the same questionable fetish. I'd think asking the wrong SP for a golden shower, or worse yet administering an unwanted one could get a person blacklisted.

If there is to be any use here, the poll should be public so that all the golden shower and scat boys can compare notes on which SPs to see -- and then the rest of us could decide about avoiding them.

To each their own. No judgements here. I just feel dirty now.... Time for a (regular) shower. The kind with soap and water.


BD

 

[Merlot]

All this talk of fetishes and deviances is quite shocking.

I mean golden showers? Come on... Personnally, I think whatever people want to do in private is their own business but I for one would rather not find out how merb members are into pissing on our friendly neighborhood SPs or being pissed on. I also don't see how this information, in the context of an anonymous poll, would benefit anyone, unless they are just trying to make themselves feel better about their weird kinks knowing that a couple other people here enjoy the same questionable fetish. I'd think asking the wrong SP for a golden shower, or worse yet administering an unwanted one could get a person blacklisted.

If there is to be any use here, the poll should be public so that all the golden shower and scat boys can compare notes on which SPs to see -- and then the rest of us could decide about avoiding them.

To each their own. No judgements here. I just feel dirty now.... Time for a (regular) shower. The kind with soap and water.


BD

Yes,

My big handicap with the poll was not having any experience at all in your frames of reference. Your knowledgeable advice would have helped make the more exotic segment of this poll more accurate.

While I don't understand how anyone can do and enjoy kinkier bodily fluid activities, I know some do and that those who do consider them as legitimately pleasurable as a kiss. So including it was simple acknowledgment of that, but labeling them deviances is an unnecessarily disrespectful "judgment".

A poll by another member once showed 35-40% of those responding had paid for BBFS. I don't understand how anyone could want to take health risks like that. It's a threat to everyone. So if you and others could provide knowledgeable facts on any such health risk activities it would be helpful.

"Scat"??? You lost me there. I had to google to learn. Isssssh! I'm afraid your knowledge in this area is far beyond mine.

The poll is private because I thought it was far too intrusive to ask anyone or put anyone in a position of exposing their private business individually, and I really don't want to know who is doing what "kinkier" option. If you or others are interested in wanting to know more, that's your choice.

Some escorts have reported being forced to do things they didn't want. So we know some have been blacklisted by Independents and agencies. Personally, I don't know anyone specifically. You seem to know more.

Given your knowledge and obvious experience I did enjoy the humor in your shock. Thanks.

lol.... NOBODY wants me to take my briefcase out.

BD

Not sure where this kind of excitement fits. Go with your feelings.

As for the relevance of this poll...as Ariane said: "very interesting".

Happy showers,

Merlot

 

[Techman]

I thought this was a list of what to look for in a GF! About the only category that I haven't participated in in a regular relationship is a duo.

Oh yeah, you forgot one category... sex in a public place but I'm not sure if SPs would be up for that. But I guess a bj from a street girl in a car would qualify.

 

[Techman]

Hello Techman,

Are you sure you mean you have been part of every area listed here except duo?

I did think of sex in public places, loosely part of "Sex beyond the bed". I almost got one favorite escort to do so. But it would be typically impossible to get an escort to do this without a long acquaintance or lots of cash. So it didn't seem like a very applicable choice.

Samantha awaits.

Cheers,

Merlot

Never did any goldenshowers but I have taken part in bondage by tying a gf to my bed on occassion so that category is taken care of.
Role playing with a GF in my office roleplaying as my secretary.
Positions and sex outside of the bed I assume everyone has experienced in normal life unless your gf/partner/wife is Amish...I'm pretty sure that most people have had sex on the couch or a quickie in the kitchen
Greek, nasty/dirty talk, toys, I don't consider to be out of the ordinary in todays world and were all standards with one of my exes.
Hot wax I think I first experienced around the age of 17 or so and have tried numerous times since.
Sex in public..I've covered that one by getting a bj from a gf while driving her to work in the late afternoon, sex in a hotel hallway, apartment hallway, on a beach, the lookout on Mount Royal, etc...

So yup, pretty much got them all covered except the duo thing. Came really close on that one though with two ex gfs who wanted to get together but never managed to get it done. Bummer.

 

[Merlot]

Never did any goldenshowers but I have taken part in bondage by tying a gf to my bed on occassion so that category is taken care of.
Role playing with a GF in my office roleplaying as my secretary.
Positions and sex outside of the bed I assume everyone has experienced in normal life unless your gf/partner/wife is Amish...I'm pretty sure that most people have had sex on the couch or a quickie in the kitchen
Greek, nasty/dirty talk, toys, I don't consider to be out of the ordinary in todays world and were all standards with one of my exes.
Hot wax I think I first experienced around the age of 17 or so and have tried numerous times since.
Sex in public..I've covered that one by getting a bj from a gf while driving her to work in the late afternoon, sex in a hotel hallway, apartment hallway, on a beach, the lookout on Mount Royal, etc...

So yup, pretty much got them all covered except the duo thing. Came really close on that one though with two ex gfs who wanted to get together but never managed to get it done. Bummer.

Hello Techman,

Personally, I couldn't possibly find anything to do with bodily waste fluids or excrement, pain or brutality, humiliation and degradation appealing. My experiences are more "ordinary", but being with escorts has expanded my tastes. As you said, certain options become standard experiences over time. But, for some even these are very limited, so I had to include them, and as you see these are being checked off on the poll.

A couple of ladies have asked about including their friends in a duo with the girlfriend off the clock. But it never happened. DAMN!

I have enjoyed some great role-playing with the French maid, college student, and nurse scenarios; and the exotic fishnets did some incredible magic to the "beast"...lol. Events like this also disposed of any preconception that I am not a really "aggressive type" of sexual partner. The thought of greek seemed repulsive...before experiencing it with an escort. And, do you remember the line from Caddyshack..."would you like to tie me up with your tie, Ty?"

I also discovered that despite earlier tastes I thought I had I like women of every physical type (as long as they are fit for their size) and ethnic variety.

Gotta do the duo thing some time. It looks like that is the most popular new experience here.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[Techman]

Personally, I couldn't possibly find anything to do with bodily waste fluids or excrement, pain or brutality, humiliation and degradation appealing.

Neither do I but I don't consider light bondage to be either painful, degrading or humiliating in the least. It's all about giving up control, not being able to stop or control the pleasure. I'm not talking about whips and caning here or even ticking with feathers. But being tied and blindfolded, not knowing where the next touch will be can be immensly erotic. Of course you have to have absolute trust and confidence in your partner.

Just watch the opening scene of Basic Instinct and tell me that it isn't one of the hottest and most erotic things you've ever seen!