Social Time, To be or not to be?

[Lily from Montreal]

Thanks STN and Mithrate...
I cringe when I read some of the comments,have to hold back otherwise I would turn into full teacher mode lol

Mithrate? What does Quapla means?

 

[Mithridate]

Mithrate? What does Quapla means?

Lily, Qapla mean "success" in the Klingon language, i have been a Star Trek fan or Trekkie since 1966:bounce:

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I am a Trekkie too but do not speak Glingon...I am Picard all the way lol

 

[EagerBeaver]

I found that the Klingon language is almost as hard to learn as French because the Klingons do not adhere to some English grammar rules like u after Q and therefore you can't really learn pronunciations until you hear the Klingon speak his language.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I rely on other mean of communications ,universal one ...lol

I am such a Trekkie that I just receive my order of 20 $ silver coin with the Star trek enterprise form the Royal mint...lol

 

[aertonda]

I also thought about social time idea, but one thing really stopped me is this:
You know, I think there is a limit of what can be bought with money. And that's really beyond that limit. In other words, it didn't make sense to me to basically have a paid friend like that. It's just too much. I also think, I will ask too much from another person and they can't deliver it anyway. It's not even about lower rate, even if the money is not a issue, there are things that just can't be bought off the shelf. That's the limit in my opinion.
In other words, I can't just sit at home and feel lonely and buy a company. It feels strange to me. I would rather go see a theatrical play or go to a sports match, you know, or go to a yoga class, do something with my life, Maybe even just sleep, and then see a professional psychologist. Maybe at least they can tell you something that will help you.

I think also this overall society lead people into a dead-end with it's ever increasing demand for productivity at the expense of normal real-life relationships and compromise. It all "somewhat" works while you are younger, but you pay for it when you are older. I think that's the biggest tragedy of modern lives. It's like a slow moving wave that people don't notice.
We just can't buy everything off the shelf. And yes, we are lied to mercilessly by the implied promises of this society. We should be smart enough to not fall for it.

It's funny you guys instinctively mentioned Klingon. I didn't know anything about it until your post. But I first though it's a slang for Cling-on Which is what in a way what social time is. And it's important to notice those desires in your own self to unhook yourself before it's too late. It's a bit like those useless internet dating affairs, when you talk and talk, and see that it's not really advancing, you know. And even if you feel something for that person, you actually have to quit. It's a paradox, but there is nothing we can do, so. It's life.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

It's life.

Did not want to copy all of it.

Now this is just my opinion but I am guessing a high majorty of social time requests are from out of towners and not people who actually live in Montreal. Out of towners, someone like myself who likes to go out for a nice dinner or see some of the sites if they did not know the area ( would be a great tour guide ), there is no way I would go alone to a nice restaurant for an evening out, movie yes, dinner no. If I was in Alberta with friends there would be no thoughts of paying for a dinner date.
I think you over thought this, go have a bowl of cereal and say " Not a bad day out ". Just my opinion.

 

[aertonda]

If it's something simple like that, then it could actually make sense.

 

[Mithridate]

Ok here we go again, why pay for social time with a lady, why not?
When you are single, and you want company this is the best way to have it.
If maybe you want to find love again , you will pay for a dating site, and I have done that for the last 15 years, it is very complicated, at least in my age, I won't go into details.
But if I need a psychologist it will be when I feel really bad, i have done this, a lot, for many reasons.
But solitude is something I can accept, but sometimes I feel like meeting a lady for companionship, not every week, but like now, summer is close , hot warm day, whats wrong with that?
Then after x hours of social time we feel that we can push to another level, its a +, not necessarily the same day but a week later or a month later.
The idea is not to find love, because it comes a time when you must always start over again to maybe , just maybe find the right person, and I am bit bored to dance and play the good boy to fit in the complex parameters wanted by some , and I say some ladies, and by no mean I want to generalize, and finally after six months its over and you start again.
So if I can live six hours of nice , drame free, social time with a lady, I will do it and as Kirk would say " its good for me, its good for you and its good for us" and both of us are happy in a bubble of time that belong to us, two human beings having fun.
Qapla
M

 

[Philip J. Fry]

I am there to rumble, not to socialize.

 

[Mithridate]

I am there to rumble, not to socialize.

To each their pleasure sir, as long as there is no judgement in the way you or anyone else live theirs
Qapla
M

 

[EagerBeaver]

Ok here we go again, why pay for social time with a lady, why not?
When you are single, and you want company this is the best way to have it.

I am single but the guys I did the Euphoria Miniparties with are all married. However what we all have in common is this: we like meeting the women in a social setting for 2 hours before having 1 hour private time with them because we like the social foreplay, flirting, and also seeing how the girls interact with us and each other, when they don't know which guy they are leaving with. In our first mini-party, by agreement of all 4 of us, we allowed the girls to choose their guy. The girls were not instructed what they had to do, and we did not make James privy to what are plans were. I however, had planted a "ringer" girl in the 4 we selected, whom I had seen before and whom I was certain would pick me. And she did.

Afterwards, the other guys claimed they were fascinated watching the girls' body language as they eventually figured out what they were supposed to do (choose their guy) and the various behaviors they manifested in this process. They go from a certain anxiety to eventually figuring out that they just need to let their instincts as professionals kick in.

The second party the rules were different. In this party we decided not to let the girls pick but to see how the vibe played out and then decide. What happened was that I knew what girl I wanted to leave with and I also knew my friends did not like her as much as the other two. However, they were undecided who to pick so they positioned themselves on either side of the two girls for about a half an hour on the sofa of that hotel's lounge. After half an hour, by predetermined communication made during a men's room bathroom break, they got up and switched positions as between the two girls. They were interested as much in the girl's reactions to the switched positions as they were in bantering with the other girl in order to decide between those two girls. Then they made their decisions.

My friends are obsessed, to quite a degree more than I am, with the social science behind all of this, the reading of body language and communications. They are looking for different reactions to various stimuli they create by their conversations and actions. I am mostly amused by their behaviors as they are the kinds of guys who still go to civilian clubs and look to score for free with MILFs, often striking out, but enjoying the thrill of the hunt nonetheless. They seem to like the miniparties more because they know that at the end of all of the flirting, they are going to score with one of the ladies at the party. These guys can talk to me for hours on a trip back to the USA from Montreal, incessantly, about the chemistry between us and the girls, between the girls, what can be done to improve chemistry, the girls' reactions to different things that happened at the party and different "surprises" that were staged in order to get a reaction, and on and on with analysis and microanalysis of each move, staged or spontaneous, made at the party. They view these parties as a sporting event. It is like listening to the Denver Bronco or Montreal Canadiens' coaches discuss game tape on the way back to the USA. It's mainly amusing to me, but a science and art to them.

 

[Mithridate]

Hi Sam
I think we have discussed this on another thread:smile:
I understand your point and vision, but you see my family is limited, and I have no friends worth mentioning, so as a single guy living in Montreal who can live his solitude quite well, I sometime like to meet a lady
Either in a social time atmosphere or and in a more intimate way, and as I said many times I am not ready to spend countless hours on dating sites to maybe find another love, maybe one day ill try again.
Qapla
M

 

[EagerBeaver]

I am a Trekkie too but do not speak Glingon

This is how it is done:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdNqwDxEyiU

 

[Mithridate]

This is how it is done:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdNqwDxEyiU

Lol, my favorite Klingon, Gowron, I think he once said "We shall paint our victories with your blood"
If I would say Qapla with these eyes, they would put me a padded cell and throw the key away
QAPLA, qaStaHvIS wa' ram loSSaD Hugh SIjlaH qetbogh loD
M.

 

[Scott]

We did not get much of a discount- $200 vs. the full $220 an hour, for 2 hours social time and 1 hour private time. So a total of $600 each for 3 hours at both miniparties.

Gee eagerbeaver, I'm surprised they didn't get you to negotiate the Iran Nuclear deal

 

[EagerBeaver]

Gee eagerbeaver, I'm surprised they didn't get you to negotiate the Iran Nuclear deal

I would like to see you do better negotiating with a top agency and top girls who book out regularly for an 8-11 pm Friday night party slot. We got another offer of $190 from an agency that we did not consider as reliable, as I previously posted. Why don't you see if you can do better and report back?