Since my divorce, I have fielded many many questions as to whether I was dating anyone or whether I wanted to remarry. Inquiring male and female minds want to know, alas. But I'm not going to tell them anything about my hobbying, LOL. As the Mafia saying goes, "Silence never betrayed a man." On occasion, I'll be asked by various escorts (or other ladies in this business) whether I'm married or have kids. That kinda stuff.
Hobbying isn't an inexpensive pastime yet I find it preferable to the dating jungle as a guy in my forties. I've read many message threads where guys have doubts as to whether they are missing out on life by spending significant time and money in the hobby. I'm from the school that marriage has its risks. I saw Donald Trump being interviewed on TV by Donny Deutch and The Donald said something to the effect that marriage was great if you were with the right woman. If you were not with the right woman, it's a "disaster". Agree with him fully on that point.
What I find interesting is how society tends to think of male hobbyists as losers. Guys who can't get laid because of horrid looks or social skills. The irony, from my vantage point, is that there are PLENTY of decent-looking hobbyists who are very successful in their careers and have substantial annual incomes ($100,000+ per year) in many cases. For some reason, these bachelors, who may have been married or have been in serious real-life relationships, choose to hobby rather than vigorously pursue the traditional love and marriage route. The answer for me is simple. I'm not keen on remarriage. Divorce can be a very cruel process and I unfortunately went through a very bad divorce.
So that's my story, in a nutshell. I'm interested in the thoughts and perspectives of others on this topic.