Random thoughts (*rises from the dead*)
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A sort of "client hallucination" that I am observing occasionally on this board: the belief that escorts don't age or don't change over years. Often expressed as a surprise that service, appearance, or enthusiam is not the same that it was 3,5, 7 years ago... As if escorts didn't age like other people. I believe this corresponds to a tendency towards objectification of women that is present in some clients.
I'm wondering if anyone has bothered asking specific escorts why enthusiasm and service has changed over the years.
I suspect these things may not have necessarily changed, but rather evolved. Some may have become more selective, and less available.
Maybe the service has changed with specific clients because some things are no longer tolerated. I wonder what their role is in this phenomenon.
I don't exactly have the same outlook on escorting that I did 2 years ago, but I also think there are different categories of clients and some who can truly benefit from these services more than others.
But isn't it linked to the SP's experience? Meaning some services are tolerated because of less experience and the more you get the less tolerating you are.
Meaning that the pyramid of escorts from more experienced vs less is keeping that status quo
I think it varies, there are things I tolerate now that I didn't at all at first, but there are things that I don't allow anymore. Or it depends on my dynamic with specific clients, the energy they bring, their hygiene etc.
I think sometimes experienced SP's are more open to certain things, too. They are still here for a reason.
For me, it's all about respect, and I don't think I'm alone in this. There are certain types of clients I want to see, and some that I don't want to settle for anymore.
I'm also less likely to push for certain regulars to come back if I feel like the respect is not there and my energy is being drained for very little in return.
When you allow people you're not enthusiastic about seeing to drain all of your energy, you no longer have any for those who truly appreciate you or have the potential to be returning clients you would enjoy spending time with.
I think what I'm trying to explain is that it's a mutual exchange even if escorts are the ones providing the service.
This isn't something linked entirely to the SP. Mongers age too, both chronologically and in experience and their expectations and levels of measurement change. There is also a certain tendency to romanticize memory and to attribute more to the memory than the reality warranted. As Luna mentioned people evolve, on both sides of the equation, and it's not always realistic to try to recreate something from the past, especially if it was created in the feeling and chemistry of the moment.
When you come back after being away for a while this place seem weirder than before
Yes. Come to think of it, I've been looking at very old posts when I had a bit of time to spare. The atmosphere really changed over the years.When you come back after being away for a while this place seem weirder than before
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I have noticed the same thing. I would guess that the average age has gone down, and clearly, the average level of neuroticism has gone up (sign of the times).
I also have a hypothesis that the average age of clients (overall, not just here) has also gone down over time, which would be a reflection of the difficulties that young men are facing on the dating scene.
I mostly notice users who come across as being over 40 and often over 50. The younger clients who find me through review boards are usually not very active on them.
But I don't read all the threads and all the posts. I also wonder if maybe you're assuming some people are younger than they actually are, based on the way they write etc
I suspect that before the internet, it was extremely rare for escorts to have clients aged 18-30 years old. I also suspect that the share of clients that age has increased over time,
I don't think that's necessarily true, but we would have to ask escorts who worked before 1995 to understand that reality.
Honestly when I worked at massage parlours, it was pretty common for me to see very young clients, they would just walk in and often take 15 or 30 minute options. It's another client base and they don't use the internet to find sex workers.
I definitely think that because there's been a lot of sex workers rights advocacy in the past 10 years, there is a bit less stigma attached to seeing sex workers, so I think there's more men who normally wouldn't have hired escorts who do, and they kinda break out of the "typical client" mold.
I think this also depends on your definition of "younger" because I think in the past a 30 year old would have been considered un monsieur lol but now that's perceived as very young. Most 30 year olds were married and even had kids back in the day tho.
I wouldn't be surprised to find out that 25-30 year olds seeing escorts wasn't that uncommon because that's the age when a lot of men had their first career.