Hello all,
With a Montreal agency girl? I never have done this. Once I walked a QC escort back to her car after a session. She wanted to introduce me to her boss. I gave her a kiss and I bid her good bye. We were kissing as she climbed backword intothe car. I had an SP down south stay for dinner off the clock once. but never in Montreal? Maybe it is the 18-21 y.o. agency girls that I am attracted to? They are out making money so that they can afford to go clubbing after work.
I had a Brazilian Termas girl meet me at the hotel to spend the night. We ate some dinner together and that was fun. She wanted to come back on her day off but for some reason, I gave her the slip. I regret this to this day. I found that it is easy to get the Thai girls to meet you after work as well. Seems like many girls from 3rd world or developing nations are all too eager to meet you off the clock. I fear they all want a shot at the biggest session fee of all...marriage!
I've never had dinner with an escort while she worked with an agency either. But, I have always met the ladies at the beginning of their shifts, so of course there were always the work shift blocking the possibility. Still there have been many times when I've either met ladies down stairs or walked them out discreetly. A number of times there was hand holding and quick kisses in the lobby, brief make out in the elevator, and sometimes snuggling and a few kisses until the car arrived. A few ladies had no issue at all with showing some simple affection in the hotel or outside waiting. It's a very nice feeling.
I would never meet the boss though. The only time this came up was when the infamous penguin was in the hall way trying to get money from his escort before the session was over. He offered to meet. I said no. LUCKILY.
...I realized that somehow eating with someone is more intimate than eating someone (sorry the pun was too easy loll) and strangely enough some men reads too much into a escort accepting to do something that strays from the format of encounters...
...I am surprised at the lack of compartmentalization I see from my friends?
Well, I always love eating that is free of calories and so full of deliciously squirming excitement. "a oui...A OUI! je l'aime...je l'aime.
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Compartmentalization was something I've never lost, though it's gotten a bit weaker at times. I've been lucky enough to enjoy free time with some great Independents, walking through the city, doing a little store browsing, and enjoying generous time at various restaurants. Still, even off the clock I never lost site of the business foundation of the relationship.
Yes I did enjoy some kissing and very light affection with some of the ladies at lunch or dinner before we went back to the hotel for some vigorous business. But this was a planned off-the-clock then on-the-clock arrangement, not just a friendly sit down. Even so I never fell under the impression it was anything else but business.
There have been times when it was clearly just a friendly get together, sometimes with other hobbying contacts and associates. In these cases there was never anything but relaxation and conversation over dinner.
Still Lily, guys can't help fantasizing about what if. I have to admit that keeping it real still doesn't prevent fantasy, and I don't think guys do it any more than women do when they have some sort of basic attraction. Can you really blame someone for fantasizing or wishing something more could be possible when they're sitting across from a lovely lady they've enjoyed sweet intimacy with?
I fantasized about an escort I saw for several years such as: if only we were the same age...if only there was real mutual attraction...if only this or that...if only it wasn't just business. But it was just natural daydreaming. I didn't cross the line with pestering allusions, make pressuring presumptions, or try to force persistent contact. We had a good time out, a lot of fun in, she let me take her home a few times. All of that never got into real complications. But it depends on the persons doesn't it. Either could cross a line.
The only time there might have been an issue in my case is if I had taken the trip with her she offered. I was concerned being so close for so long would be too close and generate complicated feelings. So I didn't go, and I still can't decide whether to feel good about that choice or kick myself about it. Hmmm, I have kicked myself many times. But dinners and fun for several hours were safe enough.
In the situation you describe, guys probably can't help wishing a little. When you've been intimate it's natural. I don't think there's a problem necessarily unless the guy starts pressing for more frequent contact and making more requests that impose on your freedom.
Good luck,
Merlot