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Were you able to get through a mental block?

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I was wondering if anyone had a similar situation and if so, how you dealt with it. I met with two different SPs, at first I'm turned on as I'm attracted both to her body and personality (luckily). After the action starts, I feel like I'm trying to listen if she's enjoying it (especially during DATY), and then I can't stop thinking that she's not really enjoying it, she's not into me, maybe she doesn't even want to be there. And if I start thinking that, I just lose any willpower to do anything and feel like shit.

Maybe what I'm thinking is true, maybe not so much, I don't know. Or maybe I fail to make the SP be relaxed enough to be able to enjoy it (as much as one can enjoy it when it's a paid service...) Am I too stressed / not confident enough when we talk at the beginning of the session? Should I just accept that as much as I want to have a bit of reprieve from the sadness in my life, this is just not for me?
 

LeDodo

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I try not to think too much during the encounter but I am the kind that takes pleasure when I feel the other having it genuinely. By that it's not necessarily reaction, moaning or else. It's very subtle like feeling she's into you more than giving a physical response.
I may not come during the encounter, once it's the norm (although it takes me while before being able) and one time only twice. For a comparison, in my personal relationship I come rather quickly.

At the beginning I tried figuring out why I have such different physical response but I got over it.
I would say that just enjoy your time with the SP as some are great persons, enjoy the physical exchange. So far I enjoy my time like this :)
 

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sometimes my mind gets in the way of the action too. If the girl is too distant, thats not fun, if she is too into it, i think, please dont overfake it lol.

For me the first encounter can be the most exciting, there is something about knowing a person for only 30 seconds and then jumping into sex, such a rush. But i have found that from the providers side, often the second, third and fourth encounters can be the best, as they have gotten to know you a bit, and often will reciprocate more. So my suggestion is keep expectations low for a first encounter and see if things progress upon a second encounter...if it does it is a confidence builder.
 
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I was wondering if anyone had a similar situation and if so, how you dealt with it. I met with two different SPs, at first I'm turned on as I'm attracted both to her body and personality (luckily). After the action starts, I feel like I'm trying to listen if she's enjoying it (especially during DATY), and then I can't stop thinking that she's not really enjoying it, she's not into me, maybe she doesn't even want to be there. And if I start thinking that, I just lose any willpower to do anything and feel like shit.

Maybe what I'm thinking is true, maybe not so much, I don't know. Or maybe I fail to make the SP be relaxed enough to be able to enjoy it (as much as one can enjoy it when it's a paid service...) Am I too stressed / not confident enough when we talk at the beginning of the session? Should I just accept that as much as I want to have a bit of reprieve from the sadness in my life, this is just not for me?
Why don’t you instead think about if you are enjoying it or not,
Is the SP enjoying it? Simple answer to that is would she be fucking you if you weren’t paying her, that should answer that question quite easily.

She will be enjoying what she can do with the $$$ so yes she is enjoying that part of it for sure which leads back to a fair exchange, you get to enjoy what you paid for and she gets to enjoy what she earned.
 

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I think, in a sense, Fradi isn’t far off from me.

I did have that issue early on: overthinking the session and getting psyched out. For me, it was all about getting out of my head and into the moment. Two things helped.

#1: Longer sessions. Having the luxury of time helped me feel like I connected with the SP. The second (or even third!) round in an single extended session were almost always better.

#2: Being selfish. Well, no, not really… But I remembered I was there for my own enjoyment. I tried strictly oral sessions, role playing scenarios, PSE experiences… Basically, taking full advantage of the unique variety hobbying can bring to your sex life. The more experimental you get, the less you revert to your usual patterns and expectations!

I still have off days now and then, but that’s just me not getting any younger!

Cheers!
 

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Why don’t you instead think about if you are enjoying it or not,
Is the SP enjoying it? Simple answer to that is would she be fucking you if you weren’t paying her, that should answer that question quite easily.

She will be enjoying what she can do with the $$$ so yes she is enjoying that part of it for sure which leads back to a fair exchange, you get to enjoy what you paid for and she gets to enjoy what she earned.
Escort who dont enjoy sex are in the wrong business lol. Yes, we are working, it's a job, to pay our bills; but it doesn't mean that we dont enjoy it (depends with who lol). For example, a teacher is teaching to get money (it's her job), but she also likes teaching and loves kids. One doesn't exclude another. But maybe she is not enjoying teaching some classes or some students, it's normal. Like us, we enjoy sex and like to socialize with mens while still doing our job. Both are true :)
 

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Escort who dont enjoy sex are in the wrong business lol. Yes, we are working, it's a job, to pay our bills; but it doesn't mean that we dont enjoy it (depends with who lol). For example, a teacher is teaching to get money (it's her job), but she also likes teaching and loves kids. One doesn't exclude another. But maybe she is not enjoying teaching some classes or some students, it's normal. Like us, we enjoy sex and like to socialize with mens while still doing our job. Both are true :)
Sure there are some that enjoy sex and those are the ones you want to repeat with.
Eventually you can tell the difference between the ones putting on an act and reality.
 
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Escort who dont enjoy sex are in the wrong business lol. Yes, we are working, it's a job, to pay our bills; but it doesn't mean that we dont enjoy it (depends with who lol). For example, a teacher is teaching to get money (it's her job), but she also likes teaching and loves kids. One doesn't exclude another. But maybe she is not enjoying teaching some classes or some students, it's normal. Like us, we enjoy sex and like to socialize with mens while still doing our job. Both are true :)
Thanks for clarifying this and for your analogy. That’s what I think as well.

When I first started in this hobby, I had doubts about whether some escorts could actually enjoy our RDVs as well (since it’s a job). Then I realized that both could be true.

I can tell that some regulars that I repeat with enjoy our encounters as well. Besides the sex part, they smile more, we have nice conversations, they are genuinely interested in things I talk about, etc.
On the flip side, with other SPs that I’ve seen, there is no chemistry, they don’t seem to enjoy it, etc. Obviously i don’t repeat with those.

It’s case by case. A lot comes down to chemistry!
 
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Halloween Mike

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I am not a DATY guy so i can't really know. But otherwise yes some SPs are better than others. I had some that made me think (at least in the spur of the moment) that she was in love with me and gave her soul and body to me (im exagerating a bit, but you get what i mean). Like she was really into me. Of course once the meeting is over i get back to reality. But those sessions are the best. If im booking for GFE this is the type of stuff i like the most. I am not a fan of the overly vocal stuff tough, like fake pornstar yelling. Its not gonna "take me out of it" but i just don't care. If its an outcall in an hotel room i would even say it annoy me because especially where i used to receive, that place didn't had the best sound isolation. Im not saying i don't like a PSE type of session, but im strickly talking the screaming that would be over the top.

As for SPs not being into it, well i mentioned this a few times (but it stuck in my mind i guess), one time an SP who was physically very attractive was cowgirl on top of me and i could see her looking at the ceiling, chewing her gum, and she litterally looked like she was phased out of it, like she was thinking what she was gonna make for dinner that day. Almost a "starfish" kinda situation but with her on top. It was not enough to make me go out of it, but obviously it was not in my top meetings. In those situations i just tell myself "dude you still banging a hot chick, a type of chick you tought you would never be able to bang when you were 20, just enjoy".

Whats gonna make me go out of it (or ill have issues getting hard and such) is more a matter of "behaviors" outside of the sex itself. I mean if she look bored or not into me while we do it, i get it, im not an attractive guy, maybe she ain't super suited to do this job but needed the money, and im not gonna hold it too much against her. Some SPs are better actors than others, some may be more into the job and don't care for physical appearance, but not everyone is the same. What do take me out of it is the rest. Like if she is rude, or if she is on drug and overly "speeded", or drunk and too "gorlo" as we say in Quebecois... or something like that. Or if there is an issue like not wanting to provide GFE when GFE is suppose to be provided. Granted i am a "play safe" client in general so its a rare occurence but sometimes you know its that time where i am to go in Montreal and some super hot new girl pop in an agency and her pics are just too wow so i don't have time to wait for reviews or whatever and i just do a TOFTT. This could happen.

So yeah its a lot depending on the situation. But overall like i said above ... When i was 20 years old (or heck even a teenager) i didn't knew this world existed. I knew prostitution did exist but all i knew was that shady stuff you see in movies or the street walker side Basically i didn't expect to enter this business as a client, as a small town guy who at the time barely ever got to Montreal. I had been a few times with school or familly but by myself it took around like 2007 or so before i attended my first concert in a big city. I was then 22. Add a few more years til i discovered Merb (and the rest is history) but yeah basically in latte 2006/early 2007, i was playing Xbox 360 morning to evening, and thats all i knew. I had already resigned myself to stay single all my life, not have kids, and just fap to porn (that was around the time Brazzers started or got more mainstream and porn became very accessible).

20 years later well... most of that is still true (lol) but at least i can look back and say i had sex with around 100 super hot women and did the vast majority of my fantasies. Cim, COF, SW, Greek, and even a few more kinky ones i didn't expect. Its not too bad in retrospec. Obviously if you took me back to my early 20s today, obviously i would do A LOT of things differently. But thats life... you only have one, can't rewind and can't respawn... Im at least at peace with myself.

Dang sorry i got a bit overboard on the self reflecting bit here but heck i still think its tied to the subject. Aka im just happy to look back and know i was with all these hot women. So if a few looked bored or out of it. Whatever ;)
 

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I'm always interested in how many men out here put their energy into making SPs happy, sexually satisfied, and emotionally connected. Whether it's through extended social time (dinner! golfing! museums!) or erotic pleasure, it sometimes seems that we take the idea of GFE pretty far. And if that's what men want, of course that's just fine. But when I book a date, I'm indulging in my own pleasure, not someone else's. I want my companion to feel comfortable and respected, but it just never occurs to me to worry about whether she finds me attractive or is aroused by me. The American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, "Let us never bow and apologize more. A great man is coming to eat at my house. I do not wish to please him; I wish that he should wish to please me." Similarly, an SP should wish to please her clients; it's what we're paying for. To the OP I'd say: I'm sorry about the sadness in your life; try letting the SP offer that reprieve you seek. Some are terrific at soothing the soul by delighting the body. Enjoy yourself!
 

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Escort who dont enjoy sex are in the wrong business lol. Yes, we are working, it's a job, to pay our bills; but it doesn't mean that we dont enjoy it (depends with who lol). For example, a teacher is teaching to get money (it's her job), but she also likes teaching and loves kids. One doesn't exclude another. But maybe she is not enjoying teaching some classes or some students, it's normal. Like us, we enjoy sex and like to socialize with mens while still doing our job. Both are true :)
I show that I take care of myself,Have many interests and give her a bottle of wine then great conversation!
 

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In my early days it was just wham, bam, thank you ma'am. I wasn't bringing gifts or looking to have a deep conversation. I was young, poor, inexperienced and seeing random agency women. Majority of them were very "business minded" and no amount of sexual prowess on my part would've likely changed things. I got off, they got paid. Business transaction successful. Except for one woman, the jazz singer. She was amazing and I wish I could've spent a lot more time with her.

Now that I'm older, I'm more interested (and financially able) in building at least a bit of a bond. Am I bringing them to orgasm after orgasm? Definitely not, but I think we both enjoy our time more when we're comfortable enough to laugh when something silly happens in the middle of "business". I even had sessions where neither of us came and it was still an enjoyable night.
 

LeDodo

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Now that I'm older, I'm more interested (and financially able) in building at least a bit of a bond. Am I bringing them to orgasm after orgasm? Definitely not, but I think we both enjoy our time more when we're comfortable enough to laugh when something silly happens in the middle of "business". I even had sessions where neither of us came and it was still an enjoyable night.
I'm definitely in that phase