Unhappy members

[Oberstdorf]

I've noticed that some members post/write only(or most often) negative reviews.

If every encounter they have is so bad, why do they continue to see girls and complain about them? Isn't that just a waste of their money and time?

Why do they not write about their good encounter? (And why aren't they staying with the one they like?)

If all their experiences are negative, then maybe they are the problem?

I was just wondering...

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I've noticed that some members post/write only(or most often) negative reviews.

If every encounter they have is so bad, why do they continue to see girls and complain about them? Isn't that just a waste of their money and time?

Why do they not write about their good encounter? (And why aren't they staying with the one they like?)

If all their experiences are negative, then maybe they are the problem?

I was just wondering...

Hey there, my friend, I'm really glad you brought this up. I'll make sure to respond to your questions promptly and effectively. The reason behind those type of member who always complaints often lies with the member themselves rather than the service providers. Another big issue on Merb is that some members tend to keep the best gems to themselves out of selfishness. They worry that if they give positive and honest reviews, the service providers will become too busy and less available in their own lives. These are the kind of members who are more focused on discovering hidden gems on this forum for their own benefit rather than sharing the good ones they find. These reasons likely explain many of the inquiries you've been encountering. Trying to understand their mindset might just leave you feeling lost, so it's probably best not to dwell on it too much.

 

[LC18]

It’s been mentioned a few times and the general hypothesis is that they have great encounters too but don’t want to share them in fear that the girl will become too popular and thus…”unbookable”.

It makes sense no? If you found a cool spot where you could have all of your favourite candy, you wouldn’t tell everyone right? I sure wouldn’t.


P.S: There are some people that just like to complain or that are straight up assholes and make every SPs uncomfortable therefore ruining their dates.

Edited to correct typo, I wrote this with my eyes half open

 

[Hemme]

If that will make you feel better i can assess that my member is very happy with SP s !

 

[cpp433]

Is it that all they do is complain, or is it that the inly posts that you take notice of os their negative ones?

 

[Sylar]

I do not mind the members that TOFTT and only write about their bad encounters. At least they (to some extend) help us dodge some duds, assuming they are reporting truthfully.


The bigger issue are those that LC's pointed out: Straight up assholes and make every SPs uncomfortable therefore ruining their dates.

 

[Oberstdorf]

Is it that all they do is complain, or is it that the inly posts that you take notice of os their negative ones?

No, it's happens that people write good AND bad reviews. (And that's fine lol)

But I'm talking about the few that mostly write bad ones.

 

[Anong]

some people that just like to complain

Like my Wife lol.

 

[envelopes]

Complaint posts about how people review are always from members with zero reviews.

Personally, I write just as many negative reviews as positive. Most SPs with positive reviews already have 20 positive reviews going into much detail, there's nothing to add, so I don't bother.

However, many people avoid writing negative reviews (for many reasons). I find negative reviews to be very helpful.

When I write negative reviews, I always get many PMs saying "I had the same thing happen to me", but they don't write it publicly.

But more importantly, why do people who never review complain about reviews?

 

[Oberstdorf]

Complaint posts about how people review are always from members with zero reviews.

Personally, I write just as many negative reviews as positive. Most SPs with positive reviews already have 20 positive reviews going into much detail, there's nothing to add, so I don't bother.

However, many people avoid writing negative reviews (for many reasons). I find negative reviews to be very helpful.

When I write negative reviews, I always get many PMs saying "I had the same thing happen to me", but they don't write it publicly.

But more importantly, why do people who never review complain about reviews?

1) I never complained about it. I was just wondering.

2) I'm not saying it's not ok to post bad reviews.

3) You're saying you post as many good reviews than bad. So this doesn't really concern you.

 

[SmokenPoke]

I for one appreciate a review which let's us know a provider isn't providing good service. Bad hygiene, disgusting work space, lies about services provided etc.

There are definitely cases of members not sharing positive reviews of girls they find special. Wanting to keep things to and for themselves.

Unfortunately though I think as anyone can be a provider but not everyone can be one, that there are indeed a lot of negative experiences to be had out there. From people trying to take advantage of the "sketchy" nature of the situation, to pimps and purposeful poor hygiene to force shorter encounters and on and on. I think the reason the term "gem" is used a lot on here is that indeed finding a provider you connect with and connects with you and is healthy and legitimate is indeed an infrequent thing.

To note as well, many bad reviews are just guys who painted the perfect porn scenario in their minds and the providers can't live up to these impossible standards. Pay attention to reviews that mention normal things like blemishes etc. as being off putting. Their standards are likely of ridiculous proportions.

So I don't think it odd there's a lot of bad reviews, I myself have had some absolutely terrible encounters, but I've had some luck and found great ones too, both of which I've reviewed. Though I do believe I have more negative than positive reviews (not sure). I felt it more urgent to announce someone should be avoided over mentioning positive things. In cases where there's no reviews I always try to provide some info.

 

[LC18]

How often do you leave positive reviews on Google?

In my case, rarely. Not because I never enjoy anything but I just don’t think about reviewing my positive experiences. When I have a bad one though, oh hell you can be sure I will log on and let everyone know so they don’t go there and experience the same thing I did.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

Complaint posts about how people review are always from members with zero reviews.

Personally, I write just as many negative reviews as positive. Most SPs with positive reviews already have 20 positive reviews going into much detail, there's nothing to add, so I don't bother.

However, many people avoid writing negative reviews (for many reasons). I find negative reviews to be very helpful.

When I write negative reviews, I always get many PMs saying "I had the same thing happen to me", but they don't write it publicly.

But more importantly, why do people who never review complain about reviews?

Hey buddy! It's totally fine to share a negative review as long as it's done respectfully and doesn't hurt the service provider's feelings. Personally, I find it amusing that the negative reviews written by some forum members about service providers have always led to positive experiences for me. In my view, negative reviews don't hold much weight because they could be a reflection of the service provider feeling uncomfortable, possibly due to the way the client approached them. A negative review might actually stem from a challenging interaction caused by a client who doesn't know how to effectively communicate with the service provider and make them feel at ease. However, I do agree that some members refrain from writing negative reviews, and I respect their empathy towards service providers, as they aim to protect their reputation and avoid causing any emotional harm. It's okay to express dissatisfaction through a negative review, as that's the purpose of this forum, but it should be done in a respectful manner that doesn't intentionally hurt anyone's feelings.

 

[Oberstdorf]

1) I for one appreciate a review which let's us know a provider isn't providing good service. Bad hygiene, disgusting work space, lies about services provided etc.

To note as well, many bad reviews are just guys who painted the perfect porn scenario in their minds and the providers can't live up to these impossible standards. Pay attention to reviews that mention normal things like blemishes etc. as being off putting. Their standards are likely of ridiculous proportions.

2) So I don't think it odd there's a lot of bad reviews, I myself have had some absolutely terrible encounters, but I've had some luck and found great ones too, both of which I've reviewed.

1) I agree with you.

2) Nowhere did I say it's odd there's bad reviews (coming from different members). I am saying : What's up with the members that mostly put negative reviews on multiple different girls?

 

[Oberstdorf]

How often do you leave positive reviews on Google?

In my case, rarely. Not because I never enjoy anything but I just don’t think about reviewing my positive experiences. When I have a bad one though, oh hell you can be sure I will log on and let everyone know so they don’t go there and experience the same thing I did.

SP's are different "experiences" they are more expensive. So why see multiple different girls, never liking them, losing money, and doing it all again. When you can stop seeing multiple SPs (when they know the outcome will be mostly negative) and focus on the few SPs they actually like (if they find them).

 

[LC18]

Men aren’t always logical ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[Jaxan]

Miserable people project their misery onto others

 

[Sylar]

How often do you leave positive reviews on Google?

In my case, rarely. Not because I never enjoy anything but I just don’t think about reviewing my positive experiences. When I have a bad one though, oh hell you can be sure I will log on and let everyone know so they don’t go there and experience the same thing I did.

I leave reviews (not much on Google, but other websites) when it is under or over expectations. The average encounters are not worth writing about.

 

[ArtIsLife]

So why see multiple different girls, never liking them, losing money, and doing it all again. When you can stop seeing multiple SPs (when they know the outcome will be mostly negative) and focus on the few SPs they actually like (if they find them).

Because men are explorers and hunters by nature. Most men eventually become domesticated, especially once they're married, and then lose most of this natural instinct.

However, for men that still have a connection to their primal side, one thing that this hobby enables is to indulge in the thrill of the hunt, trying to find that rare hidden gem that nobody else knows about.

When you're often in uncharted territory, it's to be expected that there are many negative experiences to be shared, so others can avoid falling into the same traps. And then, when you do find that diamond among all the coal, yeah, why would you just openly share that with everybody so they can take the comfortable shortcut while following in your footsteps? A lot of those rare positive experiences are actually shared, but often only in private and only among small groups of members who know each other.

All that said, there are members who mostly visit providers with existing reviews and then always end up having negative experiences to report about. As others have already mentioned, they are most likely the problem themselves, not the SPs that they're seeing.

 

[AirBo]

Men aren’t always logical ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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