Conversations and communication across age groups

[urquell]

This may be more for the SPs as they probably more routinely talk to people in different age groups but I'm sure it applies to some of the men too. What do you find are the biggest differences in the ways that different age groups talk to you as an individua? Of course everybody is different and individuals break the mold routinely, but generally speaking how would you characterize the differences? Are the differences tied to use of language? Cultural references? Perspectives n life/relationships? all of the above? other factors?

There is a reason I'm asking this but I don't want to skew any responses so I'll save that until later,.

 

[LeDodo]

I have a rather "young" mindset as I like to keep updated about trends of any sorts.
It can be either slangs, music, that allow me to find a connection with someone and create a bond.
Currently at work it's a tech company so predominantly younger population and it's always interesting to see the different codes that revolve.
Not only in term of age gap but culture gap as there are colleagues from around the world.

Luckily for me I lived in different countries and it gave me lot of exposure to different cultures and languages. It also allowed me to adapt to the local mold.

I would say that language is also a culture and vice versa. When you are able to make very specific references or even speak the language this is what allows you to enter the circle and be part of the community.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

As it pertains to merb, I believe that most of our disagreements are generational (i.e. younger members vs older members). More specifically, there are studies that show that younger men, on average, have more positive attitutes towards younger women than older men do. In my experience, this effect could be the source of many disagreements on this platform.

 

[STAEDTLER]

You all have heard the expression: ''lost in translation''
IMO, communication (that goes both ways) and I mean real communication, verbal and non verbal is one of the most challenging thing in life. Wether it's related to our personal, sentimental or working space, misunderstanding is always ready to jump in.
Now when you ad generation gap and this new vector of comminication called ''social media'', it could get even more tricky.
After I've said all that: I still believe one can make it happen. One need to be vigilant, respectfull and have some degree of understanding and I not mean university degree
Have all a good day.

 

[urquell]

As it pertains to merb, I believe that most of our disagreements are generational (i.e. younger members vs older members). More specifically, there are studies that show that younger men, on average, have more positive attitutes towards younger women than older men do. In my experience, this effect could be the source of many arguments on this platform.

You all have heard the expression: ''lost in translation''
IMO, communication (that goes both ways) and I mean real communication, verbal and non verbal is one of the most challenging thing in life. Wether it's related to our personal, sentimental or working space, misunderstanding is always ready to jump in.
Now when you ad generation gap and this new vector of comminication called ''social media'', it could get even more tricky.
After I've said all that: I still believe one can make it happen. One need to be vigilant, respectfull and have some degree of understanding and I not mean university degree
Have all a good day.

I wasn't really talking about disagreements so much, although certainly there are some. I was referring more about how communication styles need to adapt based on who you're talking to. Presence or absence of slang and cultural expressions, approach to emotion and life experience, point in life etc. Also, even people the same age may have communications issues based on being immigrants or not, different social and educational paths etc etc. I was having a discussion with someone about overcoming hurdles in creating common ground for communication, as well as some specific points I won't mention yet. It occurred to me that SPs have to create temporary social lubrication and convergence, and to a lesser extent so do mongers. I wanted to ask about how people adapt in order to have good social relations. The generation gap and the stereotypes about older/younger/screaming at clouds whatever truly wasn't where I was going with that.

 

[twenty4seven]

This may be more for the SPs as they probably more routinely talk to people in different age groups but I'm sure it applies to some of the men too. What do you find are the biggest differences in the ways that different age groups talk to you as an individua? Of course everybody is different and individuals break the mold routinely, but generally speaking how would you characterize the differences? Are the differences tied to use of language? Cultural references? Perspectives n life/relationships? all of the above? other factors?

There is a reason I'm asking this but I don't want to skew any responses so I'll save that until later,.

There's def a generational language difference for everyone just based on slang and referential topics (esp. pop culture, politics, etc) but I don't notice it much bc after so many years in sales I match-and-mirror without thinking about it now. If they are more explicit in their language, so am I. If their posture is relaxed, so is mine. Same way ppl from different cultures code-switch around other people.

I think it's one of the things that differentiates a good provider from a great one. A good one is adept at all things sexual and conversational. A great one will match your tone and body language quickly so you feel more 'connected,' allowing you to relax and unburden easier, without having to 'put on airs.'

 

[urquell]

I think it's one of the things that differentiates a good provider from a great one. A good one is adept at all things sexual and conversational. A great one will match your tone and body language quickly so you feel more 'connected,' allowing you to relax and unburden easier, without having to 'put on airs.'

100% agree with this. I really think people focus way too hard on looks. Still, we're saying "what" and I was more asking "how"

 

[LC18]

I still don’t know what 6-7 is about

 

[LeDodo]

I still don’t know what 6-7 is about

Fortunately you can live without knowing it!

 

[Giselle Montreal]

as well as some specific points I won't mention yet.

There is a reason I'm asking this but I don't want to skew any responses so I'll save that until later

I don't see why you wanted to wait before expressing your thoughts, it would be useful to guide this conversation. Especially since no one seem to exactly understand what to say. Otherwise, you'll find your thread in page-3 tomorrow.

 

[Verbal Kint]

Humans will go where they have interest!

Age gap, sexes, values, occupations, doesn't matter. If you have common interests; communication will be much easier. Openness to create new interest is a tricky part. Openess to show one's interest without fear of judgement, is another!

As a mental image:
Take music for example. How many of us, grew up listening to 80's, 90's music and are reticent to find something new. Or listen to new era music and just dont connect to it. Same is true in reverse. Some kids might like oldies, but some might say:
《Did you use to listen, that Beastie boys album on a gramophone back then boomer?》

Interest(s).
Open mind.
Empathy.
Timming.

 

[urquell]

I still don’t know what 6-7 is about

apparently it's not about anything and refers to nothing in particular. I have trouble understanding why some of this becomes a "thing" or how they even come about in the first place At least the whole "lava chicken" thing actually referred to something. I console myself by knowing that it's mostly young kids that do it and why kids do stuff is a mystery to adults, always has been and likely always will be. lol

I don't see why you wanted to wait before expressing your thoughts, it would be useful to guide this conversation. Especially since no one seem to exactly understand what to say.

I did provide some guidance in post 5, as well as a general framework as to how it came about. I just left out the details of the actual conversation for my own reasons which shouldn't affect people generally, and which I can add in later. It should be enough for discussion purposes. Whether people are interested in it or not may be a different story, but I've long resigned myself to the fact that what interests me may not be of interest to everyone else and if that's the case then that's the way it is.

 

[Julia Sky]

From what I understood, 6-7 started because someone asked NBA player LaMelo Ball how tall he is and he said "6 7" with the hand gesture. No idea why the young ones went crazy about it but here we are. Lol

 

[LeDodo]

From what I understood, 6-7 started because someone asked NBA player LaMelo Ball how tall he is and he said "6 7" with the hand gesture. No idea why the young ones went crazy about it but here we are. Lol

Yeah it's a video of a high school basketball game where a kid did the famous gesture saying it when the score reached 6-7 lol