I don't want to participate in a debate on this forum anymore but I just want to clarify a few things, to the poster above, people do not ''develop a borderline personality disorders'' in adulthood, it has genetic components and is usually diagnosed in teenage years and early adulthood. Things can be comorbid.
I also think discrimination against people with disabilities has no place in any industry, but I'm wondering if similar accommodations and acceptation would be provided for escorts and other sex workers who struggle with either visible or invisible disabilities and chronic illnesses. Obviously no one with a severe physical disability is capable of being a provider, but a lot of escorts have invisible disabilities and joined the industry for this specific reason. I'm wondering if the same empathy is would be extended to them if that was known by clients, employers and colleagues or if it usually is..
Also when it comes to accommodating special needs, there are specific things to keep in mind.. Dealing with individuals who have certain types of disabilities and health problems might require special knowledge or training, and the sex industry isn't the same as the medical industry. It would be great if some providers were specialized in offering this type of service and I know that some indies have a training in nursing for example and might be able to offer a better experience for clients who have certain struggles. I've seen clients with disabilities who were either visible and invisible and it wasn't different for me, I even felt grateful to be able to provide that experience, but if I had to offer certain types of accommodations for someone that I have no training for, I would probably unfortunately refuse even if I wish I could..
The problem that's being named here isn't specific to the sex industry, it's a problem with society in general that doesn't see physically disabled, mentally ill, chronically ill and neurodivergent people as equals and as deserving of the same treatment as everyone else.
Thank you for your message — I genuinely appreciate the thoughtfulness and nuance you bring to this.
You're absolutely right: many sex workers live with invisible disabilities, chronic illnesses, or are neurodivergent — and
they too deserve empathy, dignity, and real inclusion. That’s part of a larger issue across society, and you're right to name it. The industry often lacks the structures to support both providers and clients who live with these realities — and that needs to change.
That said, most disabled clients aren't asking for medical-level care or specialized procedures. They’re asking
not to be excluded by default. There’s a big difference between a provider saying, “I don’t feel equipped to do this,” and an entire agency policy that silently filters out disabled clients
without dialogue or case-by-case consideration. That’s what I’m calling out.
Also — this isn’t about me trying to be “entitled” or dramatic. I’ve been transparent, respectful, and I’ve always offered to cover extra transportation or other fees. I live less than 15 minutes from the agency’s incall location. I’m not asking for special treatment — I’m asking for
equal access.
And just for context: I’m not a random anonymous voice. I’m an
active disability rights advocate, well known in the media, and I’ll be publicly sharing parts of my life — including my experiences within the sex industry — in a book that’s coming out this fall.
So if James thought he was just throwing “a difficult client” under the bus to deflect criticism — I’m afraid he might have chosen the wrong person.
Again, I appreciate your response. These conversations are never simple, but they’re necessary — and I respect that you took the time to engage with honesty and care.
