Should I stop seeing this person?

[Sky_rocket]

I have been meeting an sp occasionally over the past year. I had set up a date with her earlier this week but two days before the date she informed me that she wasn't feeling well and requested to reschedule. I agreed to postpone our date. But it seems like she was working on that day after all (posted pictures of a restuarant dinner and her in lingerie on twitter).. now she is contacting me to setup a date next week.

Though I have had pleasant experiences with her in our previous meetings, I am unsure if I want to meet her anymore. What do you guys think?

 

[LC18]

But it seems like she was working on that day after all (posted pictures of a restuarant dinner and her in lingerie on twitter)..

Doesn’t mean anything. How do you know the photos were taken on the same day? Was she holding the newspaper like an hostage?

Even when I’m sick I still get up and post on Twitter and on here. It’s part of my job

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's not because someone is posting pictures of a restaurant dinner and lingerie that this is what's actually happening on that specific day. Sometimes we post pictures that were previously taken.. A lot of what you see on Twitter is marketing and not necessarily reality. A lot of providers feel like they have to constantly advertise and even answer texts and emails even if they're sick or having an awful time.. I know I've done it many times before.

If you had pleasant experiences with her before and she cancelled because she was sick, and asking to reschedule, why wouldn't you book again? If she cancels multiple times, I get it.. but that's not what happened.

 

[Flyingby]

Not your girlfriend buddy.
Maybe someone offered her more
Maybe she was sick
Maybe she sick of you

If you have a good time with her. See her again

 

[DetectiveDavidMills]

 

[LC18]

Maybe she sick of you

I’m sorry that was too funny! When she said she was sick she meant sick of him

 

[Sky_rocket]

Doesn’t mean anything. How do you know the photos were taken on the same day? Was she holding the newspaper like an hostage?

Even when I’m sick I still get up and post on Twitter and on here. It’s part of my job

If you read the tweet, it is apparent that it was taken on that day.

 

[Fradi]

I think the post by Flyingby is spot on.
If you had a good time with her and think you will again go see her.

Her time is her own, she may have gotten a better offer a longer date with much more money.
Is it ethical, probably not but she is not your girlfriend and you are just another client in a long line of many.
If your ego is more important to you than seeing her then by all means go see someone else

 

[LC18]

If you read the tweet, it is apparent that it was taken on that day.

Ah, only you knows since we don’t know who she is but if it bothers you so much don’t see her again

Otherwise don’t let that get in the way. You had fun and I’m sure you will in the future as well

 

[Sky_rocket]

Not your girlfriend buddy.
Maybe someone offered her more
Maybe she was sick
Maybe she sick of you

If you have a good time with her. See her again

How am I supposed to reliably book a meeting when they can cancel at the last minute to make space for someone else? I think I will see her one more time to complete the rescheduled meeting, but beyond that, I don’t think I will.

 

[2fast2slow]

Is it ethical, probably not

sorry but "not ethical" seems like the wrong wording lol

 

[2fast2slow]

How am I supposed to reliably book a meeting when they can cancel at the last minute to make space for someone else? I think I will see her one more time to complete the rescheduled meeting, but beyond that, I don’t think I will.

one cancellation does not mean very much. If it happens again in a short lapse of time I woud say yeah, time waster

 

[Lunaseraphim]

If you read the tweet, it is apparent that it was taken on that day.

How do you know she actually went on a date that day and didn't post this for marketing purposes? Since she was sick, she could have very well taken photos from a past dinner date and claim it happened on that day.

How am I supposed to reliably book a meeting when they can cancel at the last minute to make space for someone else? I think I will see her one more time to complete the rescheduled meeting, but beyond that, I don’t think I will.

Why don't you ask her directly instead of posting about it here? That's what I'm wondering about the most. I think it's something you should clarify with her. If I were you I'd ask her now, or I'd discuss this in person next time you see her. Maybe she'll offer an explanation you weren't expecting.

 

[Sky_rocket]

sorry but "not ethical" seems like the wrong wording lol

I would not describe it as an ethical issue - more along the lines of my time being taken for granted. If it had happened the other way, i.e., I had requested to reschedule with less than 48 hours to go, I would have been asked to pay a 25% fee in order to rebook.

 

[2fast2slow]

How am I supposed to reliably book a meeting when they can cancel at the last minute to make space for someone else? I think I will see her one more time to complete the rescheduled meeting, but beyond that, I don’t think I will.

your OP said she she cancelled 2 days before because she was "not feeling well" (that's already weird, who cancels for the future saying they dont feel well now? lol) then you say she cancelled last minute...which is it?

That is why I hate pre-booking. All the anticipation that can come crashing down at any minute...

Look, you cant take it personnaly, at least she had the decency to warn you way ahead of time, maybe because she values you as a client, so maybe take it as a compliment.

 

[Sky_rocket]

Why don't you ask her directly instead of posting about it here? That's what I'm wondering about the most.

This is the first time something like this has happened to me, I wanted to get opinions from others who may have faced a similar issue.

I do want to clarify this with her, and I'm trying to figure out how to do it without coming across as confrontational.

 

[Sylar]

Along the lines of my time being taken for granted.

And here I am thinking that men see escorts so that we don’t have to worry about matters such as this…

 

[Sky_rocket]

your OP said she she cancelled 2 days before because she was "not feeling well" (that's already weird, who cancels for the future saying they dont feel well now? lol) then you say she cancelled last minute...which is it?

As far as I know, she doesn’t do same-day bookings. I suppose I shouldn’t have said 'last minute,' since it wasn’t literally last minute. However, she does charge a late cancellation or rescheduling fee for any changes made less than 48 hours before the meeting. So there's that.

 

[2fast2slow]

As far as I know, she doesn’t do same-day bookings. I suppose I shouldn’t have said 'last minute,' since it wasn’t literally last minute. However, she does charge a late cancellation or rescheduling fee for any changes made less than 48 hours before the meeting. So there's that.

you got me curious who this provider is....

Sounds like a case of the "Delicate Genius Policy"

 

[Edwin]

This is the first time something like this has happened to me, I wanted to get opinions from others who may have faced a similar issue.

I do want to clarify this with her, and I'm trying to figure out how to do it without coming across as confrontational.

Hi, a person whom I respect a great deal had to cancel once on me. Because our interactions have always been really pleasant I took it at face value. Nothing subsequently suggested I see it otherwise. The bottom line is that I have a really nice relationship with someone and no reason to assume that the one bout of illness was disingenuous. If you sense an issue, such as coldness or distance, then reconsider. Best of all, ask honestly if you aren’t certain. 99 per cent of miscommunication is from drawing unsubstantiated, unproven conclusions.