Exactly this. This whole thread disgusts me. "They should have sex with me because it's unfair to me!" Absolutely fucking ridiculous.
I have personally been turned away for my race. I posted about it. My only complaint was that I wish she had advertised that, so I didn't waste my time traveling to her incall, no problem with it otherwise.
I was trying to finish this thread off but I don't think this is a good comparison. Refusing someone because of their race is pure discrimination, and someone's race doesn't affect the booking. (No matter what race someone is the service will be similar, they can travel to my incall, there is no special needs I need to learn about or tend to, etc) Unless of course someone is avoiding people from their own community for anonimity purposes. Other forms of discrimination I would find unacceptable are discrimination based on physical appearance or body size..
When it comes to someone who's disabled, it's more tricky. A lot of disabilities and chronic health issues are invisible or not disclosed during the booking process, so we all end up serving disabled clients.
I'm open to serve disabled clients personally, and if someone is able to tell me how I can accommodate their needs and this is within my boundaries and the client is polite, I will serve this person.. However, some people don't do outcalls. There are situations that I'm not personally equipped to deal with, even if I'm generally more knowledgeable than the average person about disabilities. In the end it's about the person's level of comfort with having to maybe do ''extra work'' or handle certain things they may not be trained for or used to.
I know that's slightly off topic but I don't think not wanting to see 18-19 year old clients is discrimination, either. It's not because I hate 18 year olds lol. I just don't want to sleep with someone who's barely legal. It's an uncomfortable situation for me. A provider who's younger might accept doing this. We all have different comfort levels when it comes to different situations.. And honestly providers with more experience and independent providers are probably more willing to accommodate certain things. (for example, seeing a client who's a virgin)
No matter what, if you're a respectful client, there will be someone who will have the capacity to serve you... but will you be willing to screen and pay higher rates if needed? A lot of indy providers who charge more have a discount or a sliding scale for disabled gentlemen, it's something that you can very easily look into...
MANY escorts are also disabled. Advocating for disabled people includes advocating for sex workers considering disability is a very common reason why people choose to get into sex work in the first place. They almost go hand in hand. If your advocacy only pertains to you then it isn't advocacy, it's a tantrum.
I don't think anyone is asking you to carry every battle at once, but you're demanding a reform where one isn't necessarily possible or needed (sex with specific people isn't a right it's a privilege/want, and many escorts aren't comfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with discrimination and everything to do with safety, as in your safety if they lack training with disability, for example). And you're demanding that of these people while simultaneously saying that your advocacy stops at their door step because "you can't be fighting every battle". At this point allow me to be blunt : I feel like escorts getting evicted and murdered and discriminated against by banks is far worse than you not getting your dick sucked by the specific escort you want to see. Don't demand a reform where you're not ready to put in the work to stand up for the same people you're asking to bend over backwards for the well being of your penis.
And before you come for me - I've also done disability advocacy. But your lack of understanding of intersectionality in this particular area rubbed me the wrong way. This isn't a different battle. It's a subset of the same battle.
This is my point. I find this thread extremely frustrating for that reason. And it's practically impossible to talk about disability among escorts here or on any online space accessible to clients, because it's unsafe for these escorts, because it ruins the image that all escorts who choose this as a career have this all consuming obsession with sex and their main passion is pleasing men, etc. (which is by the way, not true! we might enjoy working as escorts very much, it works for us, but most escorts I've met had fascinating hobbies, talents and interests outside of this job, which only adds to the appeal of booking them for those who enjoy conversation)
Same thing with racism.. We talk a lot about racism directed at clients, but what about the racism that escorts who aren't white have to deal with? Even on this forum it's obvious that there's a lot of subtle and not so subtle racism in reviews and on other threads. (the fetishization of women of a certain race is a major one...)
