Was I wrong to be annoyed?

[CenterofNH]

A few weeks ago I had an appointment that was cancelled last minute. As you can see below, I noticed that the provider had indicated that she wasn't feeling well and offered not once, but twice to reschedule. After a lengthy drive which involved crossing the border I arrived at the provided location only to be told by the provider that she "should have cancelled" and that she was nauseous again and had hurt herself tidying up. When I expressed my disappointment I got the response you can see below.

I can understand a late cancellation for an injury but I "should have cancelled" made me question what really was going on. I was really annoyed by the tone of her response.

I have pasted the interaction below but have redacted any identifying content as I wouldn't want this singular incident to affect the providers reputation.

Do I owe this provider an apology?


Good evening #### I hope all is well. I thought I would check in to make sure we are still a go for Saturday.

Jul 11, 2024, 9:08 PM


Yes we are still on!

Jul 12, 2024, 7:13 AM



Excellent, I noticed you were suffering from nausea and wanted to make sure you were well. If you are not feeling well we can certainly reschedule

Jul 12, 2024, 7:48 AM


I'm better today!

Jul 12, 2024, 12:02 PM



Okay, but don't feel obligated if you don't feel up to it, I can reschedule

Jul 12, 2024, 12:08 PM


Hey ! My address is ####t. I'll send the buzzer when I am ready!



Please wait in your car until I send it (or at least not inside the building haha) for discretion purpose!

Jul 13, 2024, 12:40 PM



Thank you #### I am looking forward to meeting you.

Jul 13, 2024, 12:45 PM


I should have cancelled. I hurt myself while tidying and now I'm panicking and nauseous again

Jul 13, 2024, 1:35 PM


Trying to keep tidying but my rib hurts. I'm such an idiot.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:40 PM



While I'm sorry you are hurt, seriously, I can't say I am thrilled, I just drove 1.5 hrs to visit you and I am in the area. I did say we could reschedule if you weren't 100 percent.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:50 PM


Hey. If you want you're free to come up here and fuck me while I'm immobile holding my rib.



Cant say I'll take pleasure from it but at least you'll get your dick wet. ;(



I can offer 100$ off upon rescheduling if you want, or you can come and hurt me further, or we can just never take the chance again. I'll let you decide.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:58 PM



As I said, I really do feel bad you're not feeling well but I am sure you can understand why I would be disappointed.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:59 PM


I didn't "plan" on hurting my rib



So idk what the point of making me feel guilty is



I *was* 100% until I impaled my rib on a piece of furniture



I'm willing to give 100$ off and an extra half hour another time but I understand if it's never going to happen.



Sorry.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:00 PM



I am heading back south. Heal well. Perhaps I will try again in the future.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:00 PM


Doubt it. I'm sorry you drove 1.5hr but trying to make me feel like the worst escort in the universe after I offered the equivalent of a 300$ discount...That tells me we wouldn't be a good match. :/



I even offered to come upstairs and use my body if you wanted to



So I don't know what else I could've done



Offer a fully free appointment? Because I hurt myself?

Jul 13, 2024, 2:02 PM


I didn't tell you "we are good fors Saturday" thinking "haha I'm going to hurt myself in the hour leading up to the booking"

like I didn't plan this and I'm trying to offer ways to make it up to you



I'll pay for your gas if you want I don't know what you want as a resolution

Jul 13, 2024, 2:05 PM



I would never think of hurting you further and while I am no Casinova, I do try to make sure the person I am with is enjoying herself as well. Obviously that wouldn't be possible if you're in pain.I would never expect you to offer free services, I simply expressed my disappointment and said perhaps we can try again in the future. I am not looking for compensation for gas.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:07 PM


I understand why you're disappointed. What I don't understand is why you're framing it as something I'm doing on purpose

I already feel so guilty and I'm scrambling to find ways to make it up to you.I'm going to close my phone screen and go try to sleep because im crying, but the discount + extra half hour offer stand if ever we reschedule. I'm really sorry.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:10 PM



Heal well

Jul 13, 2024, 2:11 PM
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[talkinghead]

The obvious response is: let it go. Earlier today, in another thread, Lena wrote, "Cancelling last minute and ghosting aren’t the same thing. Both suck but one is slightly more infuriating than the others." At least you weren't ghosted! Of course it's annoying that your date cancelled on you, and perhaps she was being overly sensitive in her messages--but she did her best to make it right. At the same time, she may have been annoyed that she was in pain and also annoyed that she was out the income. Let it go!

Without much thought I can remember five times that an SP cancelled on me at the last minute; the first time was twenty-five years ago and the last time was a few months ago. (Edit: I cancelled on an SP once at the last minute: ice storm!) They were mostly polite about it but I was still annoyed! But I learned a long time ago not to carry that around; it's part of the hobby and I'm sure it happens more to the SPs than to clients. I will say that it makes me reluctant to pay a deposit in advance unless the policies are clear about what happens if the SP cancels ... but that's a different discussion. In any case, unless the SP has a track record of flaking on dates, you can only assume that she was telling the truth about her injury. She apologized and tried to make it right. It was a lousy afternoon for you both. Move on to your next date--and I hope it's more successful!

 

[LC18]

Hey. If you want you're free to come up here and fuck me while I'm immobile holding my rib.

That’s dramatic.

I can understand both sides tho. One is pissed because he was cancelled on last minute after driving over 1h and crossing the border, the other is pissed because she’s probably in excruciating pain and her client is saying “but what about my dick?”


Although, it’s not like you didn’t ask THREE times if she was sure about the booking. You did your part honestly, there’s nothing more you could have done to prevent this outcome. Sorry to both of you.

 

[What's My Name]

What if she would of said yes come and you went, you would of got a bad service because we all know why. As mentioned let it and if you want ask for another day in a few weeks. It's your emotions that are taking over, just let it be.

 

[Workingman]

A few weeks ago I had an appointment that was cancelled last minute. As you can see below, I noticed that the provider had indicated that she wasn't feeling well and offered not once, but twice to reschedule. After a lengthy drive which involved crossing the border I arrived at the provided location only to be told by the provider that she "should have cancelled" and that she was nauseous again and had hurt herself tidying up. When I expressed my disappointment I got the response you can see below.

I can understand a late cancellation for an injury but I "should have cancelled" made me question what really was going on. I was really annoyed by the tone of her response.

I have pasted the interaction below but have redacted any identifying content as I wouldn't want this singular incident to affect the providers reputation.

Do I owe this provider an apology?


Good evening #### I hope all is well. I thought I would check in to make sure we are still a go for Saturday.

Jul 11, 2024, 9:08 PM


Yes we are still on!

Jul 12, 2024, 7:13 AM



Excellent, I noticed you were suffering from nausea and wanted to make sure you were well. If you are not feeling well we can certainly reschedule

Jul 12, 2024, 7:48 AM


I'm better today!

Jul 12, 2024, 12:02 PM



Okay, but don't feel obligated if you don't feel up to it, I can reschedule

Jul 12, 2024, 12:08 PM


Hey ! My address is ####t. I'll send the buzzer when I am ready!



Please wait in your car until I send it (or at least not inside the building haha) for discretion purpose!

Jul 13, 2024, 12:40 PM



Thank you #### I am looking forward to meeting you.

Jul 13, 2024, 12:45 PM


I should have cancelled. I hurt myself while tidying and now I'm panicking and nauseous again

Jul 13, 2024, 1:35 PM


Trying to keep tidying but my rib hurts. I'm such an idiot.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:40 PM



While I'm sorry you are hurt, seriously, I can't say I am thrilled, I just drove 1.5 hrs to visit you and I am in the area. I did say we could reschedule if you weren't 100 percent.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:50 PM


Hey. If you want you're free to come up here and fuck me while I'm immobile holding my rib.



Cant say I'll take pleasure from it but at least you'll get your dick wet. ;(



I can offer 100$ off upon rescheduling if you want, or you can come and hurt me further, or we can just never take the chance again. I'll let you decide.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:58 PM



As I said, I really do feel bad you're not feeling well but I am sure you can understand why I would be disappointed.

Jul 13, 2024, 1:59 PM


I didn't "plan" on hurting my rib



So idk what the point of making me feel guilty is



I *was* 100% until I impaled my rib on a piece of furniture



I'm willing to give 100$ off and an extra half hour another time but I understand if it's never going to happen.



Sorry.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:00 PM



I am heading back south. Heal well. Perhaps I will try again in the future.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:00 PM


Doubt it. I'm sorry you drove 1.5hr but trying to make me feel like the worst escort in the universe after I offered the equivalent of a 300$ discount...That tells me we wouldn't be a good match. :/



I even offered to come upstairs and use my body if you wanted to



So I don't know what else I could've done



Offer a fully free appointment? Because I hurt myself?

Jul 13, 2024, 2:02 PM


I didn't tell you "we are good fors Saturday" thinking "haha I'm going to hurt myself in the hour leading up to the booking"

like I didn't plan this and I'm trying to offer ways to make it up to you



I'll pay for your gas if you want I don't know what you want as a resolution

Jul 13, 2024, 2:05 PM



I would never think of hurting you further and while I am no Casinova, I do try to make sure the person I am with is enjoying herself as well. Obviously that wouldn't be possible if you're in pain.I would never expect you to offer free services, I simply expressed my disappointment and said perhaps we can try again in the future. I am not looking for compensation for gas.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:07 PM


I understand why you're disappointed. What I don't understand is why you're framing it as something I'm doing on purpose

I already feel so guilty and I'm scrambling to find ways to make it up to you.I'm going to close my phone screen and go try to sleep because im crying, but the discount + extra half hour offer stand if ever we reschedule. I'm really sorry.

Jul 13, 2024, 2:10 PM



Heal well

Jul 13, 2024, 2:11 PM
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It appears this was a first time meeting, don't say anything and move on. Imo the only response worth giving in the first place was "ok"

 

[vanhamm]

Yes of course, they offer you a service, you pay a lot of money its not like going for a deep tissue massage at 80$ or whatever the price is today, most providers charge between 220$ to 300$.

Your time your gas and from the looks of it crossing the border you drove a long time. I had Maeva do this to me when i had my condo few years back, she made me drive to St Canut at the Mcdonalds and she ghosted me once I arrived there, worse I drove there in ice rain.

I wasted like 1h30 minutes back and forth, the next day she texted me saying she had issues with her phone, but i saw reviews about her afterwards from clients that she did the same thing too, except from a simp moron who said he understood her because SP go through a lot and she did that to him 3 times, everyone else was pissed.

She wanted to reschedule i told her to go fuk herself.

They offer a service they need to provide that service, if she felt sick she should have texted you right away to cancel and not make you waste time going there etc. Its just me but i would be mad and never ever try to book that SP again.

As and SP be punctual, don't make your client wait for endless time in is car before you are ready, don't ghost them, and make sure you smell good so many reviews about SP smelling bad down there, at least be professional at the price we pay.

 

[What's My Name]

It appears this was a first time meeting, don't say anything and move on. Imo the only response worth giving in the first place was "ok"

And for a speedy recovery

 

[Workingman]

And for a speedy recovery

If you are planning on returning, being polite is paramount no doubt.

I don't see any positive outcomes in complaining and pressing issues.

 

[LC18]

They offer a service they need to provide that service, if she felt sick she should have texted you right away to cancel and not make you waste time going there etc. Its just me but i would be mad and never ever try to book that SP again.

She was not sick. She said she was feeling fine the 3 times he asked her if she was ok.

She said she hurt her ribs moving furniture, probably ran and miscalculated, ended up with a sharp corner in her ribs. The pain was so much that it made her nauseous.

Now is it true or not? We will never know because we were not there.

 

[bodick7]

With my last 2 favorites, I had last minute cancellations at very first session...
If there is one thing I learned over time is to be patient.
Each time I told I understood and then she instantly knows I'm a true gent.
It took them in such good mood afterward that when finally meet,
Shit...you feel like discovering the perfect gem.

 

[Fradi]

I know it sucks when you are all hyped up to see someone you are looking forward to seeing.

Unfortunately this type of thing happens and it happened with one of my favourites, the difference is that I knew her.
I simply asked if there was anything I could do to help. Did she need to be driven to a clinic, does she have pain medication and that she can let me know when she is feeling better and we can reschedule.
Of course I didn’t travel 1.5 hours or cross a border and she was someone who is a friend and I have known for a long time, so there was no question I trusted her 100%.

To me she sounds sincere, give her the benefit of the doubt and try to reschedule, but also pick out a couple of ladies from an agency for a plan B just in case if you can manage to stay longer,

Hope it works out for you,

 

[Albacor]

Your time your gas and from the looks of it crossing the border you drove a long time. I had Maeva do this to me when i had my condo few years back, she made me drive to St Canut at the Mcdonalds and she ghosted me once I arrived there, worse I drove there in ice rain.

I wasted like 1h30 minutes back and forth, the next day she texted me saying she had issues with her phone, but i saw reviews about her afterwards from clients that she did the same thing too, except from a simp moron who said he understood her because SP go through a lot and she did that to him 3 times, everyone else was pissed.

She wanted to reschedule i told her to go fuk herself.

Haha... it happened to me too with Maeva. I drove from Montreal half way to St Canut when she texted me to cancel, saying her mom has an emergency and was in the hospital !
I have to turn back and find another SP ! It sucks!
Well, It's part of the game...what can u do?

 

[vanhamm]

Haha... it happened to me too with Maeva. I drove from Montreal half way to St Canut when she texted me to cancel, saying her mom has an emergency and was in the hospital !
I have to turn back and find another SP ! It sucks!
But It's the game...

She texted you back, me she ghosted me in the ice rain, driving there was dangerous. I waited at that Mcdonalds for like 30 minutes.

 

[ThunderLipps]

She was not sick. She said she was feeling fine the 3 times he asked her if she was ok.

My thoughts exactly, too many gullible people.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

These kind of things happen every now and then, even with my ATFs. I always choose to believe their stories because, what else can I do, really? I have no need to be pissed at a girl because of cancellations, quite the opposite actually. I ‘d rather get cancelled than having to go through a lame session because my date is not feeling well or her mind is somewhere else due to personal issues.

This is one of the major reasons I don’t really hobby outside the downtown area. I live there and I have plenty of choices at hands, even for plan B and C. That way my deceptions are kept very low and short.

 

[ThunderLipps]

I would have told her to fuck off right then and there. You are way more patient than I am

Since I was there I would have asked to come up just to see if the ribs were bruised.
Just to add, too likely for a longer appointment came up or found something better to do. Sorry but I am not a trusting person.

 

[LC18]

 

[IamNY]

It sucks when these things happen. Only thing I can suggest in the future is to have a backup plan. A quick massage with a really hot girl can do wonders an put a smile on your face for the long drive back home.

 

[Sylar]

I can understand both sides and like to give people the benefit of doubt.
From what I gather she was sick, but felt good enough when you asked her about it, but then hurt her rib which was a separate incident. She should have proactively reached out and cancelled at that point, so that's on her. Her responses are bad form, but if she was in pain I can sympathize.

If this was your regular SP, I am sure you could have arranged something (e.g. social time) but with a new client / SP, I do not see how this can be salvaged even if the communication went better. At least she didn't ghost you and you can almost be certain that she didn't make it up as she continued texting.

 

[AirBo]

Obviously, not everyone has this luxury, but this is also one of the reasons why I prefer Outcall. While a late cancellation is somewhat annoying, I can just turn the TV on and go about my business.