Stripper, Escort, Dominatrix: Anyone else notice how SW careers have phases?

[jmioffe]

A few of my favorite escorts are no longer providing the loving that I want from them. Instead, they're selling dom services now. It's not something I'm interested in.

But this got me thinking, is this how it always goes, and why?

Very sweet, service-oriented escorts leave that phase of their career and find a way to make money being sadistic to guys. Is it because providing is a young woman's game, going from "being pounded" by guys to pounding guys in their own way? Or could it be that they understand men better now with experience, and know better how to pay the dom role, and sort out easier clients who enjoy being abused?

It goes the other way too: Before I knew some of these women as SWs, they worked as strippers or nowadays, OnlyFans or Instagram models. That kind of makes sense to me too. Those avenues capitalize on their youth while they have it and require very little interpersonal skill, when doms leverage experience when youth is disappearing. It's rarer to see young doms or older strippers or online models.

Stripping and online modeling is also safer, there's a whole infrastructure that keeps a girl from being touched by clients. Maybe it's not just that doms represent SWs aging out, but also SWs leveling up in experience and interpersonal skills and selling brains over physicality — like young doctors, professors and traders are prized for their energy and ability to work hours, but they only stay in the game after aging by bringing other things to the table.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

A lot of people start with camming and online modeling because it's safer and has less impact on your personal life, at least supposedly. When I was much younger, a few girls I knew were camming. At the time it was still possible to make a lot of money that way, it was before the pandemic and even before Onlyfans existed. Now that industry is oversaturated and it's no longer an avenue that works for a lot of people. I often regret not starting my career as a cam model back in the day because I have the look for it but now it's too demanding.

As for stripping, a lot of strippers I know are in their late 20's and 30's and even 40's so I don't know what you're talking about. Stripping is really glamorized in our culture so I think a lot of younger women dream of being dancers because they see women on social media and in American movies make a ton of money off stripping, but reality is different, it's actually pretty hard to make money dancing in clubs and it's extremely exhausting, that's why a lot of strippers end up becoming escorts. You actually need MORE interpersonal skills to be a stripper than to be an escort. You can't be a shy & awkward stripper, but I know a ton of shy & awkward escorts. As a dancer you constantly have to seduce clients and convince them to buy dances, from what I hear. As an escort, the client has already seen you and chosen you.

It makes sense to me why a lot of escorts want to become dommes, although I know many people who started as dommes in their early 20's and never got out of that role. It's a different kind of service, and as a domme, you are in control. Escorts don't become domme because they are getting older, but it's possible that a lot of them are tired of the power dynamics that are involved between a client and a provider with escorting, but it's something that requires a lot of knowledge and practice.

As escorts some of us get asked for domination services quite frequently. I know I have had a few sessions myself and they can be quite empowering and cathartic, so many of us develop an interest in it.