texting etiquette

[Merlot]

Hello Sweet Ladies,

Not everybody work late but it is true that real life prevents us to answer right away.

I sometime wonder if gentleman thinks we are waiting all day for your call-text-message? Nope...

I gave you an opinion from our side of the view, but I see we are all learning about what happens on your side. I would have thought most guys were fairly reasonable about waiting for responses for their requests. No one should expect any lady to answer quickly, after all anything could be going on when we guys make our inquiry. I had thought many guys would be planning ahead and thus have time to wait for a response. Even though we can also expect many other guys would be having last minute impulses I would have thought they would know this is a very doubtful situation with poor chances for good results. For myself I either plan well ahead or accept that the probabilities for last minute calls are obviously very risky and not blame anyone for how it turns out in this case. Now I see from your responses that many guys have been pretty irrational. Too bad. I don't think you ladies owe these pushy irrational types anything but pointing out how last minute calls have poor chances.

Sorry to see you ladies are being blamed for poor planning and irrational impatience. I know not every guy is in a position to plan ahead or may get a last minute urge, but every guy should recognize the situation they are putting both of you in and be a lot more understanding about what is likely to happen and be much more reasonable about it.

Good luck to all,

Merlot

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I have a funny story,well at the time I didn't find it funny but...
About delay? I am not a same day girl as a rule but I once got a 9h am email asking for a meeting at 13h...alternative was homework so I decided ok, I saw the message at 9h20...
I answered saying it was possible, and the gent replied that I took too long to answer...okayy...
I think I am going to stick to planners lol

 

[wolfie7]

I have a funny story,well at the time I didn't find it funny but...
About delay? I am not a same day girl as a rule but I once got a 9h am email asking for a meeting at 13h...alternative was homework so I decided ok, I saw the message at 9h20...
I answered saying it was possible, and the gent replied that I took too long to answer...okayy...
I think I am going to stick to planners lol

Actually, not that uncommon, Lily. Or that crazy of the gent. Crazy only if he wrote a detailed text afterwards insulting you that you are a slow responder.

It's pretty normal for my afternoon meetings to get canceled. I find out in the morning, and if I'm feeling frisky, I may reach out to a few bookers or girls simultaneously, for a rendezvous later that day, in whatever city I'm in. Whoever pings me back first, I book. I don't hold any grudges against the slower responders. It is what it is. When the turnaround is short (i.e. same day, in a few hours), the client will always be more impatient and want an answer faster. There is a certain 'fun' to that rush of booking a last-minute appointment... I don't think the SP should necessarily hold it against the guy in certain contexts. just be direct and tell them what behavior flies and what doesn't. To each their own.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Well I guess it is more acceptable when ordering a agency girl from a menu, but an indy who specify preference for a bit of exchanges? This guy didn't do his homework by writing to me...
I myself prefer the anticipation,a spur of the moment booking do not do the trick...but like you say to each his own...

 

[chowzilla]

Reply as soon as you can

 

[marky mark]

Always appreciate a response no matter how many hours (or days!) late even if just say you are unavailable.
Women or agencies that fail to respond at all don't hear from me again.
Thanks

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Just a note,when you mass email to ladies to book and I guess the first to answer ''win'',it is not a good idea to let all the addresses in the header of the email,
those email won't get an answer...especially when the whole content of the email is (true story): ''U available?'', did make me laugh though...

 

[wolfie7]

Just a note,when you mass email to ladies to book and I guess the first to answer ''win'',it is not a good idea to let all the addresses in the header of the email,
those email won't get an answer...especially when the whole content of the email is (true story): ''U available?'', did make me laugh though...

Wow, there are some dumbass punters in the world... Lazy and dumb to do a mass email for this!

(Unless you know all the emails and numbers lead to the same booker, common in LA, then it's quite clever and cute! )

Hahaha... Lily, don't hold these boorish behaviors against us poor guys, we all lose some range of IQ points when we're horny!!!

 

[Lily from Montreal]

Woolfie ,do not worry,I do not hold those behaviors against the male specie,it is a fascinating field of study loll

 

[wolfie7]

the male specie,it is a fascinating field of study loll

Same for the female species... Very interesting field of study!

 

[JackJones]

Haven't been getting many replies lately.

If after an hour do you text them again (the service provider that is)?

Is there something you should always avoid saying in an initial text/call (like asking for services i.e. bbbj, msog, greek, etc)?

I've never really experienced this before so I find it a bit odd, but would love to hear your feedback on this.

Thanks in advance.

 

[gaby]

Speaking for myself i noticed that indies who have ads here on Merb will reply rapidement....if not i wil try later again---2 or 3 hours after the first call or texto. Very often----and i found it unfortunataly---they don't indicate their tarif......so my initial texto---i mostly communicate by texto----i will ask for the tarif and to be

specific on the services she provides..... and in the second one i will let her know what EXACTLY am looking for.......and most of the time they are very honest ....so if it's fine with me i will book. For indies outside of this site---i don't see them a lot----it could be another story. Some have been very fast to answer

and to book BUT some also never replied or were difficiles to book....that said...j'utilise le plus souvent les agences réputées avec qui le booking is very easy.

 

[Julia Sky]

Personally it is useless to text me back because I reply to my texts/emails from the oldest to the newest so any text you send after your initial text basically puts you at the end of the list I will see and reply to my messages when I'm not busy. If I haven't replied it's not because I missed your text amongst others - it's just that I haven't checked my texts at all since you texted me and sending multiple texts won't make me check my phone if I'm busy or not working (anyways my notifications are off lol)

Maybe other girls have different answers to that, this is just me.

 

[jalimon]

simple with established indy use email to books days ahead. much easier.

with indy’s from add site, with no review here... call them first. the good one will answer. once you have met them once and shown to them how cool you are they will respond to text in a zip!

cheers,

 

[LeahStone]

I prefer a text so I can communicate all informations, if modalities are fine then I do not mind a call at all. But to be called to give out services and price makes me unconfortable since I am not always in a position to do so without people listening. And don't send a first text saying "anal?" I will just put you in the spam folder to never receive anything else, bargaining will also send you to that folder. I like for someone to say hi and introduce a bit himself and what he is looking for in a rendez-vous. If i have received a text more that 2h00 I tend not to reply in case that person is not in a position to receive a text of that nature. So please retext 2-3 hours after.

 

[2fast2slow]

i try to strike a balance between taking the time to be polite, but not too much as to keep it quick. If i never met the provider and dont get an answer, ill try again another day. not a few hours later.

what i really hate is when you get a back and forth going and then they suddenly stop answering. really annoying.

 

[JackJones]

what i really hate is when you get a back and forth going and then they suddenly stop answering. really annoying.

Yes that’s happened a few times, I pretty don’t bother with that provider once that happens. I can see it from the providers point of view as well in that they’re probably dealing with a lot of messages, but if I’m the one that quits the exchange abruptly I’m sure I would probably also go in the “do not respond” list, lol

 

[Julia Sky]

Yes that’s happened a few times, I pretty don’t bother with that provider once that happens. I can see it from the providers point of view as well in that they’re probably dealing with a lot of messages, but if I’m the one that quits the exchange abruptly I’m sure I would probably also go in the “do not respond” list, lol

To put this into perspective... Imagine if a client came on merb complaining that a girl did that, and says which day and which time and you realize she stopped replying when you knocked on her door for a two hour appointment... Im sure you would appreciate the fact she didn't spend two hours replying to that other guy's texts Sometimes you have to think further, its most likely not about you...


sam : I hate one liners too hahaha! usually the less words someone sends me the less warm I will be in my answer. "Hi bb u do anal" doesn't appeal to me at all LOL so I can imagine when girls send you "yes bb gfe xx$$" is about the same. Sometimes people write so few words that you can't even tell if you should communicate in French or English anymore (Like someone once sent me this : Hey Julia, charges & location ? - that could be both languages pretty much.)

 

[IamNY]

I wouldn't text the SP back after only an hour. If you don't have an established relationship you need to give them at least a days notice. So if I haven't heard from her by the next day, 24 hours, I would send a follow up text. I like to keep it simple on the initial text, Hi, I saw your ad on MERB, I'm in town tomorrow, can I see you? As far as getting additional info, if it's not on their ad and it's important to you, your gonna have to ask. Other than that I haven't found it much different than texting an agency.

 

[RubiksCube]

Yeah I agree. An hour is too short. She may be with another client, or simply just busy. Wait till the next day.

Sometimes I do switch languages in my texts though. I've noticed some girls don't respond when I message in english, so if I don't get a response in a timely manner I may send the same message in French to play it safe. This obviously only applies to a first time with a new service provider before we established a language to communicate in.