Are You a Sex Addict or an Explorer in the Sex Industry?

[Lunaseraphim]

I was not aware of that correlation, but I looked into and you seem to be right.

It may not be as obvious when it comes to sex addiction because it's not a substance, but each addiction has a similar effect on the brain.

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Here's an interesting article I found.. I'm out of this thread after this comment

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At the heart of this split is objectification: the need to depersonalize any others involved in the addiction, whether they be willing partners, participants whose consent is compromised in some way, images on a screen, or pure fantasy. Much philosophical ink has been spilled on the nature and dynamics of objectification, but what’s important in sex addiction are three features:

• the other is reduced to his/her/their physical body;
• the other becomes solely an instrument of one’s own pleasure;
• the other’s subjectivity and boundary integrity become irrelevant.

Objectifying the partner not only protects the addict against vulnerability but creates and maintains a power asymmetry that soothes the vulnerabilities of the past–at least for a while.


The problem with objectification is that, at some level, addicts realize they’re exploiting and dehumanizing other people. They push that awareness away, along with the feelings of guilt it arouses, but the awareness always rebounds, stronger than ever. Also constantly rebounding are the other unacceptable feelings: pain, sorrow, loneliness, fear, and shame. Eventually, all of these feelings become overwhelming.


Over time, avoiding feelings and objectifying others dehumanizes the addict.''

 

[Jordd]

I'm not claiming to be a dr or an expert but I've been to therapy (individual and group) for this stuff and have read a lot about it. You asked me to list what makes me suspect a client might be a sex addict and I answered

It was a compliment. I thought all of your responses were on point.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It was a compliment. I thought all of your responses were on point.

thank you! i wasn't sure, it's hard to read people's tone on the internet

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

thank you! i wasn't sure, it's hard to read people's tone on the internet

I would love to hear your thoughts on whether some service providers may be addicted to sex?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I would love to hear your thoughts on whether some service providers may be addicted to sex?

I would say that most of us are not addicted to sex..

I know a few providers who told me they used to have sex with a lot of men for free before they started, but they didn't always or even often enjoy these experiences. They were doing it to seek validation and confused sex with love. I'm not sure if that's the same thing as sex addiction.. In any case, that behaviour eventually stopped. For women, seeking sexual encounters can be dangerous and most people who are millenials and older were not taught about consent growing up. I think that because bad things happen to women when they seek sexual encounters, less women tend to be sex addicts.

And I don't believe women (and other people) generally become sex workers because they are sex addicts, or even because they love sex more than the average person.

 

[Nachoy]

Great thread. I value all points of view about sex addiction
Notice that men who have sex with men don’t really have to pay for it as often men who prefer sex with woman. I think it a supply -demand thing. In general. Men desire sex more compulsively then women

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Great thread. I value all points of view about sex addiction
Notice that men who have sex with men don’t really have to pay for it as often men who prefer sex with woman. I think it a supply -demand thing. In general. Men desire sex more compulsively then women

there are a lot of men who pay for sex with other men but they don't post about it on here i've had a lot of friends who were gay male escorts and the clients hire them for similar reasons as other clients hire women escorts. but hook up and cruising culture is present, so there's truth to what you're saying to an extent.

i'm just a bit tired of this narrative that men are inherently sex crazed and cannot control their impulses, because i think it's not true. i also don't like this narrative that men are entitled to sex and women nowadays are keeping it away from them on purpose for selfish and greedy reasons, because it's also untrue