Your advice on Screening, Referrals & Privacy

[WilliamStub]

Hi Everyone!

I'm new here. Being from Montreal, I was really quite grateful to find out there was a message board where I could ask questions. I've recently become wealthy and wanted to start hobbying while on business. My problem is all the high-class ladies I contacted while in the states (I mainly looked at EROS while in California) required referrals and/or identification (ie: a LinkedIn profile link).

I'm not really comfortable releasing my identity over an e-mail or text exchange with someone I've never met. I'm pretty visible on the internet and sharing my profile makes this kind of exchange miserable and stressful.

Can someone explain how referrals work? Could I see someone discreet on merb and have them be referrals for me in the future? It seems to me like it would be a hassle for SPs to constantly answer everyone about their past clients... any help in understanding how this works to make this more comfortable for both parties would be super appreciated.

Thank you!
William.

 

[AdeleBeaumont]

I'm not really comfortable releasing my identity over an e-mail or text exchange with someone I've never met. I'm pretty visible on the internet and sharing my profile makes this kind of exchange miserable and stressful.

Can someone explain how referrals work? Could I see someone discreet on merb and have them be referrals for me in the future? It seems to me like it would be a hassle for SPs to constantly answer everyone about their past clients... any help in understanding how this works to make this more comfortable for both parties would be super appreciated.

Welcome aboard,

my friends based in the U.S. require screening mostly because laws are different and they do not want to risk getting caught. They also require screening for their own safety, especially in busy cities.

You might have more luck with the Montreal ladies, I don't know a lot who require screening and when they do it is pretty light.

As for the referrals, it is exactly for the same reasons. The SP want to make sure that you are a safe person to see and that you do not have a bad reputation. I suggest you to find a SP who has a website, reviews and is reputable.

 

[jalimon]

Hi Everyone!
I've recently become wealthy and wanted to start hobbying while on business.

Mistake #1 and #2

#1 Do NOT ever ever say you are wealthy. Yes these girl do not give a shit. But they will behave differently if they know you are. They are only human after all. Any buyer in any business will act differently knowing you are wealthy

#2 Your profile say you are from montreal. Why hobby only while on business? Montreal is a fucking mecca and incall (if you are married or something) are very easy and discreet believe me.

My problem is all the high-class ladies I contacted while in the states (I mainly looked at EROS while in California) required referrals and/or identification (ie: a LinkedIn profile link).

Once you will see a few girl you will know who you can trust. Bring one on a trip that is perhaps not US based? In vancouver, toronto or europe. You will then really see if trust can be build? Because as Patron wrote for the US you will not be able to remain anonymous... I am trying to find a way to bring a girl to Miami in a few months and still struggling because of that...

Cheers,

 

[EdaBlackwood]

Honestly we actually do not mind going back and forth with one another. I would rather have someone else tell me a client is a real live human who has decent enough intentions than to just trust that that client may not hurt me. Generally speaking the clients who say "you can trust me" are the ones you cant trust. It also fosters a community between workers.

But yes you see someone from merb a handful of times (most providers wont give a reference for someone theyve seen only once, or someone who they havent seen in 6mos-1yr) and then when you give them as a reference, send the provider of your choice the references email, and website. Let your reference know that someone may be contacting them to confirm you are not a cyborg intent on over throwing humanity, and Tah-Dah you have a reference system

 

[WilliamStub]

I did see an indie SP advertising on merb.cc over the week-end, and she was both discreet, patient and kind. We spoke for a while about the topic of privacy.

Patron - At this stage I'm not interested in the SB route. It's too laden with baggage and I would rather pay for the privacy and the peace of mind of being with someone in a clear transaction than to blur the lines. I didn't intend my original post to sound arrogant in any way and hope I didn't come out that way, I was just trying to express that my priorities are different than some of the other members on the forum. For me - money doesn't really matter. My privacy and confidence that things will go smoothly and quietly is what matters for me to have a good time.

Thank you all for your kind replies and for taking the time to explain how and why you help identify good or bad clients.

William.