A survival guide for newbies entering the hobby & addiction

[BobKnob]

ExoticSpirit:

You can have it both ways, as long as you can keep the real reasons clear in your mind : SPs are for sexual advenures, fantasies fulfilled, experimentation, stress relief. Spouses/GFs are for long-term stability, sharing, romance, families, and of course sex (in an ideal world!)
I suspect most normal, mildly perverted merbites can distinguish the two "relationships" without blurring the line. Just don't fall into any illusions about a "perfect" GFE SP becoming a perfect GF At the end of the day, it is still about the money for "perfect" GFE SPs.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

ExoticSpirit:

You can have it both ways, as long as you can keep the real reasons clear in your mind : SPs are for sexual advenures, fantasies fulfilled, experimentation, stress relief. Spouses/GFs are for long-term stability, sharing, romance, families, and of course sex (in an ideal world!)
I suspect most normal, mildly perverted merbites can distinguish the two "relationships" without blurring the line. Just don't fall into any illusions about a "perfect" GFE SP becoming a perfect GF At the end of the day, it is still about the money for "perfect" GFE SPs.

So if one can keep the two types separated and ensure that hobbying will not interfere with the pursuit of normal long term relationships, then this may imply that hobbying not necessarily be addictive ...

 

[General Gonad]

So if one can keep the two types separated and ensure that hobbying will not interfere with the pursuit of normal long term relationships, then this may imply that hobbying not necessarily be addictive ...

I am not a proponent of long-term hobbying while you're in a committed relationship. If you need your 'fix' once in a while, that is fine but if you're constantly trying to lead a double life, it will get to you.

I have been going at it strong this past month (once a week, which for me is strong). I am getting ready for my break but there is always someone else I want to see.

Anyways, this may sound ironic coming from a cheating hobbyist, but there is nothing like a good, stable relationship. Trust me on this.

GG

 

[BobKnob]

Hobbyist addict

So if one can keep the two types separated and ensure that hobbying will not interfere with the pursuit of normal long term relationships, then this may imply that hobbying not necessarily be addictive ...

E.S.

Hobbying is not necessarily addictive, in the sense that you can't stop even if it causes severe financial or relationship hardship. As GG mentions, the risk exists.
A dedicated hobbyist should exert some self-control and keep the 2 type of relationships clear in his mind, to avoid a "sex-addict" trap. This is not an inexpensive diversion and indiscretion can ruin you. If you find yourself having daily fantasies and unable to control the impulse for a quick SP fix, probably you are in trouble.
BK

 

[General Gonad]

If you find yourself having daily fantasies and unable to control the impulse for a quick SP fix, probably you are in trouble.

Yes, frequently acting on impulse is a sure sign that you're heavily addicted. It goes something like this: you wake up and immediately check out the schedules at Celine's Fantasies or Eleganza; or you have lunch and rush off to see your favorite masseuse; or you call Devilish once you're done work praying that you'll finally have a chance to see Kim.

Impulse hobbying is not recommended. The urge is strong but you must resist and always remember that money does not grow on trees.

GG

 

[ExoticSpirit]

vacations

Maybe that's why those sex vacations are such a good idea since one hobbies only during vacations ...

 

[sekr]

An interesting topic indeed.
I must agree with the opinions that only YOU can know for YOURSELF.
Frankly, I would love to have a "relationship" with a cool gal. But I'm 45, and take on rediculous amounts of responsibility in my professional life. And it is simply unacceptable to not have sex in my life.
Especially when I am in the best shape of my life and things are still working.
I find the "hobby" to be rather empowering. As it is for many of the women I have met in this arena.
I need sex, they need money. If we can both respect, and even enjoy ourselves mutually, nuff said!
But I DO like the "10-15% of net" as a guideline.
Another way to think about it is that it is simply a matter of priority. If I had a kid, I would be committed to providing the best for that kid. Well I don't (mercifully). So I'll spend that private school tuition on ME. If a qualified candidate for "girlfriend" presents herself, I will gladly readjust my priorities...we'll see what happens while I'm up there next week