SP drops the L bomb

[jh000]

I have been seeing an SP for almost 2 years. About 6 months ago, she dropped the "L bomb" on me and told me she loves me.

I am not sure if her feelings are confused or not. I suspected that she has special feelings for me when we make love (the way
she looks at me and kisses me).

I haven't gotten anything free but she stays over time.

I don't see her quitting in the near future.

What do you guys think? Is she playing me or she is confused or her feelings are true?

 

[Gobroncosgo]

jh000

Does she say that any time outside of FS/oral? If so...maybe.

If not, it's probably heat of the moment stuff. If she's working regularly, and seeing other hobbyists...this is way more likely.

 

[jh000]

Does she say that any time outside of FS/oral? If so...maybe.

You mean does she say "I love you" outside of straight sex/oral sex? She did both outside of sex and
during sex. She tells me "I love you" practically every time she sees me.

If not, it's probably heat of the moment stuff. If she's working regularly, and seeing other hobbyists...this is way more likely.

She sees other hobbyist, of course. We discussed if we could be a real couple, getting married and
having children. She says she is getting old and may consider that in a few years but I didn't get a yes or a no.

I am a bit confused too. When I look into her eyes, I am looking at someone in love. Unless she is a good actress, I
am fooled by her eyes. In the end, I still have to pay. So if she loves me, why do I need to pay? According to her,
if I don't spend money on her, I don't love her. To her credit, she doesn't watch the clock.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

If she " Loves " you there would not be a charge. Simple way to tell.

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Only her knows..we do not know who you are, how you are in general, on the board or when you are with her either...

Ask to see her in a restaurant (you can cover the bill but not her...she confused you, answering your questions/doubts/fears/whatever on her time is the least she can do), to enlight you and then you could be in a better position to straight things out when you wikk have the big picture of the girl and your feelings toward her..

If she declines, you will be fixed.

 

[jh000]

If she " Loves " you there would not be a charge. Simple way to tell.

Thanks...that's a good point.

Ask to see her in a restaurant (you can cover the bill but not her...she confused you, answering your questions/doubts/fears/whatever on her time is the least she can do), to enlight you and then you could be in a better position to straight things out when you wikk have the big picture of the girl and your feelings toward her..

Thanks for the advice...

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

She still have bills to pay, maybe kids, maybe it was so unexpected she just realized it recently and keeping the money between both of you was more in order of not losing you as client.. if you are about to believe anything from random merbites, do not waste your time and dump her, right away..because your thread purpose wasnt to give you other opinions than yours: you were just looking for an excuse to do so anyway

 

[jh000]

Alyssa Roze

I am not sure what you mean by "keeping the money between both of you was more in order of not losing you as client". Si tu prefere expliquer en francais, je t'en prie.

Maybe you are right. I want to find an excuse to end it. It's not that I don't love her but I find the whole thing confusing. If I don't pay her, I don't love her. If she loves me, why do I need to pay her? She equates the degree of love to the amount of money spent. Those are her words. Of all her clients, I spent the most on her. Therefore, I love her the most. That's her logic.

 

[Titilleur]

That is maybe another case of a french person confused by the difference between "love" and "like"...

 

[cpp433]

As has been stated, she trying to play you, or shed stop charging you, as you said shes getting older, so she needs to find a way to hold on to clients imo

 

[2fast2slow]

i have often thought how much a couple of ''i love you''s could make an encounter so much more powerful, even if they are not meant. What a turn on! To me it could be like any other dirty talk. In pse mode she can say, fuck me hard with that big cock! In gfe mode it could be ''we are so great together, I love you''. They may just be words.

I said I love you once to an sp, but it was really more an 'i love you, you are really great!' but had no desire to see outside the hobby. People in Hollywood say I love you to each other all the time, with very little meaning.
From what you have said, my guess is, she really appreciates you as a client, but no more. Be happy with that!

 

[What's My Name]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

 

[Jamesrenard44]

How old are you? You need advice from strangers to figure out if a woman is actually in love with you? Are you in love with her or were you just to brag about the fact that she said that she loves you? If she's on merb, not sure what she thinks of you now...

Man up and have a discussion with her

 

[Oz-Man]

i have often thought how much a couple of ''i love you''s could make an encounter so much more powerful, even if they are not meant. What a turn on! To me it could be like any other dirty talk. In pse mode she can say, fuck me hard with that big cock! In gfe mode it could be ''we are so great together, I love you''. They may just be words.

That's an interesting suggestion. I could see how it would turn some people on. Personally, it would mess with my head a little. I would only want it said if it were authentic. Nonetheless, if you are interested in this, I'm sure many SPs would be willing to say it for you.

 

[Flyingby]

That's an interesting suggestion. I could see how it would turn some people on. Personally, it would mess with my head a little. I would only want it said if it were authentic. Nonetheless, if you are interested in this, I'm sure many SPs would be willing to say it for you.

I agree. I guess it depends on lots of factors. Personal life. Preferences of session. I’ve had an sp whisper it in my ear. Didin’t do it for me. Actually had the contrary effect that she was probably going for. She said it as part of the dirty talk. My fault though. Wasen’t clear enough on what i wanted. I agree with others comments. I think she’s playing you

 

[jalimon]

I agree. I guess it depends on lots of factors. Personal life. Preferences of session. I’ve had an sp whisper it in my ear. Didin’t do it for me. Actually had the contrary effect that she was probably going for. She said it as part of the dirty talk. My fault though. Wasen’t clear enough on what i wanted. I agree with others comments. I think she’s playing you

I agree too. These girls are good. They want client they enjoy back to see them, and them only.

Truly in love there would be no money. When you truly love, you don't count.

Cheers,

 

[LeafsSuck]

Only her knows..we do not know who you are, how you are in general, on the board or when you are with her either............

Alyssa is right on the money. Do not ask us. Ask her directly, "What do you mean when you say I love you. Do you want to have a serious relationship with me? Want me as a BF? Husband? Etc...". You should get your answers.

One of my ATF says to me all the time I love you and I say it back BUT it is the context of our relationship. She has her life and I have mine but we enjoy our time together when we meet.

Best of luck Bud.

 

[Daiko]

According to her, if I don't spend money on her, I don't love her.

That's a big red flag for crazy in my opinion.

 

[Oz-Man]

I know of no hobbyist/escort relationship that lasted any significant period of time. Not One.

But do you know of many who have tried? If so, I wonder if those relationships are more likely to fail due to the age difference that typically exists between hobbyists and SPs.

 

[hungry101]

I am jealous of this guy. I want to be in love again but I am too darn old and wise to fall for this. But this is so much fun and makes these encounters so special. The orgasms are so much more intense. This kind of thing has happened to me three times in Brazil. I love to torture myself over this and if I do that girl again I can trick myself into actually thinking it is real and have great sex. But I am older, wiser, jaded, and bitter....I can't manipulate myself like this anymore. I feel similarly about things like college football. I can't get as passionate about that either. It is old to me. This is not a good thing. I wish I still could.

My advice to this guy is to follow his heart and have great sex but to guard his wallet. Also, watch the following film: http://www.mythaibridefilm.com/