What is more dangerous?
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Absolutely, I work all day on a fucking computer! Nothing but nothing beats the real thing on discovering a girls body with all her perfection and imperfection. Porn is just in your head. A girls is on you, then in your head
Cheers,
Intimacy:
1: a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.
2: an act or expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, or the like.
3: an amorously familiar act; liberty.
4: sexual intercourse.
5: the quality of being comfortable, warm, or familiar:
6: closeness, familiarity, warmth, affection.
I do not, nor can i, get these items mentioned above from porn, i own one DVD of porn and it stars Asia Carrera, which is about 30 years old. Now, have i watched porn in the past, yes, do i have a collection or a PC stash of porn, no, if someone were to check the history on my PC, would they find any trace of porn, yes, its unavoidable, with people posting sites of porn here and there, and friends sending me clips, i am human and best of all i am MAN, damn it.
When i was younger, yes, porn was part of some of my weekends, back then, oh my god, the stuff use to pop up everywhere on the net, you couldn't close a window fast enough before another porn site popped up, thank god that was fixed, most annoying.
Now having said all of this, i found out a long time ago that i prefer the company of a real lady to administer the one thing i need, intimacy, which i can not get from porn, whether its on a date or if i am acquiring the services of one of the many beautiful ladies out there who are in the business of offering the one thing i crave, intimacy.
As long as i am breathing and able to perform, i want to be able to experience the real thing till the day i die. And as for the addiction part, well, define addiction, am i an addict of this hobby, i don't believe i am, am i an addict of woman and what they have to offer me, hell yeah..
Thank you, And good night, Um, good morning,
Thor Jr
1: a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.
2: an act or expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, or the like.
3: an amorously familiar act; liberty.
4: sexual intercourse.
5: the quality of being comfortable, warm, or familiar:
6: closeness, familiarity, warmth, affection.
I do not, nor can i, get these items mentioned above from porn, i own one DVD of porn and it stars Asia Carrera, which is about 30 years old. Now, have i watched porn in the past, yes, do i have a collection or a PC stash of porn, no, if someone were to check the history on my PC, would they find any trace of porn, yes, its unavoidable, with people posting sites of porn here and there, and friends sending me clips, i am human and best of all i am MAN, damn it.
When i was younger, yes, porn was part of some of my weekends, back then, oh my god, the stuff use to pop up everywhere on the net, you couldn't close a window fast enough before another porn site popped up, thank god that was fixed, most annoying.
Now having said all of this, i found out a long time ago that i prefer the company of a real lady to administer the one thing i need, intimacy, which i can not get from porn, whether its on a date or if i am acquiring the services of one of the many beautiful ladies out there who are in the business of offering the one thing i crave, intimacy.
As long as i am breathing and able to perform, i want to be able to experience the real thing till the day i die. And as for the addiction part, well, define addiction, am i an addict of this hobby, i don't believe i am, am i an addict of woman and what they have to offer me, hell yeah..
Thank you, And good night, Um, good morning,
Thor Jr
I have been there... Don't know for you but for me problem then is when you go see a girl you end up not having enough.. or you don't come, which is very frustrating... Better to stop online porn or reserve it for very special moment, once in a while..
Or do what I do and watch only lesbian porn (the realistic type, shot by Girlfriends Films, with characters and storylines like a soap opera).
Then again everytime I see a girl I automatically think she might be gay so....(including the 2-3 SP I see every month LOL!) :lol:
You are not the only one who experience this. This subtle warping of your brain is very damaging and confidence sapping. Only way out of this is to reboot and rewire. It is normally stated that it will take around 90 days for you to recover. Not as bad as it may seem if you are committed and have the will power.
Porn is more dangerous.
As an older guy, I used to enjoy porn mags, then DVDs, so I thought internet porn was just one step better. Yet after a 2yr patch of single life where i watched a lot of porn, when a beautiful civiiian gal (15 yrs younger!) came into my life, i was shocked to find i couldn't get it up for her. I was really reluctant to accept that this had anything to do with porn--after all, i had read mags and watched porn during my marriage and it hadn't affected me. But the research on internet porn shows that the instantly accessible novelty of having all those tabs open can really do a number on the chemistry in the male brain.
Check out the TEDx talk: 'the Great Porn Experiment'. It explains how dopamine 'saturation' in the brain results from 'edging' to internet porn (mostly due to the super-increased novelty of internet porn); this in turn can result in Erectile Dysfunction--which is now quite common amongst 20-30yr old guys because internet porn affects the brain differently (mostly due to the super high novelty) than playboy magazine and dvds did (the older type of porn). The dopamine saturation can also disrupt sleep and 'normal' pleasure response in non-sexual activities, leading to increased depression.
The website 'yourbrainonporn.com' explains this new phenomenon in detail without any moralistic judgementalism.
Unfortunately, it seems like the best solution is going 'cold turkey' --a complete avoidance of internet porn, to let the brain's dopamine receptors reset to normal levels, this usually takes 8wks (or more). I kept thinking I could have a lil bit of porn, but for me at least, even a little changed my heart rate and sleep pattern, so i had to go completely off it.
There's a online site where guys talk about their efforts to deal with this: yourbrainrebalanced.com.
As an older guy, I used to enjoy porn mags, then DVDs, so I thought internet porn was just one step better. Yet after a 2yr patch of single life where i watched a lot of porn, when a beautiful civiiian gal (15 yrs younger!) came into my life, i was shocked to find i couldn't get it up for her. I was really reluctant to accept that this had anything to do with porn--after all, i had read mags and watched porn during my marriage and it hadn't affected me. But the research on internet porn shows that the instantly accessible novelty of having all those tabs open can really do a number on the chemistry in the male brain.
Check out the TEDx talk: 'the Great Porn Experiment'. It explains how dopamine 'saturation' in the brain results from 'edging' to internet porn (mostly due to the super-increased novelty of internet porn); this in turn can result in Erectile Dysfunction--which is now quite common amongst 20-30yr old guys because internet porn affects the brain differently (mostly due to the super high novelty) than playboy magazine and dvds did (the older type of porn). The dopamine saturation can also disrupt sleep and 'normal' pleasure response in non-sexual activities, leading to increased depression.
The website 'yourbrainonporn.com' explains this new phenomenon in detail without any moralistic judgementalism.
Unfortunately, it seems like the best solution is going 'cold turkey' --a complete avoidance of internet porn, to let the brain's dopamine receptors reset to normal levels, this usually takes 8wks (or more). I kept thinking I could have a lil bit of porn, but for me at least, even a little changed my heart rate and sleep pattern, so i had to go completely off it.
There's a online site where guys talk about their efforts to deal with this: yourbrainrebalanced.com.
Well i didn't read the 3 pages but to answer from my personal point of view
Porn can be free (so much tube website for exemple)
The Hobby is very costly...
So i would say being addicted to the Hobby is more dangerous, as for my wallet that is...
Porn can be free (so much tube website for exemple)
The Hobby is very costly...
So i would say being addicted to the Hobby is more dangerous, as for my wallet that is...
Absolutely, I work all day on a fucking computer! Nothing but nothing beats the real thing on discovering a girls body with all her perfection and imperfection. Porn is just in your head. A girls is on you, then in your head
Cheers,
Had to agree with @jalimon and I had to chime in.
Being in a highly technical and competitive and demanding field/work/area - if you're on your computer all day, pulling 60+ hours a week, it's difficult to invest in a relationship, and it may be more honest to be with a sp because someone may not be there emotionally or timewise for a significant other. Which results in porn vs/or SP.
Having been in front of and behind the cameras, I can definitely say that getting the "money shot" is difficult. You've got people that are dressed (photographers snapping pics for the complimenting website, the director, cameradude, extras if there any in the video) that are watching, huge and hot large lights beaming down on the actors and actresses, and the guy's supposed to perform on the spot. That jump cut in between getting ready for the money shot and the money shot can be 15 minutes to an hour of the poor actress trying to jerk and suck the actor off. Sometimes we had to use a special liquid soap that the director has at hand (heh) and the actress pretends to gurgle it for the money shot, and the actor doesn't get paid the full amount for a day's work. A lot of stuff gets edited out during the act. There was one Slovakian actress where the video guy had to edit her face out because she was yawning and looking really bored and staring off listlessly in boredom while she was taking a monster pounding.
I went out more than a few times with an actress and one time, I ended up asking what was it like or how was her relationship with the one actor she worked with all the time, taking a monster pounding or a mouthload every time they shot together, since I was friends with him too. She said she didn't like him, not even as a friend or acquaintance; she despised him. In my mind, I was kind of mind fucked, as in that stage of my life, I finally realized that someone could have sex, not only for money, but even hating the guy.
I definitely could say that for the US, being of a more Puritanical religious strain and the religion-based stigma against sex work, or sexual expression in general, that more than a few guys take their porn obsession to the extreme, and invest way too much of their money and (and more importantly) time in it, because they'd feel they have no other alternative (true, in the US). I think I would've also gone deeper into that habit, but having had the fortunate opportunity to work briefly in that industry, seeing what it's really like, and getting out, then I was able to put it into perspective that it's (porn) nothing to become an obsessed fan of, or to think it's supposed to be a replacement of the sexual experience in any way.
On the flip side, at least for me, the bonus of a sp over porn are the French language lessons. We had some time left and I was feeling really beat, so Chloe of Euphoria helped me with my pronunciation of the numbers. She was very stern and strict about me getting the pronunciation perfectly and didn't bullshit compliment me. I definitely remember les nombres.
If one wants to quit this porn thing and put it behind you....
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/10/09/how-to-quit-porn/
I realized taking on this thing and defeating it is very hard for many. Really takes much willpower, determination, commitment, self-control, and confidence to pull it off to the very end. Many relapse a few times before succeeding. I mean if you are one of those folks who can handle their porn without any problems much power to you.
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/10/09/how-to-quit-porn/
I realized taking on this thing and defeating it is very hard for many. Really takes much willpower, determination, commitment, self-control, and confidence to pull it off to the very end. Many relapse a few times before succeeding. I mean if you are one of those folks who can handle their porn without any problems much power to you.
I've never been really fond of porn, in small doses here and there it's okay, but overall it's a little boring really.
The best porn scenes are the fantasies I can make in my own head while masturbating, or better yet, living out those fantasies with a partner!
The best porn scenes are the fantasies I can make in my own head while masturbating, or better yet, living out those fantasies with a partner!
I came across this link and found that it may be related to this thread. http://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed.
Thor Jr
Thor Jr
I've never been really fond of porn, in small doses here and there it's okay, but overall it's a little boring really.
The best porn scenes are the fantasies I can make in my own head while masturbating, or better yet, living out those fantasies with a partner!
This is what gets me to sleep at night, closing my eyes with my head on the pillow and thinking of a special lady and the time we will have . The fun with this is you can do whatever you want in this porn fantasy, being tied up is a plus...
Thor Jr
And yes Tiannas you have helped me fall asleep on more then one occasion...
Ok, all this porn is getting out of hand, and pun is intended...I get much more excited from a women wearing clothes then when they are naked, a women wearing tight jeans, a white sheer silky buttoned down blouse, with the first couple of buttons undone so you get a peak of the top of her breasts every time she leans forward, always has me walking around with a hard on. Hell, i went to the bank yesterday, a very pretty young lady, nice smile,full silky smooth lips, green eyes,her hair was brown, up in a pony tail, slightly tight olive green buttoned down blouse, sleeves rolled up, proportionally fitting black slacks, and as she counted the cash, her breasts swaying back and forth, getting a glimpse of her red bra strap every other second was enough for me to walk out of there with a half a woody, i know i am a pig, but my point is, if you have a structural imagination, let it run wild. Just think, when you watch porn, its naked people having sex, but when a woman is wearing cloths, she is at her sexiest, the curves, the mystery of it all, the fun of later having the pleasure of sharing in helping her disrobe, slowly.
Ok, im done.
Thor Jr
Ok, im done.
Thor Jr
Right on! If you think you are a pig because you admire and get half erection by looking at sexy clothed women in real life situation, then I am a major pig myself, and proud of it!
This is the reason I am always disappointed when SP receives you already naked (or almost). I love it when they are fully clothed, even if the outfit is not sexy I don't care, I will get to discover, that is what exites me!
Cheers,
Hi Thor Jr
You are not a pig if you are I am one also, and there would be countless of pigs out there, ISIS would be scared by us, what you describe is surely arousing, especially in summer and the physical reaction depend of the age, at my age i am mentally aroused, but the body do not react as if I was 30, but still it is indeed pleasing.
However, as I said in this thread Porn is a tool, when its winter at -20C on a Sunday night and you have an urge, its difficult to find what you describe, so porn will do the job at least in part, I bought some tools also very effective, and when i watch, what excite me the most is two lady together, am i a deviant for that, no, I have 3 principle, Be in accord with what you do, never justify yourself, and never judge ( the last one is sometime tough)
Qapla
M.
You are not a pig if you are I am one also, and there would be countless of pigs out there, ISIS would be scared by us, what you describe is surely arousing, especially in summer and the physical reaction depend of the age, at my age i am mentally aroused, but the body do not react as if I was 30, but still it is indeed pleasing.
However, as I said in this thread Porn is a tool, when its winter at -20C on a Sunday night and you have an urge, its difficult to find what you describe, so porn will do the job at least in part, I bought some tools also very effective, and when i watch, what excite me the most is two lady together, am i a deviant for that, no, I have 3 principle, Be in accord with what you do, never justify yourself, and never judge ( the last one is sometime tough)
Qapla
M.
If I got caught watching porn by my SO, she'd be disappointed, maybe a little pissed, but we'd get over it. If I got caught with an SP, it'd be all over. So in that sense, seeing SPs is more dangerous.
But I think porn is potentially more "insidious". I've gone thru periods where I spent over an hour a night watching porn. Looking back, what a waste! (come to think of it, I've spent about 30min on MERB already....yikes!) Anyway, my point is that like others have said, it can be addictive, partially because it is SO easy and cheap. If done in moderation, its a nice distraction or break or, I think, gets the libido going, adds to fantasy, etc. But done in excess, its a time waster plus many of the issues others have stated.
But I think porn is potentially more "insidious". I've gone thru periods where I spent over an hour a night watching porn. Looking back, what a waste! (come to think of it, I've spent about 30min on MERB already....yikes!) Anyway, my point is that like others have said, it can be addictive, partially because it is SO easy and cheap. If done in moderation, its a nice distraction or break or, I think, gets the libido going, adds to fantasy, etc. But done in excess, its a time waster plus many of the issues others have stated.
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