View Poll Results: Do you like ladies telling you how to please them sexually

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  • No way! They are there for my pleasure. They have no say.

    3 7.32%
  • I don't mind some pointers but, i'm the boss and do as I please.

    1 2.44%
  • I appreciate and will follow lead but I'm the one here to have fun

    1 2.44%
  • One way or another, as long as I get off, I don't mind.

    1 2.44%
  • I appreciate and do follow lead but it's not mandatory.

    10 24.39%
  • It's a definite plus. It's still good without but it lack some spices.

    19 46.34%
  • If she doesn't say anything, it's a turn-off. We can't be expected to read their mind after all!

    6 14.63%
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Thread: SP who know what they need to have fun, and tell you!

  1. #1
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    SP who know what they need to have fun, and tell you!

    Hi guys and gals

    Reading a recent review of Annabelle of SD/Montreal's secret, it reminded me of something:

    After seeing a few SP in the last while, I only met 1 who could tell me how she liked to be touched by men. In years of SC, only met 1 dancer who could do so.
    True, these ladies are seeing us for our pleasure and the money we give them but, no matter what, I can't resolve myself to consider them as a commodity only there to please me so, I like to do whatever possible to make her enjoy our meeting.
    Of course, they often see multiple guys in a short time frame and can't orgasm every time (for most) but, I feel I still need to make her feel good.
    That lady who could communicate turned a cold start (shy girl) into a real firework. No need for fireworks everytime but knowing the lady is somewhat enjoying herself is good, without the fake moans as soon as you get within 2 feets of her!

    So guys, generally, do you prefer to have a lady who can guide you towards her "buttons" or you prefer to have your fun and don't care. Do you prefer the chase and learn the "buttons" yourself? Do you get turn-off when a lady tell you what to do to please her?

    Personally, I'm a firm believer in giving first, trusting my turn will come if I please the lady. I love being told what she likes and don't hesitate telling her what I like but when asked, some ladies say "your doing good, keep going" but what you read in their attitude is "whatever, (yawn) are we done?" I know some of what I'm doing is good but no 2 ladies are alike so, a bit of guidance is good!
    Last edited by metoo4; 03-08-2007 at 06:26 PM.

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    Good Poll

    Hello Metoo4,

    Now here is a poll I think will have some benefit for both clients and SPs. I have always felt it was important for the SPs to give their input during an encounter and try to enjoy themselves as much as they can even if they see multiple clients in the same night. I have always enjoyed it most when a lady has fun too and I always ask what she likes. I hope this poll will prove to the ladies how important it is for each party to share what they like and understand that even though the client is paying, we want them participate and be equally satisfied with the encounter. For me, the first move is to give to them. Happily, I enjoy that almost as much as anything else in any case. So ladies take notice and let's have more fun...TOGETHER!

    Luv ya,

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    I guess it all depends what the typical client is looking for in his date with a girl. Some are looking for their own pleasure and physical release only, while others are trying to please the woman as much as possible until she falls in love, with a whole spectrum in between.

    It all ties in with the YMMV acronym. How can one expect a GFE experience if he's not a BFE to the gal? Why do some guys get way more than others? Because they care about the girl's pleasure too!

    This is a no brainer to me: Yes, please tell me what you like... PLEASE!

    CA
    Last edited by CoolAmadeus; 03-08-2007 at 10:54 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Korbel
    ... we want them participate and be equally satisfied with the encounter. For me, the first move is to give to them. Happily, I enjoy that almost as much as anything else in any case. So ladies take notice and let's have more fun...TOGETHER!
    Wholeheartedly agree!

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    No faking...let me know!

    I prefer to know if I am doing something wrong. I have had women who enjoy more intense DATY and others that couldn't take it. But if they remain quiet or pretend they're enjoying it, how will I know? I want them to enjoy the session too and I like it when they're honest about sexual preferences.

    Mercedez of XXXtase corrected my kissing. She likes it a certain way so far from freaking out, I obliged.

    GG

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    I had one of the most incredible experience with on SP some times ago, I have seen her a couple of time, and we get along great. The cuddling and kissing is out of this world.
    Last time, I think she had one of the greatest orgasm in a long time and for the first time it basically filled my own sexual need too, without getting any orgasm myself. I didn't feel short changed at all, I actually was in total ecstasy myself.

    Some will say of course that i got had big time, but to each is own.

    So you know were I stand, I like to please

    As far as giving hints, I am not sure most girls SP, or nonSP, really want to give advice or know what advice to give. Yes I would like them to provide some guidance, but do they really know? When you pleasure yourself could you explain it to someone else?

    It is easy to tell someone yes I like this or that as they are doing it but thinking it, and putting it into worlds, during the intercourse requires too much of a brain activity for me (my other brain lower down is hard at work)

    I have found also that if you let the other go at it in their own way, you will discover knew excitement that you never thought of. That is were chemistry will work its magic, if you are both in tune it will be great.

    One last little comment, do you usually find that the other will touch you the way they like to be touched? I mean if for example she touches you with some pressure while caressing you, she will not like to be touched lightly. I am not sure if you will all agree there but if you study the body language and movement you can pretty much know what she will like, more driven sex or more languorous, more touching or more kissing.

    In the end what you like is what you will seek, being told could make you a better all around lover but you are already great to the ones were the chemistry worked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Love big tits
    Last time, I think she had one of the greatest orgasm in a long time and for the first time it basically filled my own sexual need too, without getting any orgasm myself. I didn't feel short changed at all, I actually was in total ecstasy myself.
    Nothing is more pleasurable than bringing a lady to a genuine orgasm. The problem is that it's rare even though it seems like they're always enjoying it.

    GG

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    Almost 24 hours past the start of the poll and we see that over 88% of guys like to know what the ladies like, 3.85% don't mind the lady saying what they like but won't do much about it and, to my surprise, 7.69% don't even want to ear about the ladies' needs. Are these 7.69% real or just peoples joking? It seems nobody is totally indifferent.

    Ladies, are these results somewhat in line with what you experience? Do most clients really care about what you like or are guys answering the poll only projecting how they would like to be? Can you try to voice your preference a bit more, either with words or actions? Left-right, up-down, softer-harder, or plain grab head/hand and guide us!

    Last edited by metoo4; 03-09-2007 at 02:11 PM.

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    insulting

    I enjoy going into a room and feeling the chemistry that builds between two people. The fact of sharing an intimate moment with someone in this industry is already a big turn on for me and though it might sound a little bit sick, it will remain a turn on as long as I am in it. I do this for my own personal pleasure. Of course the money is great, but if I truely did not enjoy this, I would do something else.

    Now to the specifics. You guys are writing really nice stuff and I have to admit that most times men say they would like to hear what pleases the lady. (The keyword there was "SAY") If what the man is doing to me feels uncomfortable, I always tell him. If he asks me directly how I enjoy things being done, I will tell him also. But guess what, They don't always listen and actually often feel quite insulted when stopped in the middle of their action. Some only see their immediate pleasure and like the idea of the woman being pleased also but won't really listen to how she likes to be pleased.

    "ouch! could you please do this this way, look I will show you"
    "sure, no problem"

    Then goes back to doing the same thing all over again.

    Men want to believe they are the best, and sometimes they believe they know how to please the woman better then the woman. I have been asked to have orgasms many times and it always kind of frustrates me.

    "I want you to cum!"
    "Well babe, There isn't a button I can press for that but if you want a chance at it, there are certain things you could do..."
    "Well I am the one paying so I do what I want"

    An orgasm is not something I can order and it comes from much more then experienced and skillful tongue techniques. I always feel that men believe DATY is THE way to make a woman cum and I think that is really sad. DAty is a fun little thing, yes, but not the only thing to please a woman. If it is not done correctly (And that varies enormously between women), it can be quite painful. I can speak for my experience only, but I have often been scared to have men go down on me because I am in such a position of vulnerability and SOOO often what the man does is completely uncomfortable. I blame that on porn. I am generalising here, but alot of men have been 'taught' by porn and know nothing else. licking and sucking and pulling and thrusting. Be gentle with vaginas, listen to how it responds, don't impose anything at first, tease it, and play. Women will guide you with their bodies.

    Some men are very good learners and deserve a star sticker. I have taught a couple how to please me exactly and we are always in for a wonderful ride. I actually crave seeing them.

    But some men are in such a rush to please and don't understand that a woman can have great pleasure without necessarily having an orgasm. I am sure some women in this industry feel they shouldn't be pleased because they might feel ashamed of what they are doing. Women sexuality is still evolving and it isn't everyone that sees it equal to men's sexuality yet. A woman with the same sexual appatite as a man is considerred raunchy or a nympho, and one who has less of an appetite is considerred a prude.

    Sexuality should be open and all partners should be active with wanting to please each other and be willing to let down egos and listen to each other. Lastly, Sexuality should be calebrated.
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    Thanks Maria. That's the kind of feedback we need from you ladies.

    Being told how and still do it wrong is not reserved for men, my wife is like that too! 20-30 seconds and it's back the same old way!

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    Tex: I find it a bit harsh but, as long as it's stay respectful and the ladies are ok with it, it's all fine! Of course, if they're not ok with it, you just don't repeat and all is good!

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    Who's serving whom?

    Quote Originally Posted by metoo4
    Almost 24 hours past the start of the poll and we see that over 88% of guys like to know what the ladies like, 3.85% don't mind the lady saying what they like but won't do much about it and, to my surprise, 7.69% don't even want to ear about the ladies' needs. Are these 7.69% real or just peoples joking? It seems nobody is totally indifferent.

    Hello Metoo4,

    LOL...well...who is serving whom...huh. It looks like the ladies are getting the best of both worlds. They get some giving-kind of pleasure from the guys...and a little pocket money to boot. If I wasn't fully aware of the down side of this business I would say it's a hell of a racket.

    My goodness,

    Korbel

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss Maria
    Sexuality should be open and all partners should be active with wanting to please each other and be willing to let down egos and listen to each other. Lastly, Sexuality should be calebrated.
    All right young lady, you've celebrated enough as it is for today. Now go finish packing that suitcase! p.s. Damn! I should have taken that 3:30 PM appointment...

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    Kobel: Mmm... I wonder if ladies are so interested in what men want when these ladies are with male SP? If so, where do I sign?

    And women are bitching about men who don't want to talk. All that time, it's them who insist in talking about stuff we don't care and refuse to talk about what we want them to talk about.

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    I cannot say it any better than Maria. Very well put.

    Very interesting poll. I will definately continue to follow this thread.

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