You’re most likely not the only one

[LC18]

If you were asking yourself something, you’re most likely not the only one so don’t hesitate to ask it publicly whether it’s by creating a new thread, using the Ask us anything thread or the 411 * section.

I started interacting on this board precisely because I saw a lot of interesting questions and no SP answering them but rather, clients answering with things they wouldn’t know. I didn’t want to be the only one answering because no one elected me to be the spokesperson of all SPs so I begged others to join and give their opinion

Do I agree with everything other SPs say here? No, of course not but I’m so happy they’re here because at least it gives another perspective to men and answers their great questions

Do I think some clients spread misinformation? Absolutely, but I still appreciate having them here especially when they’re being told off by other clients


* I put a link to the Montreal area 411 section but there are other 411 sections for other areas ❤️

 

[LeDodo]

We need a tag to send a notification to all Supporting members lol

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I wish more SP participated on this board personally, it often feels like just a few of us answering questions or explaining our side of things and our opinion, it feels like an echo chamber, and there's a lot of negativity. Most SP don't want to do this work (because yes it's a lot of unpaid labor to try to educate men here) and expose themselves to negative attention.. it's understandable honestly. I can tell a lot of men don't want us here lol

However I've received many inquiries and DM's from men who appreciate my contributions, and the presence of other colleagues as well. I also don't always agree or relate to what other providers are saying, but their experience is valuable. We can't expect everything to be 100% truthful because this is an advertising platform after all.. As much as I wish more colleagues contributed to the discussions, I don't know if Merb or any other review boards are good places to educate yourself on our reality, to be honest because this forum is centered around clients.

A friend of mine who has been an SP on and off since 2010 told me (ironically and as a joke) that it's a ''safe space'' for clients... As soon as we start criticizing the way certain things are done and making valid points about certain issues in the industry, people feel attacked and threatened and it's impossible to have a dialogue with people who aren't willing to question the way they do things and their perceptions... What I do appreciate is that there are lurkers who read us and appreciate what we have to say.. I've even had other SP message me to talk to me and thank me for being outspoken.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

We need a tag to send a notification to all Supporting members lol

Yeah sadly you can't force people to participate here. A lot of supporting members don't look at anything that's posted here because they hate it and don't want anything to do with it.

 

[LeDodo]

Yeah sadly you can't force people to participate here. A lot of supporting members don't look at anything that's posted here because they hate it and don't want anything to do with it.

Yup and as you pointed, it's work on their own time or they need to consider it as part of their work to spend time on the forum.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yup and as you pointed, it's work on their own time or they need to consider it as part of their work to spend time on the forum.

It's not technically part of our work in my opinion and that time and although I do get rewards (more clients notice me) and silent recognition sometimes I get antagonized by people I've never met just for advocating for myself and my colleagues and I think my intentions get misunderstood. It happened to other colleagues who interact a lot here too.

I think the opinion of certain people is that by being vocal and advocating for ourselves we are terrorizing men and preventing them from being honest lol but in reality it's people who don't like us being here and who are extremely negative who terrorize clients and people don't want to write reviews anymore because other guys might make fun of them or bombard them with questions..

A lot of clients who find me here refuse to participate precisely because of that.. for the same reasons that escorts don't want to get involved tbh. I've had clients tell me that they got bullied and called names so they just removed themselves.